Bell Says That, For Many Young People In A Similar Position To Her Own, Regret Is Really What Were Talking

Bell says that, for many young people in a similar position to her own, “Regret is really what we’re talking about, as opposed to detransition itself, which has an abstract sort of meaning, and people interpret it in different ways. 

“There are people that are technically still transitioned, who have those regrets, and they wouldn’t dare mention it. So it’s a much bigger issue than people realise.

“It can be painful for people to turn back. And I don’t think a lot of people will. They’ll continue with it out of fear. People wouldn’t dare speak up because suddenly they’d be called transphobic and ousted from their friendship group.” 

She adds that it is not only trans rights campaigners who can cloud the conversation. “In an ideal world I would want political influence to be taken out of these services that are dealing with vulnerable people,” she says. “I worry about political influence on both sides. The trans rights side and the people that are more focused on women’s rights, which can sometimes get in the way of real care in this sort of area.” 

Today, Bell, who has been so honest about what she has been through, is now trying to spend some time out of the limelight. 

“I want to feel I’m in a bit more of a stable place. But I’m making moves. I don’t want a crazy life. My life has been so up and down, from a young age, so I’m just trying to find peace. It’s a work in progress.” (x)

thinking of detransition? you are not alone

it feels like a lot of the time people will use 'you're x-phobic' as a 'gotcha' and a way to be like 'if you don't do what i WANT you to do, you're being a BAD PERSON and EVERYONE WILL KNOW' rather than... genuine want for someone to change or question their views. it's so much mindfuckery.

It sure can be. People can't talk about some things with even a little nuance.

Postmodernist’s Post-mortem

i think people who have a very “oppression olympics” type mindset where privileged and oppressed are a strict dichotomy where privileged = bad and oppressed = good are susceptible to perpetuating other types of bigotry than those they are affected by because they have an instinctive rejection of anything that could in any way imply they have some type of “privilege” (and thus are part of the Bad group)

“You don’t have to transition you can just be an effeminate man!” is the funniest take to see constantly on tumblr because that is literally word for word what my conservative catholic parents tried to tell me to stop me from transitioning. Are you sure that’s who you want to be agreeing with?