What Are Your Thoughts On The Fetishization Of Fat People Or Fat Bodies, How Do You Distinguish Feeder

what are your thoughts on the fetishization of fat people or fat bodies, how do you distinguish feeder kinks and people who like fat bodies and accept them from people who are simply fetishizing them? Have you seen any overlap within the communities?

One word: Consent.

I hate how the word ‘fetishization’ gets tossed around when what people really mean is objectification. Anyone can objectify a person without their consent, they don’t have to have a fetish to do so.

So what does it actually mean to objectify someone? How do you know if a person is truly appreciating someone for their beauty or if they are objectifying them?

Professor of Law and Ethics at the University of Chicago, Martha Nussbaum, identified seven features associated with the idea of treating a person as an object in our society:

1. Instrumentality: the treatment of a person as a tool for the objectifier's purposes

2. Denial of autonomy: the treatment of a person as lacking in autonomy and self-determination

3. Inertness: the treatment of a person as lacking in agency, and perhaps also in activity

4. Fungibility: the treatment of a person as interchangeable with other objects

5. Violability: the treatment of a person as lacking in boundary-integrity

6. Ownership: the treatment of a person as something that is owned by another

7. Denial of subjectivity: the treatment of a person as something whose experiences and feelings (if any) need not be taken into account

Rae Helen Langton, FBA, an Australian and British professor of philosophy, later added three more features to the list:

8. Reduction to body: the treatment of a person as identified with their body, or body parts

9. Reduction to appearance: the treatment of a person primarily in terms of how they look, or how they appear to the senses

10. Silencing: the treatment of a person as if they are silent, lacking the capacity to speak

Fetishes or sexual interests alone do not mean a person is objectifying anyone. The behaviors above do. How do you distinguish feedists from non-feedists? That question’s irrelevant. You never have to consent to participate in kink with anyone. That is your right. Feedists are people like everyone else - they’re capable of interacting with you in a respectful way…

I absolutely see overlap between feedism and fat lib - most feedists I know are incredibly passionate about fat lib, and many of them have even less internalized fatphobia and ableism than the general fat liberation community. I am a feeder and openly identify with the feedism community and have already spoken on this topic in depth. Fetishes do not make you dangerous and I will die on this hill protecting my community.

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why is making a resume so difficult

reblog to cast level 5 spell: everyone who reads this gets a full night sleep

A lot of things start to make more sense as you get older and unfortunately there actually is some stuff you can only fully understand when you’ve gotten past like 22 at the bare minimum

By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

ADDitude

How to Sharpen Executive Functions: Activities to Hone Brain Skills

Executive functioning skills range from working memory to cognitive flexibility to inhibitory control, and beyond. They power our daily func

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Kenneth Roberson, Ph.D.

Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults with Autism

Practical Strategies for Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults With Autism - Living with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) as

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.

Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation

Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.

Meditation

Martial arts

Sports in general

Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)

Woodworking

Cooking

If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You do not have to be stuck forever.