Ryan Corr, Joanne Froggatt, And David Lyons / The Commons BTS

Ryan Corr, Joanne Froggatt, and David Lyons / The Commons BTS

My favourite respectful dynamic in HotD?

Daemon and Harwin.

They both loved the same woman, but they did it ‘respectfully’. In this essay I will…

Harwin saw who Rhaenyra was with, out in Kingslanding, and it was enough for him to know she was alright, taken care of. Neither was he upset, simply amused at their shenanigans.

Immediately after, they nodded at each other in acknowledgment

The way Daemon asked to dance with Rhaenyra at the wedding was respectful

Harwin responded just as respectfully, even if he didn’t like it

How Daemon talked about Harwin with Rhaenyra on the beach. There’s no other way to put it, other than RESPECT. “I understand he was quite devoted to you”. “At least I am allowed to mourn my losses”. I will forever love Daemon just for these words.

Just look at it, it's almost tender 🥺

‘𝚃𝙷𝙸𝙽𝙶𝚂 𝙳𝙾𝙽𝙴 𝚆𝙷𝙸𝙻𝙴 𝙷𝚄𝙶𝙶𝙸𝙽𝙶’ 𝙿𝚁𝙾𝙼𝙿𝚃𝚂.

i like hugs, and honestly i just. i think they deserve more love than they get. so here we go lads. i’m on a one-woman mission to revive the absolute love of hugs. as always!!! do NOT add to this list!! i will curse your crops and possibly your livestock!! seriously tho i might make a new list, so just. don’t do it. add a “+ REVERSE” to reverse the roles of the action!

LAST UPDATE:     10/06/22

[ LIFT ]:     sender, being taller than the shorter receiver, lifts them off the ground mid-embrace.

[ SIGH ]:     sender releases a soft sigh of relief the moment they have the receiver in their arms.

[ CHEEK ]:     sender presses a quick kiss to the receiver’s cheek on their way into the hug.

[ TEMPLE ]:     sender presses a soft kiss to the receiver’s temple while hugging them.

[ CROWN ]:     sender presses a kiss to the crown of the receiver’s head while hugging.

[ NECK ]:     sender reaches up and wraps their arms around the receiver’s neck when hugging them.

[ MIDDLE ]:     sender wraps their arms around the receiver’s middle while hugging them.

[ OPEN ]:     sender wordlessly opens their arms out to offer the receiver a long-awaited hug.

[ CRY ]:     while holding on to the receiver, the sender begins to cry into their shoulder/chest/hair (depending on height difference and whatnot.)

[ HAIR ]:      sender buries one hand into the receiver’s hair while hugging them.

[ CUP ]:      sender gently cups one hand against the back of the receiver’s head while hugging them.

[ ASSURE ]:     sender quietly reassures the receiver that everything’s okay while they’re hugging one another.

[ HESITATE ]:     startled by a sudden hug from the receiver, the sender pauses for a moment, before hesitantly returning the embrace.

[ CLING ]:     sender wraps their arms tightly around the receiver, clinging on to them throughout the embrace.

[ STROKE ]:     sender slowly and repeatedly runs a hand through the receiver’s hair in a soothing motion while they hug.

[ SPIN ]:     while hugging the receiver, the sender lifts them off the ground and begins to spin them both in a giddy, joyful circle.

[ FALL ]:     receiving a sudden and forceful embrace from the receiver, the sender stumbles and falls to the ground while still hugging them.

[ THROW ]:     sender suddenly flings their arms around the receiver in an impulsive embrace.

[ SPRINT ]:     seeing the receiver across the room, the sender sprints across the distance between them to give them a hug.

[ PULL ]:     sender physically pulls the receiver (by the hand or waist or arms, etc.) into a hug

[ SHOULDER ]:     sender buries their face into the receiver’s shoulder/the crook of their neck while hugging them.

[ WAIST ]:     sender jumps up at the last minute while running to hug the receiver, wrapping their legs around their waist and their arms around their neck as they hug them.

[ SIDE ]:     sender wraps an arm around the receivers shoulders and pulls them in for a side-hug.

[ GIFT ]:     while hugging the receiver, the sender slips something into their pocket out of the public eye. (FEEL FREE TO SPECIFY WHAT THIS GIFT IS!)

[ GUIDE ]:     as they go in for a hug, the sender gently rests a hand and guides the receiver’s head to rest against their shoulder/chest.

[ CHIN ]:     sender, while hugging the receiver, rests their chin on top of their head.

[ SWAY ]:     while embracing the receiver, the sender begins to sway in a slow, soothing manner.

[ COAT ]:     as they go for a hug, the sender opens out their jacket so the receiver can “share” it, warming them up as best they can while they hug.

[ HUM ]:     as they embrace, the sender begins to gently hum under their breath to soothe and relax the receiver.

[ CIRCLE ]:     while they’re hugging, the sender begins to rub their hand in slow circles on the receiver’s back.

[ SUBSIDE ]:     an emotionally distressed sender initially shoves and strikes out at the receiver, but collapses into tears after a few moments and sinks against them for a hug.

[ CARRY ]:     the sender pulls an emotionally/physically exhausted receiver into an embrace, then lifts them off their feet and carries them to a sofa/bed to let them lie down and get some rest.

[ COLLAPSE ]:     a weakened sender (either from exhaustion or injuries or whatever!) sinks into the receiver’s embrace, only to collapse in their arms, too weak to move. 

we’ve lost two employees this week at my work (one just straight up quit and the other put in his two weeks) and I’m about to hide under my desk because this means we’re officially at ¼ of the staffing we should have

so like thinking of making the Harwin Lives AU into a series because that would be great so i'm coming up with scenes to write

the boys reuniting with Harwin

him and Jace talking about the truth of him being their father

Harwin and Rhaenyra having a special reunion alone

his "surprise bitch" moment, coming to court with Rhaenyra and surprising Larys and Alicent (maybe Driftmark, maybe something else)

Harwin being there for the fight between Aemond and the others

discussion between Rhaenyra, Daemon, and Harwin discussing the new marriage plans

And of those three, Harwin was the one to both let her do as she pleased that night and not try to control her or tell her what she needed to do or manipulate her as well as being the one to give her comfort and happiness and companionship for the decade following her wedding.

It just struck me how all three of the men Rhaenyra would have relations with were seen during that single fateful night out on the streets of Kingslanding: Daemon, Ser Harwin and Criston Cole. Must have been an exhilarating experience for her.