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Who would've thought not starving with your friend could be so fun
Yea in the real 1900s they didn't really have proper language to express this stuff but it's a fantasy setting where people can get trapped in the shadow realm, so I'm sure they could figure out some words for this stuff. My city now.
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Who would've thought not starving with your friend could be so fun
"what's your favorite animal?"
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WX infodumps
This has a part 2 now !!
Rest is under the cut (cause too long)
Bonus: they talked about bees for a few hours
spider cookies.
“humans don’t do anything for free” somewhere out there there is a guy who spent days if not weeks of his life cataloguing every stupid thing you can do on stardew valley so that you can minmax the fuck out of growing potatoes on a pixel grid for quite literally no reason but that it might help someone else
So I wrote this comic two weeks ago, long before I’d heard about the incident with The Dickies at Warped Tour. And, y’all, sometimes I’m just so tired.
Do I think that holding up a sign that called a band predatory in the middle of their set was a great idea? No, I don’t think that particular thing was a great idea, but I think a safer spaces booth at festivals and a code of conduct for attendees and performers is a great idea. Do I think that getting an audience to shout a woman out of a venue, or calling a woman a cunt, or saying she’s too ugly to fuck is just what we should expect from punks?
In no fucking way.
One of the things I keep hearing about the whole debacle is that punk is about shaking up the status quo, or sticking it to the establishment. There is very little that is *more* standard, exhausting, establishment shit than calling a woman you don’t like a cunt or stating that her only value is sexual and that she can’t even do that right. Man, if what you’re saying sounds like it could have come out of 45′s tangerine mouth what are you even doing on stage? That shit’s not punk, that’s the same fucking bullshit women and femme folks hear at work and in high school and in the gym and shouted out of passing cars.
And that shit is the same reason I spent a week fretting about what I was going to wear to a metal fest. Because two years ago I was sexually assaulted at a different metal fest and didn’t want the same thing to happen again. Because maybe my clothes were an invitation. Maybe just being there was the invitation. If you can’t hang you don’t belong? Right? At least that seems to be the attitude I’m picking up from Jesse Hughes’ instagram screed about the whole thing. No safe spaces in rock, that’s why we can’t remake Fast Times at Ridgemont High (which, I’ll just point out, does feature the rape of a minor leading to her getting pregnant and getting an abortion) - because we’d have to call it “Safe Times or Else.” I mean I don’t know if he intended to imply it’s a good movie because of its misogynist characters and callous treatment of women in the film, but that’s how it comes off. Funnily enough that same metal festival where I got assaulted was the first place I saw Eagles of Death Metal. So, you know, your fans seem to be right on the same page as you, Jesse. Safe zones are at home, not at your shows. Read loud and clear.
But, shit, I though punk was at least a little better than metal. Everyone knows metal is kinda fucked up that way, but when punk (even a band as poppy and banal as The Dickies) is getting defended by buttrockers like The Offspring and jackasses like Hughes some of the shine gets dimmed.
Anyway. I knew this comic was going to get me down but I didn’t realize the whole scene would have me down when the comic went up.
To clarify: Don’t rape or sexually assault people, don’t blame victims or their clothing if a sexual assault occurs, if you see someone groping someone or drugging someone or dragging someone off to a dark corner at a show for fuck’s sake please offer your assistance to stop an attack, and misogyny is the status quo; you’re not a punk if you’re a misogynist, you’re just an asshole in torn clothing.
Take care of each other.
I shouldn’t ever have to say this but holy shit, does this comic not like nazis. Nazi punks, racist punks, sexist punks, y’all can fuck right off. And if you’re any of those things and you’re not a punk you can fuck right off too.
The shit going on in Charlottesville is an outgrowth of centuries of white supremacy that white people have been too hesitant and wishy-washy to denounce. It’s not surprising and *it is us* - it’s our history of redlining, it’s Jim Crow laws and the new Jim Crow of prison slavery, it’s unequal policing and racial pay gaps. It’s crossing the street because people of color make you nervous, it’s your uncle at the dinner table whining about immigrants taking all the jobs, it’s you mom talking about how all Muslims are terrorists and ignoring the violence done by her own church. FUCK NAZIS, FUCK THE KKK, but also FUCK ALL THE QUIETER FORMS OF WHITE SUPREMACY THAT WE DON’T TYPICALLY BOTHER TO DENOUNCE.
Everything is awful, everything is shit, or at least that’s the way it looks right now, but there’s shit you can do to help - contact your local BLM group, take a first aid class and start attending protests, donate to the NAACP and ACLU, and don’t let your grandpa get away with his racist speeches on Christmas.
Jesus fuckin christ.
Hey also if you’re a white person, show up to protests and protect more vulnerable people. That’s a hell of a way to utilize our white privilege, let’s go out and be human shields. Clearly that’s needed these days.
I can’t actually tell if goths like Halloween or Halloween sales more……
That’s bullshit, it’s Halloween, we love Halloween, I used to own a black and orange car with the license plate “JKALTRN” (it was supposed to read as “jack o’lantern” but people kept asking if I was Jackie from Caltrans), I revel in the excuse to cover my home in cobwebs, and I have a minimum of three (3) Halloween costumes every year.
Halloween fucking rules.
Starting your first jacket is quite a task - here are some things to think about before you dive in. Next up, pros and cons of different kind of base jackets.
Happy New Year, everyone. I hope you enjoy this last comic of 2017
Comic next time around is going to be about being goth on a budget because I want to handle a more chill subject.
I could yell about this for a really long time but what it really breaks down to is this: be kind, take care of each other. The world is hard and there’s nothing subversive or punk about making it a harder and colder place.
Aaay, it’s a comic!
@dustrial-inc is some seriously amazing design. They’ve got a sale on right now for 4/20 that goes until 4/23 if you want to check it out.
Plus if you’ve got a sense of humor about the digital nightmare world we live in or if you’re into industrial music or cyberpunk they’ve got a great line of stuff to choose from and it’s *legitimately* difficult to look like you’re living in a near-future dystopian novel sometimes so I appreciate the fact that they fill that niche.
Black Moon Cosmetics is vegan and cruelty free, their makeup is mind-bogglingly beautiful. It’s really not cheap, by any means, but it’s more affordable than Kylie cosmetics or Jeffree Star while being super high quality and an indie dedicated to goth style. They have a wide range of colors available and look great on a wide range of skin tones.
And no judging people for shopping at Hot Topic. There aren’t a lot of places for babybats to shop, it’s hard to find fishnets year round, and where the fuck do you think someone is going to be able to find platform knee-high black boots with lace trim in the middle of nowhere? If buying online isn’t an option (which it often isn’t because sizing on shit is bizarre and goth brands seem to have pretty awful return policies) then Hot Topic is a perfectly acceptable place to get some staples. Obviously it’s not an ideal first choice but you could do a lot worse.
Now, extreme couponing with hot cash:
Hot cash is an automatic 25% off. Just think of it that way. If you buy a pair of $60 boots when they’re running a hot cash promotion they’ll give you $30 in coupons that you can use on a $60 purchase, so total you’ll have spent $90 on $120 of stuff. The best way to do this is to purchase a big-ticket item while they’re initially giving away the hot cash so that you can plan what to spend it on and save up for (boots are a good example). When you’re reedeeming your hot cash use it for a purchase of smaller items that are available all the time or may be on clearance and can’t be thrifted - makeup brushes are an excellent choice, but so are swimsuits, bras, hair dye, and shoes. Also sign up for the HT guestlist, they just straight-up give you money occasionally (I think it’s $5 a quarter then $5 on your birthday but hey, free money is free money). The last time I bought hair dye at HT they were having a 25% off sale and I happened to have the guestlist reward so I got $20 worth of product for $10. And if you’re on the guestlist and spend $500 (lifetime, not annual, I think it took me three years) you’ll get lifetime $2 shipping. Their “goth” stuff is usually a bit over the top and frilly but the basics of black jeans, denim vests, makeup, fishnets, and underwear are hard to beat when you’re taking advantage of their system, since you can save literally hundreds of dollars by abusing the clearance section and using hot cash. (Also if you have family or friends who are into pop culture stuff HT is a decent place to abuse this system to get them gifts - a nice purse for my cousin’s birthday is out of my price range until it’s on clearance and 25% off; I’m never ever going to pay full price to get my sister a Funko Pop figure ever again).
Anyway, next comic is going to be about finding shows. I’ll be answering asks in the inbox this week.
I broke my toe at a show in May because I wasn’t wearing good enough shoes to be in the pit that I didn’t exactly plan on being in. Learn from my mistakes, protect your toes.
But seriously. Please stay safe at shows and drink plenty of water and don’t get awful sunburns and PLEASE wear your earplugs. You can get super cheap, super comfortable reusable ones that still allow for great sound fidelity in the high end and then you won’t have to worry about developing a permanent ringing/hissing soundtrack later in life.
Uhhhhhhhhhhhh okay this one got kind of out of hand.
The little zine at the bottom is viewable panel-by-panel on my main tumblr if you don’t feel like printing it out.
Anyway, if the folding isn’t clear in the comic (it isn’t, I kind of screwed up) here’s a video with instructions for three kinds of eight page zines, a half-page size, quarter-page size, and eighth-page size (the printable zine is an eighth-page size):
Did y’all know I started a literary magazine in 2011? My fellow editors and I published the whole thing online for free and had copies printed that we sold for just enough to make sure we could pay for the next printing. You can see the whole run of the magazine here: Issue One, Issue Two, Issue Three, Issue Four. The online version is a pretty good example of what an online zine can look like.
PLEASE BE CAREFUL USING KNIVES. I’ve seen a bunch of soap-cutting videos recently where people are being incredibly incautious with their utility knives. Don’t cut toward yourself, don’t put your fingers on the blade. I know that seems *super* obvious but seriously, I’ve seen so many reasonable, rational, adult humans injure themselves because they weren’t being careful. Hell, I once cut off a huge chunk of my thumb because I wasn’t looking when I closed a knife.
Go make good things.
I’m really sad right now; my mom died two weeks ago and I’m numb over it. Making things is making it easier. I want to make the kinds of things she would have liked, the kinds of things I liked to show her. I thought I’d have more time with her, I thought I’d be able to show her when this comic hits 100 pages and print a book to take to her the way I have with other projects. But I don’t have that time, I won’t be able to share what I make with her.
But I can share it with you. And you can share your work with me.
If you end up making zines or comics or art send me a message and I’ll include links in the next comic or the next time I answer asks.
@spirit-absent Thanks for asking about this!
Waaaaaaaaayyy back as the 8th page of Punkpuns I posted this comic that touched on etiquette in the pit: http://punkpuns.com/post/148975560342/008
This comic is much more about how to not get catastrophically injured in a pit.
And here’s the deal, a lot of places where pits break out aren’t really that dangerous. In May when I broke my toe in a pit at a H09909 show it was bouncy and physical, but it wasn’t so packed that you’d have to worry about getting crushed. When my friend got kicked in the head at a Circle Jerks show he went down but it was calm enough that I was able to get him up and when I fell two other people helped pull me up; it was bustling and rough and I had fingerprint bruises on the backs of my arms for a week but there was no real danger of getting trampled.
I tend to stay away from huge churning pits at metal shows and festivals; that’s a bit more risk than I’m willing to take, personally.
Sometimes you’ll end up with what basically amounts to an entire audience pogoing and it’s not quite a pit and it’s not super dangerous but there’s still a lot of bouncing and bumping happening.
There’s a lot of variability! Just approach with caution.
If you’re serious about this sort of shit, though, you should practice. The lunge I recommend as recovery from a fall is actually something I learned when I was doing roller derby and it’s really effective but it requires A LOT of thigh and glute strength, so you’ll have to build up to it. Cat-crawling out of a fall is fantastic, but it takes a lot of practice to craw fast enough that you can match the speed of a circle pit, especially if you’re maybe getting stepped on while you crawl.
Anyway, happy new year, y’all.
Be kind, be safe, help each other out.
(oh, and if any of you are in the LA area my band is playing Wednesday January 2nd at Skinny’s Lounge in North Hollywood at 9PM; it’s a birthday show for local legendary rock photographer George Contreras, who has been shooting the punk scene in LA for 40 years. Three local bands followed by live band karaoke, it’s actually fun as hell, come out if you wanna, and if you do come out make sure to say hi.)
Peter Parker: my back hurts…
from carrying all of Marvel
I had a dream where Venom was a duck 🦆
pretty much.
they’re so silly I love them
HELP PLEASE
So I remember reading a bokuto/reader fic on ao3 (or at least I think it was bokuto/reader) and the premise was like reader breaks things off with bokuto and raises their kid and then they meet up in a grocery store like 3 years later and rekindle their relationship. I don’t remember the fic name and I have been trying to find it but to no avail. Please help me find it so my brain can focus on work for once
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
(source)
Keep me updated? xx
Elder Holland Appreciation Post
Shout out to Elder Holland speaking out to us queers as much as he could without stirring up drama
Shout out to Elder Holland for acknowledging the failure of institutions that our generation has to grow up with
Shout out to Elder Holland for speaking up about continued racial inequality
Shout out to Elder Holland for speaking up about gun violence
Shout out to Elder Holland for reminding us once again that God and Christ love us all, and nothing we can do will take away that love
Shout out to Elder Holland for speaking up about bigotry
Shout out to Elder Holland for repeating that faith without works means nothing
Just shout out to Elder Holland man
In 2019:
- do more things that make you forget about your phone
- do not compare yourself to other people: trust that you are progressing in your own way
- keep your heart soft, remember that there are genuinely kind people & good things in the world
- finish what you start
- be consistent, and do not be swayed by temporary moods or criticisms from people who don’t matter.
- smile more often
- be okay with being bad at something
- do not blame yourself for people who make you feel unworthy. find new people to talk to and don’t isolate yourself even if you feel awkward or unlovable. don’t convince yourself that you’re better off alone.
- go outside more often and find beauty in small things
- read more books
- be the kindest person you can be
- be so busy you have no time to be bored or dwell on the past
- learn to be patient. don’t rely on instant gratification, wait for the sense of accomplishment after completing a daily goal or achieving a long-term goal
- see bad days as a chance to start again
- always remember that negative thoughts are not the truth. you can do amazing things even though you may feel stupid. you are worthy of love and self care even though you may hate yourself. you deserve kindness and friendship and unconditional love even though you don’t feel that way. people don’t hate you even though you think you’re unlovable. you made mistakes and had bad times but that’s ok - you can always start again.