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I love being part of a system <- guy who hates being part of a system <- guy who loves being part of a system <- guy who hates being part of a system <- guy who loves being part of a system <- guy who

I wanna say this cause it’s been annoying me but systems are allowed to have fun. We’re allowed to make jokes about our disorder and have likes and dislikes and interests and hobbies. We aren’t entirely our disorder despite it playing a huge role in our life. If you guys have no issue with other disordered people making jokes about their mental illness, why is it bad when it comes to us? Why am I suddenly faking it if I make one joke about my disorder? I live day to day like this and, yes, it can be fucking debilitating and exhausting and painful and scary and confusing but it can also be fun and helpful and happy and relieving. Yes, having DID sucks, but if I’m gonna live like this for the rest of my life, I may as well try and make it bearable. It’s so incredibly ableist to think that I must be miserable 24/7 otherwise I’m faking DID. It’s like singlets WANT us to have terrible lives. Systems are allowed to make jokes. Systems are allowed to have hobbies. Systems are allowed to have interests. Systems are allowed to have likes. Systems are allowed to have dislikes. Systems are allowed to have fun. Stop reducing us to our disorder. 

endos, don’t even breathe on this post.

partner who never gets upset that you need reassurance when your insecurities get the best of you. partner who listens to your interests and supports you no matter what. partner who makes you laugh and smile even when you're sad. partner who misses you even though you just talked. partner who makes time for you. partner who makes all the love songs and books and movies make sense. partner who respects your identity and pronouns. partner who calls you pretty and smart even when its hard to believe. partner who listens as you ramble about random things that happened to you that day. partner who is so safe and kind and understanding and loving that they're who you immediately want to talk to when you wake up and who you fall asleep thinking about.

[Text: This system is non-human and introject heavy.]

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You’re not faking your system

Habits don’t change by accident, that’s the whole point of how habits work.

Sure, singlets have different personalities for different situations, but their gender, sexuality, favorite colors, etc, won’t change along with it.

If you made up your alters for attention, how come they’re thinking in first person inside your head where nobody else can hear them?

Denial is a totally natural part of the survival mechanism. Gatekeepers or other systemmates don’t want the host to know about the system until they’re ready. It’s a lot to take in.

You can’t fake a switch headache.

You can’t fake vertigo from height dysphoria/mis-match.

You can’t fake switching your dominant hand/leg/eye.

You can’t fake pesudomemories. Pseudomemories are just as real as “real” memories, under the hood. It’s all the same brain mechanism. They’re just as impactful.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of things in common. You already share so much.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of differences between them. It’s normal to have different races, animals, etc. The brain creates what it thinks it needs at the time.

It’s normal for alters to change and evolve, just like “real people”. 

It’s normal for alters to have a shallow or undeveloped personality, especially for fragments who don’t front much or only have very specialized roles.

It’s ok if you can’t tell who’s fronting right now.

If your voices sound super different in your head, but indistinguishable to other people, that’s ok. You share the same vocal cords, and you might have a shell alter acting as a filter.

Mood swings are one thing. If you’ve “always felt this way and can’t understand why you said you felt a different way earlier,” that’s something else.

Roleplaying with your systemmates in a fictional setting is a safe and healthy way to get to know them and to let them express themselves, especially when it isn’t safe for you to drop your external mask of pretending to be one person.

You don’t need to identify with everything on this list, or even with most of this list. Believe in yourself.

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Man, it’s hard being the sexy one, the bitchy one, and the only one who practices self care in this system of depressed assholes. But someone’s gotta do it and I handle it with grace - 🍸