Anyone Ever Have To Remind Yourself That Its Okay That Your Closest Friends Have Other Friends And That

Anyone ever have to remind yourself that it’s okay that your closest friends have other friends and that they’re not gonna ditch you for their other friends because you’ve had “friends” like that before so you’re trying not to be clingy and remind yourself that it’s okay. Anyone? Idk what to call this... probably trust and abandonment issues...

Things to Say to Someone in Top Drop/Dom Drop

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Dominants in drop require the same kind of care as subs, but a different kind of reassurance.

I’ve never been so offended in my life

(Found on @ foreignlanguagecollective on IG)