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Does Anyone Else Sit There But The Big Sensations Kick In But Its Public So All Of A Sudden Youre Muscles
does anyone else sit there but the Big Sensations kick in but it’s public so all of a sudden you’re muscles tighten up and you squeeze your eyes shut and then act like nothing happened or is that just me
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People have written a lot of touchy-feely pieces on this subject but I thought I’d get right to the heart of the matter
if you genuinely believe that trans men and cis men are enemies and need to be pitted against each other: you drank the terf juice.
if you believe that pre transition or never transition transfems "look too threatening" or "too cishet" or "unsafe for other queers to be around": you drank the terf juice.
if you misgender butch trans women and multigender transfem lesbians and remove them from lesbian spaces: you drank the terf juice.
if you police transfems and call them "loud," "aggressive," "mean," or "rude," just because they have deep voices or high testosterone bodies: you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe that all men and mascs need to be barred from entry into non binary, lesbian, and other queer spaces: you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe all cishet men are inherently queerphobic, evil, and dangerous to be around: you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe trans and cis men are inherently violent and dangerous because they're men: you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe that cis-passing trans men aren't queer and/or don't belong in queer spaces because they look and sound "too cis" or 'threatening': you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe that anyone who is AMAB and/or has a penis is inherently violent: you drank the terf juice.
if you genuinely believe it's okay to profile strangers to assume they're cis or het (or ANYTHING): you drank the terf juice.
literally ALL of these things are terf ideologies and actions. in order to accept ourselves and be accepted, we must accept that just like how our identities are not inherently violent- neither are cis and het folks'.
blaming cis mens' gender instead of their actions and behaviors for their dangerous and queerphobic actions removes the responsibility from the individual man. that was one man who did something wrong.
hold that individual person accountable for their actions and leave their gender and/or birth sex out of it- they're irrelevant to the situation.
making trans women, intersex trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, genderqueer people, etc. uncomfortable by policing how they look and sound is not the way to go. policing transfems and preventing them from queer spaces is not the way to go. policing trans men and mascs and preventing them from entering spaces they belong in is not the way to go.
excluding queer men and mascs from the communities they rightfully belong in isn't helping anyone. cis gay men need community. cis asexual men need community. cis aromantic men need community. cis polyamorous men need community. genderqueer, non binary, and gnc cis men need community. cis bisexual/mspec men need community. trans women who are also men need community. trans men need community. intersex men need community. the list goes on.
community means working together, not fragmenting ourselves off into the tiniest micro pockets imaginable for the sake of "Safety". running afraid from every. single. man and masc you encounter will not keep you safe- femmes and women are capable of abuse. we cannot fall into this "woman good man bad" trap. being afraid of a group of people wholesale doesn't help you heal from whatever trauma you have. it's going to keep you scared for the rest of your life. it's best to move on and stop judging strangers for features they can't help or didn't ask for.
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I want to see how many people actually are willing to say this and not just act like it
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Hey, for everyone saying xenogenders are chronically online: Today in psych class we talked about gender dysphoria and I got to illustrate my view of gender graphically. It looked like a venn diagram with four heavily overlapping circles - one of them was xenogender.
My class was ENTIRELY receptive to it. This receptiveness included a straight, cis, white, christian male who had never heard of it before. And he was totally cool with it! We even took two minutes going on about what our gender would be if we described it in xenic terms. My teacher said he'd be the point of a mountain that intersects with clouds in the sky. Another said a ball of lint. I said the ocean. Not one of us said it was "impossible" or "cringe" or any of that xenogender-phobic shit.
If you're xenogender you're valid. The world, the real, offline world thinks so too. What's "chronically online" and "cringe" is being full of hate.
yes, i am aroace. yes, that person is hot. no, i did not mean that platonically