During The Most Poor And Homeless Period Of My Life, I Had A Lot Of People Get Angry With Me Because

During the most poor and homeless period of my life, I had a lot of people get angry with me because I spent $25 on Bath and Body Works candles during a sale. They couldn’t comprehend why the hell I would do that when I had been fighting for months to try and get us on our feet, afford food, and have an apartment to live in.

Those candles were placed beside wherever I slept that night. In the morning, I would move them and set them wherever I’d have to hang out. At one point I carried one around in my purse - one of those big honking 3-wick candles. I never lit them, but I’d open them and smell them a lot.

I credit that purchase with a lot of my drive that got me to where I am today. I had been working tirelessly, 15+ hour days with barely any reward, constantly on the phone or trying to deal with organizations and associations to “get help at”. It’d gone on for almost a year by the end of it, and I was so burnt out, to the point that I would shake 24/7. But I could get a bit of relief from my 3-wick “upper middle class lifestyle” candles. They represented my future goals, my home I wanted to decorate, and how I would one day not be in this mess anymore.

When we moved into the apartment, and our financial status improved, I burned those candles every single day. When they were empty, I cleaned them out, stuck labels on them, and they became the starting point of my really cute organization system I had ALWAYS planned to have.

So whenever I hear about someone very poor getting themselves a treat - maybe it’s Starbucks, maybe it’s a home deco item, maybe it’s a video game… I don’t judge them. I get it. I get that you can’t go without anything for that long without it making you go crazy. You need to pull some joy, inspiration, and motivation from somewhere.

got told at lunch "you feel like Tumblr Incarnate" and i had to tell them i've been here for 13 years and counting. i was here three years before dashcon happened. i saw the mishapocalypse. i survived the gigapause. i've been here longer than the shoelaces post. i've been here since it was hipsters versus fandom and i played both sides extensively by overdoing the sepia filters on everything and making my own flashing galaxy gif edits for my fandom posts. i'm every tumblr. it's all in me

Guide to Bottom Harry Potter ship names & General Shipping Etiquette

LONG POST AHEAD!

WIDELY ACCEPTED REFERENCE GUIDE

ALLHP = Top Everyone / Bottom Harry

LVHP = Top Voldemort / Bottom Harry

TMRHP = Top Tom Riddle / Bottom Harry

SSHP = Top Snape / Bottom Harry

CDHP = Top Cedric / Bottom Harry

DMHP = Top Draco / Bottom Harry

SBHP = Top Sirius / Bottom Harry

Unlike Western fandom who chooses their ship names based on popularity and what “sounds better”, eastern fandom is more strict as it creates an environment where finding specific content is easier. If you are to use eastern tags, please respect and follow their system. Especially in eastern fanbases.

Otherwise, if you only want to use western tags over the eastern ones (just tagging Drarry aka the umbrella term, instead of tagging DMHP or HPDM), you are not required to look at this post. But it is very helpful when interacting with international / non-ENG fandom, and is just all around respectful to their shipping culture. Tumblr is a bit behind in terms of this, but it’s super prevalent in Twitter. They have these tags to avoid Top/Bottom drama and conflict with shippers who might not like their interpretations. It is to also find work they like / filter content they don’t like easier, and overall better to easily know someone's preferences.

Regardless of if I ship some of these or not, these ships are included because they are seen as “popular” internationally, and are active.

In Eastern fandom, these abbreviations are what is mainly used, but for specific tags in other languages, see below.

Below the cut are the shipping names romanized, and written in Japanese, Korean, and Chinese, along with the emojis. There is also a more in depth explanation about the shipping / tagging etiquette to use if you decide to use initials instead of just “drarry” or “tomarry”, explained after.

Romanized / Emojis

ALLHP = AllHari = All⚡️ LVHP = Voruhari = 🐍⚡️ TMRHP = Ridohari 🐍⚡️ SSHP = Snehari = 🧪⚡️ / 🦇⚡️ CDHP = Sedhari = 🦡⚡️ DMHP = Drehari = 🍏⚡️ SBHP = Sirihari = 🐾⚡️

Japanese

ALLHP = ハリ受 (means bottom Harry, no translation for All/Harry but from what I’ve been told, it’s a good enough indicator for all/hp)

LVHP = ヴォルハリ

TMRHP = リドハリ

SSHP = スネハリ

CDHP = セドハリ

DMHP = ドラハリ

SBHP = シリハリ

Top position fixed = 左固定

Bottom position fixed = 右固定

Top & Bottom fixed = 左右固定

Korean

ALLHP = 해리른 = 해리텀

LVHP = 볼디해리

TMRHP = 리들해리

SSHP = 스네해리

CDHP = 세드해리

DMHP = 드레해리

SBHP = 시리해리

Pairing is not reversible = 논리버시블

Do not like characters in the couple to be paired with others (no multi-ship) = 왼오고정

Chinese (some have 2 versions for traditional and simplified.)

ALLHP = 凹哈 = all哈

LVHP = 伏哈 = 佛哈

TMRHP = 湯哈 = 瑞哈

SSHP = 石哈

CDHP = 塞哈

DMHP = 跩哈 = 德哈

SBHP = 犬哈

Fixed Pairing = 不拆

Not versatile / Non-Reversible = 不逆

General Notes / Explanation:

First Name = Top ; Second Name = Bottom. Note top/bottom are PHYSICAL POSITIONS and should not be dictated via personality. Do not mix up Dom & Sub with Top & Bottom. There are sub tops, dom bottoms, etc. This is for the physical action of penetration. But while I say this, one cannot deny that people’s perceptions leak through in their interpretations depending on what top/bottom dynamic they enjoy in a ship.

Even if the content is not explicit, it is good to tag your content with the dynamic you prefer instead of tagging both, so your work will be easier to find by like minded people. Do not go into someone's post where they clearly tag an A/B dynamic and call it the B/A ship name: it is rude. A “Fixed Shipper” is someone who does not want their couple to be versatile or be reversed. A “Fixed Couple” is referred to a couple that does not switch positions— their positions are fixed / not versatile. The opposite is called a “Reversible Shipper” who likes a “Versatile/Reversible Couple”.

And now the question is: How would you show this?

If you are someone who does not mind switching, and you enjoy and eat ALL VARIATIONS OF IT, you repeat one of the names. Example: DMHPDM or HPDMHP in your bio. Usually shippers say ⬆️HP⬇️DM or ⬆️DM⬇️HP, but to show you like both you’d have DMHPDM in bio. Or if you use emojis, 🍏⚡️🍏 . This gets across that you like everything. Usually you will see in bios “I eat everything” or “not fixed” / “omnivorous” to indicate they like versatile all day everyday, don’t care for it or at least don’t have a preference. An example account of this is @yammyyml on twitter in the Genshin fandom. They have a very reversible ship (Wriothesley & Neuvillette) & the emojis (that represent the characters) in their name repeat, because Genshin fandom typically use emoji. But for art they post it depends, and so they use the tag they feel best fits what they want their art to be interpreted as. Sometimes their works are Neuvithesley, & some are Wriolette. Another account is an author I enjoy, who posts for a less popular dynamic & tags appropriately, while also being a very reversible shipper (see their bio). They don’t tag both variations on a single post— that would be called Double Tagging (more on that later).

And for if you mainly have one specific preference, but sometimes you’re ok with the reverse, but not so much to the point you eat everything from it: typically people will put a fixed ship name and then say “reversible ok” after in their bio.

Example: Instead of DMHPDM (aka versatile all day every day drarry)

You can do DMHP 🔄🆗 (shows you have a main preference ⬆️🍏⬇️⚡️ and typically only want that, but you’re also “Okay” with reverse). The “Okay” ranges from everyone. But from what I’ve seen, typically people usually create with one side tagged and post for it only.

Like they post DMHP & everything they create is DMHP artwork, tagged as DMHP only. But because their Bio says “🔄🆗” they might rt reverse, or interact with reverse content, but not necessarily create it themselves. Sometimes they do, but it’s rare.

If they did it regularly they’d usually do the repeat a name thing.

So— do you mainly like Everyone x Bottom Harry but are Ok with some pairings where he tops? Your bio would be AllHP 🔄🆗 / All⚡️ 🔄🆗. Or what if you only like Top Harry x Everyone? Your bio would be HPAll / ⚡️All. You don’t care? Your Bio would be AllHPAll / All⚡️All. It’s the same for any character— you like Draco topping everyone? Then DMall / 🍏all. Etc, etc…

Double Tagging is something common in western fandom, where they put two opposing tags together. Example: tagging a post as “DMHP” AND “HPDM”. Why is this a problem? Those are both FIXED tags. DMHP is the tag for Top Draco and Bottom Harry Only, and HPDM is for Top Harry & Bottom Draco Only. People who only like DMHP will see HPDM in their fixed tag when it’s not supposed to be there, and the same goes for people who like the opposite. This is rude and heavily discouraged, since those tags are for the shipping dynamics that don’t include reverse; it is considered mistagging. If you like reversible / don’t mind t/b dynamics at all, you do as stated earlier with repeating a name. (DMHPDM, Sasunarusasu, kaeluckae, etc.). Apologies if this section is confusing; hopefully my thoughts in this tweet to another person should also explain a little better. Moving on:

Saying you like TMRHP (fixed Top!TMR x Bottom!HP ship name), when you actually prefer Top!HP / Bottom!TMR, is seen as being deceitful since you are misusing tags. Just say HPTMR (only like Top Harry x Bottom Tom) or TMRHPTMR (you like everything) or HPTMR 🔄🆗 (prefer Top Harry x Bottom Tom, but you don’t mind reverse). You may also use emojis (⚡️🐍) as well. Keep in mind that that for Harry Potter fandom this is only for Abbreviated Initials usage & not the “umbrella term” like drarry or tomarry, as stated earlier.

Anyway: Do not use a fixed ship name because it’s “popular” like tagging something as bakudeku (bakugou x deku from MHA) when all your nsfw and your preferred dynamic is dekubaku. A lot of Eastern side fans prefer not to interact with Western side because of all the mistagging and differences in shipping culture, especially since a lot of people view it as “dumb” and, for some reason, “homophobic” & non existent (IRL people have strict t/b preferences too), when it is all just for ease of filtering / finding things easier.

And for the reversible shippers: how does this help? Speaking as someone who also enjoys reversible pairings & versatile favorite characters (though none in Harry Potter) there are times when I may be in the mood for one dynamic over the other. This especially helps if the one you like might be less popular— you can go into the other fixed tag for more of that less popular dynamic. The reversible accounts I shared as examples are also able to garner fans of the less popular dynamic & still enjoy both, tagged properly as well.

Hope this helps, this post was made just so I’d have a place to look at all the ship names and copy / paste the translations into search engines to find work from International fans easier haha.

Thank you to all my friends who helped with translations 🥺

Twitter credits of People who helped

Japanese - @joouheika_LE

Korean - @eodumn & @Whatever_Ten

Chinese - @wyshieh007

still absolutely cannot wrap my head around how ppl are not condemning the iof and calling for a permanent ceasefire even after the news broke out about hind. she was six years old. trapped inside a bombed car where five of her relatives are martyred. iof tanks laid siege on a six year old girl calling her mom for help. because she was scared and alone and starving. iof waited until the paramedics came to save hind and killed them all. remember hind. remember yousef. remember ahmed. death to israel. ceasefire now.