Egg Onbert

Egg Onbert

I have the increasing urge to make a satire TikTok account where I make edits of joe biden and trump to Chappel Roan songs

I think more people need to acknowledge how transmascs being told to shut up about our oppression mirrors the stereotyping we go through as submissive individuals, which mirrors the misogyny cis women face. Does "shut up and look pretty" ring a bell to anyone?

The queer community as a whole has never seen us as real men, we're cis men's "better" counterpart because we're submissive, we're weak, we're fragile. We're all the things misogyny says women are, because they still see us as womanly. I'm so often forced into a submissive role because of my existence as a trans man, even within the queer community. I'm forced into these roles that have been historically stereotyped as women's roles because I am still conceptualized as being a woman. And so often I am afraid to stand up for myself within queer spaces because I know once people stop seeing me as a submissive (womanly) trans man I become a problem. Because dominance is associated with manliness. Dominance means I've accepted fully the mantle of being a man and that means I am now scary. I am now a problem. I am now a danger. I cannot be angry, I cannot be hurt, because if a trans man shows anger, he becomes scary. I am no longer the queer standing up against oppression, I am an angry man, which is a monster to be feared.

Now, people seem to believe misogyny is only directed at women. Cis women experience misogyny because they are women. Trans women experience misogyny because they are women. However, people can't accept that trans men face misogyny even as trans men (or cis men experiencing it, as a matter of fact). To other people, once we take the term "man" to refer to ourselves, we've lost our ability to experience misogyny. Because not only are we no longer women, we have renounced womanhood. We are the "Least Woman" (as cis men could discover they're actually trans women!). Which ultimately makes it taboo to say that we're still treated as women, we still experience misogyny, even within queer spaces. If people believe we are the Least Woman, how can we experience misogyny? How can people treat us like women?

And yet... if people don't treat us like women, if we don't act like women, we aren't allowed within their spaces. Queer and non-queer alike.

Anyway, rant over. Have a good one. Sending love and positive vibes to all you queer and non-queer folks out there.

Being physically disabled really interferes with your ability to get mental health help. One of the biggest barriers to me doing voluntary inpatient when I'm in crisis is my wheelchair.

If you call for help the ambulance (or in some cases police) who come to transport you often aren't able to take a wheelchair. Ambulances usually don't have wheelchair ramps. If your chair is too big or too heavy they'll definitely leave it behind, sometimes they leave it behind even if it's easy to bring.

I get free transportation to medical care through my insurance so I could use that. However, my issues don't stop once I arrive at the door. Mental health professionals aren't trained to deal with physically disabled people. They don't know the difference between giving up and accepting your limits. They don't know not to push us to "get better". Especially with my illness being contested I worry I'll be denied accomodations for my disability. I worry I'll have my wheelchair taken away, be forced to stand and walk, be forced to exercise, and not allowed to rest. This is something no one should have to worry about, but it doesn't change the fact that a lot of inpatient programs get away with abusing and ignoring the needs of patients.

Physical disability really brings out a lot of issues with current inpatient programs, mainly that they assume patients are non-compliant for no reason even when the patient is there voluntarily. Inpatient would be much safer for physically disabled people if mentally ill people, regardless of how unable they seem as far as making medical decisions for themselves, could say "that's going to hurt me" or "that's not going to help me" about a particular treatment and be believed.

*OP has trauma regarding suicide. Please do not leave descriptions of suicidality in replies, reblogs, or tags, or make jokes or serious statements about planning suicide. Please do not ask it for peer support regarding suicidality.*

Sep. 9th 2024