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I Think It's Crazy How So Many Transfems Have Similar Stories About Tme People Ignoring Their Distaste

I think it's crazy how so many transfems have similar stories about tme people ignoring their distaste for Rocky Horror and I think it's wild how so many of us have trauma related to that movie caused by the people we saw as friends.

I think it's interesting that anytime transfems try to criticize the movie for transmisogynistic tropes, loads of tme people become combative, insulting, rude, they do not want us to critically analyze it, they do not want us to talk about it. I think it's equally interesting that if we then try to discuss the transphobia of Richard O'Brien, the creator, we are met with equal amounts of disdain. He has said trans women are not women, he has defended JK Rowling, but people will plug their ears about it. "He's nonbinary he can't be transphobic!" Or, transfems will just talk about the trauma of the movie, trauma related to the movie, there are so many joke posts about trans women getting forced to watch it by their tme "friends" and those are responded to with disdain and vitriol.

I have tried to rewatch the movie multiple times in the last decade, each time puts my brain back in that place where a cis woman friend who constantly talked about wanting me to be one of these characters for Halloween, betrayed my trust and put me in massive amounts of danger. When I watch it my brain goes back to the time I logged into Facebook to have some transphobe I don't know calling me FrankNFurter.

And it makes me wildly uncomfortable. These events in my life have just put a different sheen on the movie that makes it look so gross. And knowing I'm not the only one who feels this way about it so relieving, this movie held up as important LGBT cinema feels dehumanizing for me, and there's so many others that feel the same. But anytime we talk about it we are met with such contempt.

This isn't like, a coherent thing, it's just a personal rant. It feels so weird how tme people at large seem to walk over transfems over a movie. Which yeah yeah transmisogyny is a thing, but transfems not liking a movie seems so inconsequential. Why must we deal with the trauma of our so called friends not respecting our comfort, just to turn around years later and be ridiculed for having that trauma? It's just a fucking movie. And it has literally all the "man in dress bad" tropes we criticize other movies for. Why defend this movie to the death? It's just so annoying.

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9 months ago

I've noticed the way people talk about personality disorders and it just feels dehumanizing? NPD specifically, people make us out to be horrible monsters. No I'm not a monster, I'm just really insecure. But I'm dealing with it.

Pop Psychology is a two-headed dragon. On the one hand you have greater awareness made of lesser known conditions. On the other hand, that greater awareness makes you more likely to be made into a scapegoat but people who have this almost compulsive need to feel superior.

I distinctly recall the whole "Empath vs Narcissist" discourse years ago, which was largely some of the most self-aggrandizing bastards on the planet self-identifying as "empaths."

Brittany loved doing that shit.

That whole discourse was predicated on a false idea of empathy and narcissism as innate traits you're born with. In reality they are something you practice. The same holds true for most psychological disorders. You aren't born with them, they're inflicted on you.

I've said for years, the biggest issue with how we educate people about mental health is that the information is nuanced and complicated and you're trying to explain it to absolute dumbfucks.

Take the "Abuse victims often become abusers" statement people love to parrot whenever you criticize that narrative in fiction. The map of that extremely reductive statement looks like this:

I've Noticed The Way People Talk About Personality Disorders And It Just Feels Dehumanizing? NPD Specifically,

This is probably the hardest thing for some people to understand, especially as for many people their reason for coming to this conclusion is they tried to "fix" someone and got bitten for it.

But that statement at the top, that "short quippy and wrong" statement is a lot easier for the dumb or malicious to remember.

My personal favourite example of this is ODD, which is a diagnosis to categorize a child's behavior for further treatment, but which is treated by parents as a 'get out of parenting free' card. In spite of the fact that it may as well be called "Battered Child Syndrome" a lot of people think it's this mysterious brain virus that magically makes your child defiant. In reality it describes the very reasonable responses to extremely stressful external stimuli.

It's an almost universal constant of mental health. People will use your condition to excuse their behavior. Getting diagnosed with ODD as a child is just asking to never have your emotions taken seriously ever again. Except not really because your emotions were already not being taken seriously and that's why you have ODD.

Being autistic in the early 2000's meant your entire ability to function as an adult was dependent on exactly how lazy and stubborn your parents were, and getting diagnosed with autism meant your parents were likely to be MORE lazy and stubborn now that they have a diagnosis to weaponize.

Shitty people have always loved using your disorder as an excuse to be shitty to you, but without the disorder they would simply use something else.

9 months ago

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9 months ago

Wow. This guy is really annoying.

Wow. This Guy Is Really Annoying.

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9 months ago

Not to be a killjoy (though it is what I do best) but the unsafe and rough handling of a baby Pygmy hippo in a pretty substandard Thai zoo being meme-ed into something funny and cute really shows just how much groupthink plays into public perception of animal welfare.

Moo Deng shows avoidance, threat displays and stress around her keepers that are constantly man-handling her, blasting her with a hose and harassing her. The enclosure is mostly concrete, which is horrible for her soft feet. There looks to be some substrate but there doesn’t seem to be any areas for wallowing or deep water wading.

There’s also very easy access of this hippo to the public with no places to hide. I’d love if someone could shed more light on the enclosures but from what I’ve seen it’s not great.

Also the free contact and forcing into tubs that the keepers do is only going to create an avoidant and potentially aggressive and dangerous Pygmy hippo.

But the public happily overlook that because she’s cute. It’s a similar attitude with seals too.

Stop rewarding bad husbandry with clout. Baby animals deserve agency and respect and to grow up without getting harassed and feeling the need to defend themselves constantly.


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