I Relate To Dong Kyung So Much! If I Went Through That Much Stuff, I'd Write A Fanfic Too!!!

I relate to Dong Kyung so much! If I went through that much stuff, I'd write a fanfic too!!!

The day the second episode aired, my grandfather had passed away. Before that, I never used to watch ongoing K-Dramas. But I looked for comfort in this drama and fell in love. This drama was so beautiful, captivating and comforting, I can't describe how much I love it. Thank you to the writers, the directors, the actors, especially Seo In Guk and Park Bo Young whose chemistry really kept me on hook! Thank you so much💗

I START WATCHING: MONTHLY MAGAZINE HOME & YOU ARE MY SPRING

Both main lead couples are actors & actresses that I love so I was kinda excited watching their latest drama. 

There was quite the meme for Jung So Min in my local community stating that  her character in dramas always having house problem and consistently ended up couch surfing or freeloading in the male lead’s home, it has been proven true and I find this really funny lol. When I read the synopsis for the drama’s story line it gave me headache because they have a really long way describing the lead characters and their house problems. It was a great watch, they have a very fresh comical situations too, and I thrive on it. The supporting actor that I really glad to find in this drama is Kim Won Hae, his character here reminisces me of his greatest at Strongest Woman Do Bong Soon, where he portrays quite a queen bee supervisor and a head thug at the same time huahahaha. I love Kim Jisuk, but it seems like he does fare better when acting as Second Lead, or someone that is agonizing over love. I find his character in this drama not charming compare to his other works, but I will still cheering for him, and hoping that in the near future he could land a great project with him as the charming main lead that could exploit all his goodness. I find myself zealously waiting for the upcoming episode to be releases.

I just finished watching the pilot week episodes yesterday. I was completely betrayed by the very spring-like drama poster above lol. I find the lead characters in this drama rather boring and somber, but there are still so many room for development so I will be agitatedly waiting for the next episode. They have some thriller sauce splattered on big time on the dish (kinda remind of of Kim Dong Wook’ drama “Find Me In Your Memory”). The ending of the 2nd episodes bring so much questions on mind, really didn’t see it coming at all so I really wanted next episodes to air asap so I can have some clue on it. 

(…) It is here that children are given instructions on what it means to be human. We make men at it, we make women. At this table we gossip, recall enemies and the ghosts of lovers. Our dreams drink coffee with us as they put their arms around our children. They laugh with us at our poor falling-down selves and as we put ourselves back together once again at the table. This table has been a house in the rain, an umbrella in the sun. (…) - Joy Harjo

In my last post on Run On (I have so much to talk about with this show), I mentioned that I didn't want the romance between Dan-ah and Yeong-hwa to get rid of her "sharp edges" or something like that. After watching ep. 9, that statement was pretty unfair. I was nervous that Yeong-hwa's role would be to "tame" strong-willed Dan-ah. But episode 9 showed quite expertly that Dan-ah's bullishness is both a strength and a weakness. It lets her get things done (since some people in her personal life are especially incompetent), but it also gives her glaring blind spots. So far, I've cheered on her insensitivity because it was always in service of characters that I liked. But insensitivity isn't a good thing, regardless of what motivates it. Dan-ah is deliberately uncaring of Yeong-hwa's feelings as an artist (and as a person). She refuses to acknowledge Yeong-hwa's struggles. In this exchange, the uneven power dynamic between these two comes to the forefront. Dan-ah has the power: she's the all-powerful client, older than him, richer than him. She might genuinely like Yeong-hwa's art, but she's been using him for her personal vendetta against her family. It's interesting that Dan-ah goes to such lengths to separate herself from her pretty toxic family, while being just as self-interested as them. Her moments of altruism are always pragmatic (and if not, she deliberately frames them as such), and she refuses to extend help if she feels she can't benefit from it (she won't hire Seon-gyeom because of his assault charges). She proves she's a product of her environment, as she treats her relatively petty complaints with greater gravity than Yeong-hwa's pressing issues.

I really appreciate this because writing empowered women always seems to come with this caveat that they can't do any wrong, as if being a woman somehow negates the averse effects of power (at least from my Western standpoint). It's something that performative "girl-boss" feminism massively overlooks - giving women greater economic power is not going to stop power abuses, or give rights to other underprivileged groups, including women in those groups. Yeong-hwa's art has successfully dragged Dan-ah from her tower (she's now seeking him out, not the other way around), but once Rapunzel's on common soil, how do you relate to her? Dan-ah is more attractive in her gilded world where she gets to play the token good millionaire. Bring her down to earth, re-contextualise her in a grounded setting, and you realise she's still a millionaire, with all the pettiness and ignorance that comes with it.

TLDR: Dan-ah is a nuanced woman who is allowed to be flawed without making her weak, and her relationship with Yeong-hwa is starting to go somewhere really interesting.

Just let that time go. Don't try to grab onto something you can't. Instead, grab something that you can. Like this.