THROUGH A RAPISTS EYES (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It May Save A Life, It May Save Your Life.)

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

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REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

LILITH

Who is she?

Lilith is the embodiment of your darkness. Darkness that lives in the crevices of our mind. Darkness that is evident in every conscious act you perform. From anger, frustration, ego and then transitioning to much more powerful emotions. The Trinity of Doom- Guilt, fear and sexual prowess.

When these three meet, it can give rise to a very dangerous mentality. Something you should be afraid of. But, rarely they all are equal in power. One is more dominant than the other. These emotions are a ball of energy, how they will be moulded would decide how they would be expressed and the after effects. However, if left unresolved and unnoticed, they would transform into something you can't control.

This is how energy works, you need to keep an eye on its level. Energy is never steady, it's always in a dynamic. Be careful of what you let in your mind and what goes into your psyche. It is said very correctly that you should let some things go.

Coming back to Lilith, she represents all those negative emotions bottled up inside you but you are unaware, atleast that's what we think. But time after time, they get projected upon ourselves. A part like this living within you, if underdeveloped. We do find ourselves telling, "I don't know why I acted like that", "I was acting out of character" and other things.

There is nothing out of character (certain cases might be different due to some other reasons). Lilith needs a way out. Needs to be expressed. Once awakened, it needs to let herself be free atleast metaphorically.

You would have often come across people in your life who had their Lilith prominent. Also, would have found everyone different even if the same placements and aspects. Because, everyone expresses it differently. Very few have let her take part in the creative aspects. Most of it goes in the promiscuousness. I'm not saying it's never like that, it's her nature, she will always be like this, but you need to find the diamond within the coal mine.

You need to find the actual meaning of her existence. You need to know the real Lilith, the purpose in this lifetime. Lilith didn't leave Adam because she didn't want to submit, it was because she was misunderstood and no one bothered to find her true desires, nature and the person behind the facade. Everything about sexual aspects! Was there was no effort made to get to know her ?

And isn't this what every Lilith person faces? Looked upon for what's on the outside yet no one even daring to explore the depths! Is intensity too much of a trigger? Betrayal is one of the key themes of Lilith's life. Everything Lilian has had those people who would run after her but show that she is the one running? Chasing? Sometimes not even acknowledging her, making things only about themselves. Wanting that validation!

Lilith just wanted to be accepted the way she was. Just like we are. We look for it in everyone but when we don't see the reciprocating energy in their eyes, we turn vengeful. Just like Lilith. This way we are justifying all the assumptions. That's why it is important to tap into this energy and channel it in a better way. Not because you want to prove something but because finally you have found the diamond in you. You didn't need anyone.

It's still a debate on whether she is a demon or not. She is not a demon, she is demonized. Eating children? Remember one thing if you hear the work mythology, everything has a metaphorical sense. This actually means that she preys on the naive. In a way, that she wants you to see the truth, no matter how harsh it may be for you, popping that bubble around you. She is a protector, sheltering you from the future damage. And this is a personal experience of turning a blind to everything.

Always respect her in every form. She is the epitome of dark feminity. Who didn't let "the glamour affect her sparkle". Who put herself first despite how difficult it was for her since she could have the life you dream of.

How she affects?

Another phrase you may be acquainted with, "Guilt is stronger than gratitude". Gratitude itself is a powerful emotion, then imagine how much guilt would be. If you ignore your Lilith, you let yourself in a delusion. A temporary thing, once you come in terms with the reality it would be too late. You would be left with nothing but guilt. This is an emotion which only a few highly awakened and strong people can get rid of. It would engulf you and trapping you there forever.

Lilith lets you stay out of this never-ending loop. She gives you everything you want. Popularity, attention, sensuality, unique features that stand out, and a lot of admirers. Due to the prowess inside you, you feel on top of the world. But don't let it get to your head because sexuality is double edged sword. It is given for you to feel powerful about yourself not for showing off and misusing it.

Many people do take advantage of this nature. Sometimes, purposely, sometimes a mechanism to cope up. To hide those insecurities. Ultimately, you are falling out of alignment with Lilith. Once in your life, you may have been in the best of this energy and then it was gone. This is because, you need to cultivate it healthily. Inculcate the values associated. You would not notice but everything would be back but even more enhanced. It may not be visible to you but others will see.

Additionally, you might have experienced not everyone gets hate because of being a Lilith person. Only a few manage to invoke extreme emotions. Be it be obsession, jealousy or hatred. This happens when in your chart you have really soft aspects or moon/venus influence + planets/aspects that make you happy/bubbly or a vibe like that. Like Mercury making you social, Jupiter gives that cheery vibe, Sun influence could be too but as a supportive aspect. The reactions would be crazy.

A reason for this is that Lilith gives a dark vibe, people thinking you're bad and dwelling on this fact. But you being a soft, happy, joyful and sweet just does something. It's something intolerable to them. It's never one thing that makes you reach heights or have the excess, it's always two. Two is a very tricky number and universe is made on the principle of two. It's the clashing energy that has power.

Tapping in your Lilith

Never go for the things associated with Lilith directly. You will burn yourself. That part is uncontrollable. Even if you achieve somehow, it would be transient. For the permanence, you would need a steering wheel for it. And that is you being happy, yes just happy, from inside and outside. Making the best out of whatever you have, being content with it. Working on self-improvement because you see your worth. Not letting anyone step over you and taking your advantage. Appreciating the small things. Not judging anyone, interacting with everyone, showing that you are there for your loved ones, helping the underdog. Always wearing a smile.

Accepting yourself and everyone in a way they are. Stop comparing yourself. Really trying to have a healthy mindset. A thinking that is for the better. Healing traumas. Not getting affected by what others have to say. Doing things for yourself. Engaging in some form of art, pursuing your hobbies which you left behind, letting you inner child free, breaking cycles, raising a voice if necessary. Respecting everyone. Resolving the emotions, leaving behind the past, working on your insecurities, spending leisure time, giving yourself proper care, directing the focus at right places.

Making it a life you always wanted, doing what is right no matter what it takes, seeing things the way they are, not twisting the opinions about others so they fit in the image, cutting negative people off, though it might be hard. Never ever projecting yourself and not letting anyone project on you. Awareness about your own identity. Not diving into the illusions, understanding the dark aspects of life, endowing good qualities, having a high morale. A standard. And accepting each and every part of yours and loving it equally. Being the empress.

Finally, having a healthy life style, leaving bad habits, connecting with nature, having a spa from time to time, using home made products, buying things from small business. Appreciating the beauty in others, a compliment can change someone's day. Putting out your art, expressing your thoughts, not letting anything simmer within, dealing with it as soon as possible. Just being your true self would do it.

It is not easy, hell this is hard but these things take time. Foundations need to be strong. This takes atleast 3 years. Because as easy it sounds, it's not. Negativity is always there, it takes a lot to be nonchalant towards it. To be able to take everything and channelling it into positivity. This needs mastery. Infact, the second time it doubles up the force so take it slow and firm. Do not pretend, actually doing things helps. Lilith is like Lucifer, only accepting the best. Show that you are ready, show how much will you have and how far you have come. Show that you deserve it. For you will become the Children of Lilith.

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This is my personal theory. This isn't meant to harm anyone's sentiments. Just putting my thoughts out there. These are just observations and experiences. Everyone has different lives and things manifest in different ways. The purpose is different too. Everyone has problems and no one can understand it. This is just for entertainment purposes.

Anytime I make an astrological post it's always gender neutral. I do not believe in sex/gender playing as much of a role as others might simply because energy isn't related to the gender/sex one has.

Plenty of men can be feminine and have the feminine traits talked about .

Plenty of women can masculine and have the masculine traits talked about.

People who are enby/ unaligned with woman/man can literally be either or just like anyone else.

Energy has never been about the physical body you have or what you align with. Its been about the way you are perceived and act in the world as a whole.

We need to drop this whole female/women act like this and men/males act like that bs because it doesn't acknowledge the reality of life.

I say all this to conclude with asteroids/planets have certain energies and anyone can have them. Their sex/gender doesn't determine if they only display certain parts. They apply equally across the board and it doesn't matter.

We gendered the planets and their energies not the planets actually giving off those vibes.

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