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As someone who’s new to the Stranger Things fandom, I’ve got to ask: have there always been this many Billy Hargrove haters or is it a recent trend?

This will probably get ranty and long winded, but I don’t get all the hate.

Yes, Billy did some douchy things in season 2. I like him a lot, but I can’t sit here and say that it was okay for him to yell at Max or threaten Lucas. Antis love to spout the tired old “he was a racist piece of shit” line, but there’s no proof of it. He never used racist language, and unlike the bullies from season 1, he never called Lucas racist slurs.

The Duffer Bros, who are shitty writers, wanted Billy to be a racist, but then Dacre Montgomery read the script and said, “No, I don’t want to say that and I don’t want Billy to be racist.”

When he tells Max “There are certain types of people you need to stay away from.” it could possibly be read as racism, but that’s a stretch and personally, I don’t see it. It’s never addressed again after that episode.

He’s an abused teenager with poor coping mechanisms living in an unsafe home. Of course he’s going to be an ass at times.

The worst thing he does in canon—literally the WORST thing—is beat up Steve. His actions in that scene were uncalled for, but Steve wasn’t innocent either. They were both out of line there. And you can’t fault him for his actions in season 3 because he was a puppet for the Mind Flayer. It was controlling his actions just like it did to Will in season 2.

Meanwhile Jason Carver held Lucas at gunpoint, beat the shit out of him and actually tried to strangle him to death. Plus, Jason lead a lynch mob in his hunt for Eddie, who had simply been in the wrong place at the wrong time. He said he was doing it to ‘avenge Chrissy’ but I don’t buy it. Given his actions towards Lucas, who he once viewed as a friend, Jason definitely would’ve killed Eddie if he found him.

Martin Brenner essentially ran a prison for children. He never actually cared about any of the kids, and his treatment of El was abhorrent. It didn’t matter how scared she was or if she didn’t want to do something. Dr. Brenner used her, and all the other children, for his own personal gain. Even his dying words are him trying to convince El that he wasn’t a bad guy.

Henry Creel was a straight up sociopath. I partly blame Brenner for his actions, but come on; Henry was killing small animals before Brenner started experimenting on him. He was abused at the lab, but he chose his path. Once El removed his tracking chip, he could’ve used his powers for good and helped the kids at Hawkins lab. Instead, he violently killed them all, some of whom were as young as 5 or 6. Then he tried to kill El, got banished to the upside down, became a literal monster, then started killing vulnerable and abused teenagers.

Yet Billy Hargrove, an abused teenager who Henry 100% would’ve preyed on if he’d still been alive, is somehow the most vile character on the show? Where’s the hate for Jason, Brenner and Henry?

I don’t get it. I really don’t.

I’m curious on your opinions, even if you strongly disagree with mine.

Anyway here's my opinion of the day:

If you only study witchcraft, you're not going to be the best witch you can be. If you're going to use herbs, study botany. If you're going to use meditation and mindfulness, study theraputic methods like DBT and CBT. If you're going to use astrology, study astronomy. If you're going to use cooking and baking and drinking, study gastronomy and mixology. If you're going to use crystals, study geology. If you're involving paganism that has its roots in a particular time and place, study their histories and cultures. If you're a technowitch, study computer science.

Science and magic aren't opposing one another, they work hand in hand. Only by truly understanding the world around you can you utilise it to the best of your abilities. There gets to a point where cutesy little affiliation lists and emoji spells on Tumblr isn't going to help you any more.

wow

anger is a valid emotion. don’t get swept up in the “peace, love, and positivity” bs that’s forced down our throats every 5 minutes. anger is the signal that someone’s tried us and that we need to either defend ourselves or gtfo of the situation if that’s possible.

people who anger others intentionally through words (for absolutely no reason) are equivalent to people who seek out physical conflict. are you going to just take random, unwarranted, physical abuse from a random bitch on the street who clearly has issues? i hope tf not. so why do so many of us feel guilty for standing up for ourselves against the “family” or “loved ones” who seek verbal conflict with us? we’re literally made to feel guilty for stepping into survivor mode - and defending ourselves from people who were threats to us - instead of stepping into completely-helpless-victim mode immediately. that’s why people with control issues try to break down our sense of self over time. for most of us, there was a time when we stood up for ourself against these people. and then a time when we grew tired and numb to their bs. and now we’re tasked with having to find our defences again. but we’re made to feel crazy or guilty for it, just like we were made to last time.

i guess i type this to say: you’re not crazy. you’re not problematic. that problematic ass family that you have is the issue. that dysfunctional person that you have to be around is the issue. you’re expected to be fully functioning when you’re around someone who could drive anyone to madness. because they’re mad themselves. literally. low functioning narcissistic people and abusive people especially. everyone can see that they’re not “normal”. you’re around the human embodiment of dysfunction but yet you’re expected to be a fully functioning human being? i don’t fucking think so. cut yourself some slack. you’re doing everything that you possibly can right now.

“milk is from bre*sts EW” “eggs are basically menstruation” “honey is bee barf yuck!!” do you guys ever stop sounding like 4th graders who think cooties still exist or what