This Isn't Me Doing A Bit Btw But People Really Want To Talk About "transgender Milfs" And Then Treat

this isn't me doing a bit btw but people really want to talk about "transgender milfs" and then treat trans women/fems who genuinely want to get pregnant and be mothers like shit.

like it's a really rough experience feeling that alienated from your body and desires and the amount of hostility towards literally just wishing you could be a mother in a specific way and being upset that you can't is really fucked. everyone is so fucking hostile and weird about bodily autonomy including wanting to have a kid.

like people act like transfems are delusional for wishing they could have kids and society treats the idea transfem uterus transplants as either a laughable joke or a disgusting perversion. like fuck, be nicer. treat them right.

God I think I actually prefer explicit fascist transmisogyny in comparison to the disguised dogwhistly liberal transmisogyny.

Like the people who openly call me an autogynephile and other various slurs and tell me to kill myself are at least being honest. They don't bullshit me about hating my very existence and wanting me to die.

It's all the faux-loving forms of transmisogyny that really make me angry. Like it makes my skin crawl in its dishonesty and hypocrisy. And it takes so many forms. Like the transmisogynist christian "hate the sin, not the sinner" approach where they claim to love me and just want me to accept Jesus in my heart. The necessary condition for accepting their version of Jesus however is me detransitioning, and that would kill me.

There is the terfy "people with gender dysphoria are suffering and they need help but we can't endanger women's sex-based rights for them." i've even seen in arguments about legal gender changes the following: "of course trans women deserve to use women's spaces, but if we allow legal gender self-id evil cis men will take advantage of that. So trans women will have to have their rights restricted." Even J.K. Rowling used it in her terf manifesto.

It makes one yearn for the days of the ur-terf book "The Transsexual Empire" which had the "shemale" slur in its subtitle and in which the author Janice Raymond argued trans women rape real women by the fact of their very existence. That kind of brazen transmisogyny at least had some kind of honesty about it.

There is also the transmisogynist callout culture fandom, or as the japanese fittingly call them: the american feelings yakuza. They callout transfems for problematic kinks like at least once a week but deny transmisogyny. "oh we don't believe all transfems are evil predatory sex perverts, it's just that this particular transfem is."

Their evidence for her being sexual predatory is that she ships two fictional siblings. Or in meatspace meetings, things like her having "bad vibes" ("bad vibes" or "gut instinct" are polite words for what more sensible people call "ingrained bias") .

And they suspiciously keep on making callouts for transfem after transfem in a neverending series, trying to ruin her reputation and socially exile her, but of course they are not transmsiogynists.

There is also the sofboi transandrobro type of transmisogyny. They spread the vilest transmisogyny but always falls back on a terfy bioessentialism to claim ontological innocence and perpetual victimhood in all situations. I've literally seen someone say "how can i be a misogynist, i'm literally afab." These people will not say directly "shut up about your oppression, stupid tranny", but say it in coded form. I had one guy traumadump to me about his rape in vivid detail to make the point that (trans)men suffer more and imply that transfems don't suffer from sexual violence.

And that's the crux of the issue. Open hate barely fazes me anymore, unless there is an immediate threat of physical violence. But being condescended to, being emotionally manipulated, being faced with people veiling their hatred of transfems behind a veil of superficially loving rhetoric, that does make me angry. And these people always use my anger against me. "Why are you so angry when these people are being so polite and nice to you?" And that's because the point of these rhetorical approaches is to have plausible deniability for your bigotry and make transfems look crazy when they point it out.

Yet it's the same bigotry as the explicit version, it's just more dishonest about it. Like if had the They Live glasses and looked at the rhetoric, it would just read "exterminate all transfems." All those polite liberals believe the same thing about transfems as the neo-nazis openly calling for us to be hanged, they just lack the virtue of being honest about it.

Genesis

people are really like, well what if a cis woman was possessed and inhabited by the soul of a trans woman that died tragically & who was haunting her or whom perhaps she summoned in an arcane ritual, and that cis woman now shares memories & feelings & sometimes even consciousness with a pseudoresurrected ghostly transgender babe. then can she call herself a trans girl?

please does anyone have a link to the edit made of the fnv ranger unification statues so they're cupping each others' nuts

If you happen to be reading this and are still confused, I have had two genital surgeries in my life, under very different circumstances.

the first was at the age of six months when I eas unable to consent.

My parents were convinced by surgeons that I would be unhappy with genitalia that didn't align with either binary sex as I grew up, and the best action would be to mutilate me and (poorly) hide the fact.

This was monstrous abuse and I am still deeply traumatized by it.

the second of my genital surgeries was an orchi this year. unlike the surgery in which I was UNABLE to consent, in order to get coverage I needed to get two medical professionals to consent to ALLOW ME to alter my body as an adult. Letters from cis people explaining I'm trans enough.

This surgery brought me relief beyond words, not to mention the fact that the surgeon was able to fix a painful complication of the first mutilation while he did my Orchi.

do you see why these are different?

so. i can't and don't want to 'control' how people feel, but i think if you are cafab & undergo medical trauma related to being intersex, you don't get to call that "growing up as a trans girl".

like. the forced testosterone puberty i went thru? that wasn't me being forced to be a trans boy. that was doctors forcing me on hormones to 'correct' my camab body. in fact, nothing that doctors did to my body without my consent as a child was trans, and i think it would be incredibly fucking disrespectful to call it that. to all trans people. to say that this lack of autonomy, this forced medical treatment, is to be called a transgender experience. like i simply do not think that is at all fair and i think it's really fucked up and transphobic AND intersexist, actually.