You're Definitely Not Alone. I Pick Up A Good Romance Novel Every Now And Again. I Also Like How You

You're definitely not alone. I pick up a good romance novel every now and again. I also like how you pointed out that it's a case by case basis as I will never condone 50 shades and the like.

I also like how you made a point that there is actually a story and relationship development. Think about how many movies have a few sex scenes without it being the focus of the whole romance film (e.g. No Strings Attached, The Notebook, etc.). I think the huge difference between romance novels and porn, is that women are not being objectified as often in romance novels because women are the ones writing them.

I am resolutely against visual porn involving real human beings, but I think that (written) erotica by women can be an incredibly powerful tool in allowing women to explore their sexuality safely without exposing themselves to a constant stream of images of beaten and battered women. The content involved in such books (i.e. unsafe kinks) should be judged on a case-by-case manner whether or not it is harmful, because there are some genuinely good stories in this genre. It’s also important to always read everything critically, and I’m not saying that erotica should be exempt from this or general criticism.

also worth noting that out of all pornography types, written erotica (by women for women) is the most scorned and ridiculed by mainstream society- the porn that widely actually involves a story and relationship development is the one that gets made fun of for being embarrassing to engage in. Shocker.

I’m not sure if this is an unpopular opinion, but I’d love to hear other people’s thoughts! 🤍🤍

Me: has a test on Wednesday to study for, an essay to write, 2 discussion posts due, a community health project, and a group project on cancer that I need to start

Also me: well this seems like an optimal time to re-watch a few seasons of teen wolf.

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What's wrong with Gandhi?

Where do I begin?

- Criticized the Jews for defending themselves against the Holocaust because he insisted that they should have committed public mass suicide in order to “shame” the Germans instead of fighting back. His exact words were, “But the Jews should have offered themselves to the butcher’s knife. They should have thrown themselves into the sea from the cliffs. As it is, they succumbed anyway in their millions.”

- Wrote an open letter to the British people in 1940 telling them to surrender to the Axis even if it mean accepting genocide.

- Was very anti-black. I hope you can stomach reading how he treated black people in South Africa. It’s fucking disgusting.

- Refused his wife life-saving medication (for religious reasons), but those religious reasons all of a sudden no longer applied to him when he was in a similar position.

- Refused to have sex with his wife for the last 38 years of their marriage. He felt that in order to test his commitment to celibacy, he would have beautiful young women (including his own great niece) lie next to him naked through the night. His wife, whom he described as looking like a “meek cow” was no longer desirable enough to be a solid test.

- Believed that Indian women who were raped lost their value as a human.

- During his time as a dissident in South Africa, he discovered that a young male was harassing two of his female followers. He responded by cutting the girls’ hair off to ensure the “sinner’s eye” was “sterilized.” He later boasted about the incident in his writings, pushing the message to all Indians that women should carry responsibility for sexual attacks upon them.

- Argued that fathers could be justified in killing daughters who had been sexually assaulted for the sake of family and community honor.

- Believed that menstruation was a manifestation of the distortion of a woman’s soul by her sexuality.

- Waged a war against contraceptives, labeling Indian women who used them as whores.

- Held the attitude that women were simply creatures that could bring either pride or shame to the men who own them.

Sources:

Websites:  Women Suffer From Gandhi’s Legacy,  People who most likely chose Gandhi as a historical figure to do a report on and immediately regretted it, On Mahatma Gandhi, his pathetic racism and advancement of segregation of black people by Sentletse Diakanyo, Not All Peaceful: 13 Racist Quotes Gandhi Said About Black People by Nick  Chiles

Books: Sex and Power by Rita Banerji, On Pacifism by Derrick Jensen,  The Collected Works of Mahatma Gandhi

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