LAPIS LARSULI BARRIGA

LAPIS LARSULI BARRIGA

Basically, she’s Lars and Lapis fusion

Your words have been listened/read

First things first, listen to me. I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but I can tell that you are an amazing person (everyone is until otherwise is proven), strong, smart and very thoughtful too, so... GO KICK ASS ; )

Second: for this reason, NEVER STOP DOING WHAT YOU ENJOY (Because your fics are truly amazing ^^)

And third... THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS GUIDE.

It’s a great advise ;3

(I only hope no one needs it)

on my experience in the ML fandom and death threats: a fan’s guide to being a better person

When I was 21, someone told me to “end myself you attention seeking piece of shit” on Tumblr.

This came moments after I posted a true story regarding a classmate who proposed to me for a Klondike Bar during the Student Involvement Fair on my college campus. It was a quirky little incident that happened to me, and I wanted to share it. It’s a cute story, really. Except, someone didn’t see it that way, and sent me that message.

“End yourself you attention seeking piece of shit.”

Do you know what it’s like to open up your inbox and see that? And the only thing I could think is that “oh my god, someone wants me dead.” Naturally, I told them to “go fuck themselves” because what more could I do? I was shaken, you know? Growing up, people prepared me to deal with bullying and teasing, but no one ever told me how to deal with someone telling me to go kill myself.

Even now, at 22, it hasn’t gotten any easier to deal with. Instead, things have turned scary.

A while ago, there was a post going around talking about the incidents of homophobia in the Miraculous Ladybug fandom, and there was a ton of backlash from it. People were providing evidence and receipts of textbook instances of homophobia. A lot of people had stories to share, messages to show, things to talk about. But a lot of other people had things to say about it too.

When we showed the fandom the homophobia, and all we asked for was respect, people told us instead:

1)    “You can’t force your ship on people.”

2)    “You can’t expect people to like these ships; grow up and accept that.”

3)    “Why can’t you just let people like this one straight pairing? Why does everything have to be LGBT+ anyway??” [Newsflash: it isn’t.]

4)    “There’s no homophobia. You’re just overbearing fans looking for an excuse to cry about your unpopular ships.”

5)    “Just because people don’t like your ships doesn’t make it homophobia.” [which wasn’t the case or the point of the post in question at all.]

Regardless, this post took off, and people had a lot to say. I got involved because I’d experienced this, and as a queer content creator, I felt the need to share the news from my point of view. All we wanted was respect, just for people to listen. We weren’t asking for people to read our fics or like our ships or share our art. We just wanted to be treated kindly.

But things got heated fast.

It started with a simple message: “I hope someone kills you.”

Then: “I hope you get drunk and die.”

“End yourself before you look any stupider.”

“The world would be better without you.”

“Delete your blog. No one needs to hear this shit.”

“Go fuck yourself.”

“Die.” “Kill yourself.” “I hope you rot.” “Don’t wake up tomorrow.”

I had tons of messages like this that slammed all my social media at once. I don’t know who I pissed off or what I got into, but somehow they found me on Tumblr, Discord, etc. It was awful. It continued for a few days, and all I could do was block and hope for the best, but it didn’t work. They found new ways to get in touch and tell me the same things.

All I could do was ignore it and hope it went away. It didn’t.

To this day, I still probably get a message or so a week. Which, considering things, isn’t as bad as when it first started. But the fact of the matter is that it happens at all.

When I reached out for support from my fandom, begging them to stop, and to understand what’s been happening, not a lot of people responded aside from the friends I’d made or people who felt bad for me. Since then, I’ve been completely turned off from this fandom and the people in it. I have a tendency to lash out when I feel threatened because I never knew who sent these, and it could be anyone frankly.

But that scary part I talked about earlier?

It’s that I’ve grown used to it. Last year, when I received my first death threat, I was scared because I couldn’t fathom that someone would want me dead.

But now, I get these messages and I don’t bat an eye. I simply ignore, block, and delete and carry on with my life. Sometimes I think back to when it first happened, when crying myself to sleep became as commonplace as breathing, and I spent most of my day in constant anxiety/panic attack.

It’s gotten better—at least my reactions to it.

But what does that tell you, that I’ve become used to people wanting me dead?

All for a stupid TV show.

That’s what’s scary about the whole thing. No one should ever become used to something like that. No one should have to experience that in the first place.

So I ask you, no matter what you ship or what you like or what you don’t, please leave the shippers and content creators and other fans alone. They are not responsible for policing the content on your dashboard; that’s up to you and tag filtering or black listing. You are in charge of what you see, and if you find something you don’t like or don’t approve of, stay away from them.

They can’t hurt you. You can hide it and ignore it. Don’t send hate, don’t send death threats.

Because there are other people on that side of the screen. There are other people who might not be like me, who might believe you and actually listen, who might do something about it.

All I ask is you stay in your lane. Salt about this shit in private with your friends if you need to, but don’t take it to the fans themselves. Leave them alone.

And to the fans who might ship problematic things or have controversial opinions or whatever else is causing the fandom to flip their lids: leave those fans who don’t like it alone. Don’t go looking for the hate. Trust me, you’ll be better off.

So long as neither side engages, we’ll be fine. Treat other people with respect, know that there are a wide variety of people in this fandom who can like different things, whose views may not align with yours. Just be respectful, block and black list what you need to, and don’t get offended that people may not like what you do.

It’s really that simple. Sometimes staying neutral is the best thing. Ignoring things and moving on is also great.

So that’s all I have to say. Sorry for the 1,100 words, but they’re important. Every single word is.

I just hope people listen.

Thanks.

REBLOG IF YOU THINK BISEXUALITY IS VALID

I am proving to my biphobic family who claimed that I should “stop lying to myself and admit that I am either gay or straight”

-Imagine that you are dating someone, you decide to start a family with him/her despite not being soulmates, being pregnant and you only start getting older when your child is born/conceived. (because your child IS ACTUALLY YOUR SOULMATE)

-Imagine that you meet your soulmate but you really love another one. You decide to keep living with your beloved one instead of starting a relationship with your soulmate. Then imagine, you get old but your beloved one hasn’t met his/her soulmate yet. So he/she sees you die while she/he is still looking as an 18 year old. (The more I think about it, the more I think that would be REALLY sad , and the more I want to write a fic about it. Then I remember that my writing is kinda bad. )

AU where people age until they reach 18 and then stop aging until they meet their soul mate so they can grow old together.

Everyone has the date of their death tattooed on their arm at birth, however yours just says “TOMORROW” and has said that all your life.

Reblog if you think Jackie Lynn Thomas deserved better than what she got