
Artist/Gamer/Courior/Horticulturalist Love Insects, Rodents, and Flowers ♡
1000 posts
Pantayam - To The Moon

-
seriallunaliver liked this · 5 months ago
-
kajakay liked this · 5 months ago
-
clooveer reblogged this · 5 months ago
-
clooveer liked this · 5 months ago
-
different-interests liked this · 5 months ago
-
rhaenys-queenofkhyrulzz liked this · 5 months ago
-
amber-my-ember reblogged this · 5 months ago
-
amber-my-ember liked this · 5 months ago
-
mothmattsstuff liked this · 5 months ago
-
hallssaborglande liked this · 5 months ago
-
hamstercliches liked this · 6 months ago
-
pitturainfamante reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
girlforgirlss liked this · 6 months ago
-
foxeddin reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
piera4u liked this · 6 months ago
-
teichichi liked this · 6 months ago
-
rannyranyi liked this · 6 months ago
-
onetouchwallflower liked this · 6 months ago
-
kurotrbl liked this · 6 months ago
-
highnoons liked this · 6 months ago
-
animewolflover278 liked this · 6 months ago
-
sillyinvader liked this · 6 months ago
-
ur-switch-boy liked this · 6 months ago
-
pantayam reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
literallycirrus-721 liked this · 6 months ago
-
thytorturedpoet liked this · 6 months ago
-
hiodoshi-ao liked this · 6 months ago
-
nearo liked this · 6 months ago
-
hannahilation reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
hannahilation liked this · 6 months ago
-
rock-bottom-ranch liked this · 6 months ago
-
rock-bottom-ranch reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
nohwelle liked this · 6 months ago
-
telios reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
telios liked this · 6 months ago
-
rustpath69 reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
rustpath69 liked this · 6 months ago
-
zoezenkb liked this · 6 months ago
-
soulkiah liked this · 6 months ago
-
primrosedinocat reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
kittykatz10 liked this · 6 months ago
-
astro-axolotl liked this · 6 months ago
-
gludgenbell liked this · 6 months ago
-
samsaraposting liked this · 6 months ago
-
heyimmochi liked this · 6 months ago
-
peachbunby liked this · 6 months ago
-
leafie-draws reblogged this · 6 months ago
-
minusmii reblogged this · 7 months ago
More Posts from Pantayam
“Are you looking for advice, comfort or just someone to listen?”
This question has really helped my relationships. A lot of my friends often tell me what they need, but sometimes things are overwhelming and they forget.
Sometimes, offering advice when someone isn’t in the mood to hear it can really make it worse. I’ve found it can be really overwhelming when I want to vent and have someone listen but am met with “this is what you should do”.
Get into the habit of asking your loved ones what they’re looking for if they don’t tell you. It can help a lot.
Love doesn't hurt us. People-pleasing hurts us. Pretending everything is okay hurts us. Silencing ourselves hurts us. Having no boundaries hurts us. Not having our own back hurts us. Self abandonment hurts us. Another person's unhealed shit hurts us. Love liberates — relational challenges shine a light on where we are not yet liberated.
Mark Groves
Don't tell people your boundaries. Show them.
If you tell someone they can't talk to you a certain way or do certain things, those are not boundaries. Boundaries are things we show. If you tell someone "if you do that again I am not going to speak to you" and you stay and continue to speak to them, that's not a boundary. Just words. Words that they now know means absolutely nothing and they can take advantage of.
You show people how to treat you.
You reinforce your boundaries with your actions. Unless you show someone with your actions that what they are doing is not okay, and you do not continue to allow it, they will keep doing it.
The reason the work you’ve done on how you feel doesn’t seem like it’s working is because you need to do it until it works. It’s never been “this strategy will pull you up” it’s always been “here’s something you can do that will END with you getting out of that hole” the climbing still hurts and the being underground still hurts but that doesn’t mean it’s not working