Begging People To Remember That Queer-platonic Relationships Are Not One Specific Type Of Relationship,

begging people to remember that queer-platonic relationships are not one specific type of relationship, it’s any relationship between people who choose to queer expectations around what platonic means. queer-platonic relationships don’t need long-term commitment, queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be prioritized over other types of relationships, queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be “pure” (aka sexless, we know what yall mean by that /neg), queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be anything in particular, that’s the fucking point.

that’s why, i’m gonna be honest with you, i’m very confused at what queer-platonic attraction as a concept could possibly be cuz every queer-platonic relationship is going to be different, including in types of attractions involved (or lack thereof). the only way i could make sense of it is like as a type of attraction that makes you want to diverge from social normal around platonic attraction, but that is just not the definition it has at the moment.

that’s also why i’m confused with any posts that talks about queer-platonic relationships as if they’re like.. one thing. one universal experience for anyone who has them. they are not.

i could fuck nasty with a friend for two weeks, never do it again and it’d be a queer-platonic relationship. i could (hypothetically, i actually could never) spend the rest of my life raising a child with a friend, completely sexlessly and romancelessly, and it’d also be a queer-platonic relationship. hell, i could choose to schedule completely silent cuddling sessions with people i barely know once a month like it’s a business meeting and it could still be a queer-platonic relationships.

anyways, please read up on relationship anarchy if you haven’t already 🙏

For me being in a qpr lately is like. No we're not dating. Yes this is my boyfriend isn't he great and lovely and handsome aren't I lucky. No I don't want anyone to mistake us for romantic partners. Yes I want to marry him. No we're not "just friends". Yes I don't want people to think our friendship matters less than our love. No I don't care what people think. Yes I want you to know that we're each other's and each other's alone. No I've never had a crush on him. Yes, I love him with all my heart and soul.

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can we deromanticize kissing or are we still too deep in amatonormativity for that conversation :/ ?

Every day my relationship with the word “love” and what it means gets more complex and more impossible to explain to the rest of you people

Like yeah dude im in love with someone. Not like that though. Not like the other way either. You wouldn’t understand

being aromantic is so confusing because i literally have no idea how i feel ever, actually