Reference Card To My Butch/femme Posts

Reference card to my butch/femme posts

Probably my best rebuttal of “Butch/femme are lesbian exclusive!” to date: A brief debunking and then the real question: Why is this lie being perpetuated on Tumblr, and not in other LGBTQ+ spaces?

Why LGBTQ+ people get agitated about “queer is a slur” and “butch/femme are lesbian exclusive”: It’s not just that you’re denying people the tools to say who they are; it’s that these phrases in particular have been used to perpetuate real nastiness in the LGBTQ+ community. If you don’t like the word “queer”, filter it or use New XKit.

The history of the terms “butch” and “femme”: They originated in straight culture (”femme” is literally French for “woman”; “butch” originally applied to very masculine cis men), became prominent in the 1930s-50s with lesbians and bisexual women, and then migrated into African-American and Latine ball culture and drag scenes, which include people of all genders and orientations, and have spread widely through every spectrum the LGBTQ+ community as well as retaining their meanings for heterosexual cis people.

Other people using “butch” and “femme” does not actually erase lesbian usage: If a lesbian has her birthday on October 15, other people also having their birthdays on October 15 does not erase her birthday.

Is using “stag” or “doe” as identity terms racist? “Stag” and “Doe”, as gendered terms for deer, are closely related to “Buck”, which is HELLA racist and was used to describe African-American slaves in 19th century newspaper advertisements. Some people might be personally comfortable identifying with them, but they should NOT be forced onto other people.

Yes, we know queer is a slur. That’s why we use it. Those of us who call ourselves “queer” are taking something horrible that’s been used to assault us and wearing it as a badge of honour. Instead of saying, “No! We’re totally normal!” we’re saying, “We’re different, and being different is not a bad thing.” And no, it’s not synonymous with LGBT or LGBT exclusive either. It’s a movement, not a demographic.

What’s the Alternative to Radical Feminism? A brief survey of feminist movements from 1960 to present, including how Radfem vs Libfem is so 1980s, and the rest of us have moved on to better things.

it’s cool that goth music is a thing I used to think goths just listened to the halloween sound effects cds they sell at the dollar store

Favorite video of all time, always reblog

Cis men (intersex or not) with breasts deserve to feel comfortable in their body as it is - without having to hide their chest or get surgery on it. They shouldn't be fed the idea that their chest is wrong or shameful, being told their only option is to change their body and that they should change it. It's not right.

They deserve to know that they're allowed to have the kind of chest they do, that they don't have to hate it, that they can be positive about it and like their chest. They should be allowed to decide what to do with their body without insecurity. Self hate and dysphoria are not the only option.

They are stunning and wonderful as they are, and deserve to feel good about their body regardless of if they choose to keep or change their chest.

Do not derail this post by mentioning another group. Exclus & Intersexists DNI.

my favourite roast of all tiem is ‘‘you look like pepsi max’‘

contrary to popular belief black cats are good luck actually because they are baby