Gender Is Not A Social Construct. Its A Real, Biological Thing. Please Stop Telling Me That Im Not Biologically

Gender is not a social construct. It’s a real, biological thing. Please stop telling me that I’m not biologically male in any way and that my dysphoria is just some social construct. I’ve experienced strong dysphoria about body parts even before I knew they were gendered. I’m not saying you need body dysphoria to be trans btw, or that people who have a different experience than me are less trans than me. I don’t care who anyone else is and I can’t know whether or not they’re trans unless I’m them. I just hate being told that my medical condition isn’t actually real.

Genders not a social construct.

If it was, it would be easy to change from learning.

If it was, conversion therapy would work.

If it was, trans people wouldn’t have dysphoria.

If it was, everyone would be able to pick and choose what gender they wanted to be. (THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS)

If it was, that would mean being trans is a choice.

Gender is not a social construct, gender roles are. Get it the fuck right.

Okie dokie, here’s the dealio

basically, I thought I was surrounded by trans allies in my friend group. They stick up 4 me n shit n I rly appreciate it most of the time. but here’s why i said i thought i was surrounded by allies:

“Smol prince! Cinnamon roll babey, cute space boi uwu!” 

they call me that bullshit bhind my back. 

imma turn on the grammar 4 this one. strap in- it’s a long one.

Y’all bitches on Tumblr love trans men. It seemed sweet at first, but honestly it got old. I just thought y’all were being supportive and that was pretty neat. But I’ve found that you also love to infantilize them to the point where you only see them as ‘smol beans’ that need to be fucking protected. I heard someone say “I’m bi, but I don’t like cis men. Trans men are okay, though! I just feel safer with them. But trans guys who have been on T for a while are iffy. Idk I just feel safer with trans boys!” So basically, we’re MenLites to you guys. We’re not actually men. We’re boys. And sure, some trans guys are find with being called a boy. It helps us cope with the reality that our childhoods were stolen from us. But not all of us like it.

Y’all love trans guys as long as they’re short, white, skinny and pre-T. The minute they start gaining weight and getting muscle and growing hair and having a deep ass fucking voice and, to sum up, not look like anime boys anymore, y’all drop them to the side of the street like trash and move on to the next newly out short, white, skinny, pre-T trans guy who ‘needs our help’.

Listen, Idk if you guys mean to be or not, but honestly, all this is pretty transphobic and gross. Please stop fetishizing us, stop infantilizing us, stop trying to make us feel like babies and then feel so ostracized by our own community when we start the road to becoming who we are.

We’re not your beans. We’re not your princes. We’re not your fairy boys who you can pity and draw as a person with huge hips and a big chest and short hair with a trans pride sweater on. We’re men. We’re men.  We’re men. 

I will say it as many times as it needs to be said. We are men. 

Bottom dysphoria is, and has always been, my worst dysphoria. It makes me feel physically sick. Even with a prosthetic, I feel so incomplete. Can’t wait for phalloplasty.

I personally get very uncomfortable when people call me “transgender” instead of “transsexual” or “transsex”. I have nothing against non-transsexual trans people or people who don’t want to use the term to describe themselves, we all deserve to be called whatever label fits us. I get very angry at people who say that me calling myself “transsex” (which is the accurate term and my literal diagnosis) because I am uncomfortable with referring to myself as “transgender” is somehow toxic and transphobic.

Every trans person who wanna bring back “transsexual” instead of “transgender” are brave and great. Every trans person who wanna use “transsex” to underline that it isn’t sexuality or has nothing to do with gender roles, is great and lovely.

I’m angry again. I hate how my voice in real life sounds nothing like what it does in my head. I feel like a ten year old boy, and look like one two. Mean while all the other guys around me look fifteen. I know that I have it much better than most other transsex/ gender people, so I should probably stop complaining. I have a supportive family who’s willing to pay for my hrt and surgeries, I have a prosthetic and can use urinals/ male bathroom safely, and I pass almost one hundred percent of the time, even if it’s as someone much younger than me. I know I sound like a whiny teenage guy lmao.

Vent sketches.