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— Charles Bukowski, Screams from the balcony

No one is smart enough not to fall in love.

Author: Errol Zunic

The vibe emptiness gives us depends on how it's framed in time. An empty chair a loved one used to occupy - grief. An empty chair that a loved one will soon occupy - excitement. Funny how the same object changes as we apply various meanings to it.

I hate polite affection. It's best you either display genuine passion or true hatred. I shall even accept sincere indifference. But for all that is holy, do not smile at me out of duty. It doesn't make you noble, it makes you a coward.

“Which fictional universe would you rather live in—“ Star Trek. Star Trek. There is a correct answer and it’s Star Trek. “I want to have cool adventures—“ Star Trek. “I want to live in high tech but ethical peace and comfort” Star Trek. “I want to be a psychic alien—“ Star Trek. “But I want to do magic—“ do you know how much weird magic shit happens in Star Trek. Also Star Trek has holodecks you can pretend to be in Lord of the Rings or Star Wars or whatever and then come home to your usually peaceful interstellar community. There are basically no downsides to living in the Star Trek universe if you take the assumption that you remain you, a human living on Earth. You can join Starfleet or you can stay home and enjoy fully automated luxury gay space communism. The answer is Star Trek.

Eventually soulmates meet, for they have the same hiding place.

Robert Brault

Hidden depths of Jean-Luc's personality!

Moments in Star Trek I find very funny for some reason

please please please please reblog if you’re a writer and have at some point felt like your writing is getting worse. I need to know if I’m the only one who’s struggling with these thoughts

Inside Out if it was filmed inside my head

I don't know what's more heartbreaking: love that lasts forever or the one that doesn't.

Do we grieve for those doomed to always remember their one person before they go to bed, until their eyes find sleep for the last time?

Or do we shed a tear at the thought of someone, once loved, being forgotten?

Perhaps it's a relief to be heartless.

what part of “do not spend money” do i not understand

Dynamic of all time.

I only understood with age that love does not equal unconditional attention. You might love someone desperately and still distance yourself if they cause you pain.

Like ... I cannot help always being there for you when you need me, but damn if I hurt myself any more than absolutely necessary.

When you ask for me, I will be there. I will never play games or hurt you. I will do my best to support you.

But I will not be reaching out to you. There will be no begging for your attention. I will occupy myself with more relevant pursuits hoping that one day your carelessness will kill my love.

What's the single best frame in the entire Star Trek franchise? My choice⬇️

This is me btw

The thing about resilience is that it's not a character trait. You go through stuff and don't die. Then more stuff happens yet you are still somehow living.

So, FUBAR finds you alive because you made a decision to carry on.

“where did this weird trope even come from?”

well, statistically speaking, probably star trek

A customer contacted our team with questions, and then finished their email with: "I am daunted by the complexities and unknowns." I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since.

nyota uhura you will always be famous to me

How was Anakin Skywalker selfish and greedy?

When we love, we usually love in two ways

When we’re attached, that means we want to be with that person, and we don’t want to be without that person. Why is that? When we want to be with someone, that’s because they make us feel good. They’re beautiful, kind, smart, comforting, funny – we like them, we enjoy them, or more correctly, we enjoy these good qualities of another person, because they bring us happiness. In turn, we desire to be with them, so we can be supplied with the happiness, we can receive those pleasurable experiences. Is that, in our mind, a bad thing? No, it is not. But is that self-referential? Yes, it is – it’s entirely focused on ourselves, it’s the desire to make ourselves happy. And that is why attachment is called selfish.

Is that, in our mind, a bad thing? No, it is not. But is that love? No, it’s not love. Because love is unconditional, compassionate: we’re concerned about the well-being of another person, regardless how they make us feel. We want them to be happy, and we want them to be free from suffering. That is unconditional, compassionate love. It’s focused on another person. The core of love is being happy for another person’s happiness, to rejoice for, and rejoice with another person. It’s the desire to make another person to be happy.

So, love and attachment are two clearly distinguished relations to another person. And the main difference between attachment and love is, that attachment is a linkage to another person, formed out of the desire to experience the happiness ensued upon their company, upon having them in our lives, whereas love is unity with that person, birthed by feeling how they feel, their joy is being our joy, their sorrow is being our sorrow.

How attachment is bad?

Now, the question, “How attachment is bad?” is understandable. It’s generally considered to be selfish, but not self-indulgent, certainly not possessive, greedy or bad. The answer is that attachment, which is our striving to not to be parted from the source of our happiness, is in stark conflict with how reality is. The most fundamental truth that on some level we all know about the universe, and everything in it – all things and beings - is that everything is transient. Everything is constantly changing, moving from beginning to end, from creation to destruction, from birth to death, from meeting to parting. People and things will be there in our lives, then they won’t be there, because they’re passing through our lives, and life itself is passing through us. For this, attachment is grasping, grabbing onto the coming and passing things in our lives, wanting to have, to possess, to own, to keep them, so we can stay happy, whereas that’s impossible. We can’t hold onto things, we can’t make them stay, we can’t have them, they’re not ours. They have their own course, moving to us, then moving away from us.

And that is why attachment is greed: it’s self-interested desire for more of the happiness, that it was given, that it was possible to have, desiring things to not to move away. And that is why when we become attached to a person or a thing, we become afraid of losing them – we’re afraid to be without them, we’re afraid from the pain of not having the happiness they give to us. The greater the happiness, the more we afraid, the more we want to hold onto it, and when we ultimately, inevitably lose them, the more we suffer. And the fear of loss eventually makes us angry, especially when we lose, and we start to see threat to our possessions, obstacles to our happiness: we become jealous, we become hateful, and we suffer, because we spend our lives, all our happy moments haunted by the fear of loss, filled with anger and hate.

Do not think of extremes, like making a pact with the Devil to save our loved ones from death. Most of us are able to endure the pain when they slide, and not to go extremes, like physically forcing people to stay with us, becoming clingy, controlling. But emotionally, we grasp on the people we love: we crave the happiness they give to stay with us, we don’t want to be separated from them, and the happiness, we still hold onto them. We don’t let them go – we just let them tear themselves apart from us. And as a result, we suffer terribly.

But don't we all need attachments?

Now, our need for love, warmth, affection and security is at the foundation of our human existence. We simply cannot be without it, and that is because the core of reality is interdependence. This is how it is; we orient ourselves toward people to whom we can turn for emotional support, guidance, love, and we need such people to be in our lives – it’s a necessity, interlocked with, and inherent to being alive. But we must realize, those causes of our well-being that are around us – friends, family, pets, even objects - are too coming and passing elements of reality, thus, we can’t be attached to them, we can’t grow ties to them, founding our well-being on their temporary presence in our lives. (That's why Buddhism defies to label such emotional connections as "attachments," whereas Western psychology labels them as such.) As long as they're in our lives, we shall enjoy them, take comfort in them, love them, but we must accept, both in our minds and in our hearts, that we can’t hold onto them, that we can only long for them not to move away from us, that will lead to pain and suffering.

Letting go

And that is why we must cease our attachments, or in other words, to let go of everything we afraid to lose. It's not getting rid of the people or the things we love in order to let go of them - letting go is to loosen the fearful grasp on those we love, holding only very gently, and letting things flow, to come and go.

Fearless love: compassion

The way to overcome fear of loss, and therefore suffering, is to love compassionately, unconditionally. Love, which is compassion, which is wanting another person to be happy, and free from suffering, rejoicing for the happiness of others, is, by itself, a joy that we cannot get in any other way, a joy that we cannot get through having ephemeral things in our lives. It's selfless, giving, caring, protecting, without the thought of any reward, and as long as you love people compassionately, you won't be afraid of loss. And because change, and the biggest change of all, death will interrupt having, but can never interrupt love, in the moment you trade the love of joy for the joy of love, you shall find eternity. This way, you can let go those who you love to move away from you, when it's time, or when it must happen, because you can forever keep them in your heart.

我不要桃花

我要有钱花

我也得吃喝拉撒

谈钱伤感情

谈感情太傻

不如在家喝点茶

I'm not entirely sure it's love that compells grand gestures. Desire, perhaps. For an ego boost? Love sort of just exists. It's doesn't demand anything of substance from the other person.

You just stand there, holding it. Thinking of them, hoping they will be well. If they love you back, it makes you happy. If they do not, you have no other choice but to wait for love to run its course. Sometimes, it never does.