"I'm Going To Say, 'I Love You,' Because That's Easier On Me, And I Have To Say How I Feel To Youand

"I'm going to say, 'I love you,' because that's easier on me, and I have to say how I feel to you—and I know you know that—but I'm going to be honest with you. I don't think I love, not like that, so what I really mean is that, 'I'm fond of you; I cherish you; you're very special to me'. I want you to understand that I don't quite 'love' you, but I do, in some kind of way."

"I know."

"You're not bothered by that?"

"Why would I be?"

People are going to read that and then immediately ignore what that means, aren't they?

Me: *writes a very complicated non-traditional relationship between two characters that is very explicitly laid out is that way because one of the characters is anattractional and, while sex-/romance-neutral, is mainly looking for someone to co-parent with, but that same character is neurodivergent and follows their religion's rules on dating and marriage because they're clearly defined and makes it easy on them, and their queerplatonic partner isn't on their radar for marriage because he's not the same religion and interfaith marriages aren't allowed, but also explicitly stops looking for a husband because none of the men they talked to would allow them to continue the partnership they have and that's more important to them than any theoretical husband, and then they end up getting married because the partner converts and they have a, "Hey, wait a minute," moment, and they agree to have a "traditional" relationship from then on but with the explicit acknowledgement that they're still more (queer)platonic than anything*

Also me: People are going to read all that and still think they're in a typical sex-/romance-positive allo relationship, aren't they?

being blocked by half your mutuals' mutuals is simply the price of being a free thinker

quick and dirty guide to recognizing stolen content on tumblr

there is RAMPANT art and photography reposting on this stupid website, and it occurs to me that folks might not know how to recognize it. here are the mental gymnastics i go through every time i see a sus post

1. is there a caption? most creators tend to leave one. maybe it's so their url is prominent, or to express their thoughts about the piece, link their shops/websites, etc. most reposters leave the captions blank

2. look for credit in the picture. is there a name, handle, or watermark? does it match the url?

3. check the original post. often you'll find that the original poster actually linked the artist. go forth and reblog that version!! for some godforsaken reason people keep REMOVING CREDIT on this website and i will MANIFEST INSIDE YOUR HOUSE IF YOU DO SO

4. check the tags of the original post. beyond the main fandom/character/subject tags, creators tend to have a #my-art tag or something similar. photographers often use #photographers-on-tumblr/lensblr. sometimes they'll also have thoughts about their work there. this doesn't always work, but personally i never see reposters adding tags like this

5. look at op's other posts and bio. is there anything about being an artist or photographer in the description? does the art they post look the same? usually this is where you'll Know if it's a serial reposter, because their blog will be FULL of reposted shit with no captions that all have different styles. also half the time their blog description straight up admits it

6. check the notes to see if someone added the proper credit. at this point, if you know it's a repost but still wanna reblog it, at least give credit where it's due. see if someone else already did the work for you

7. reblog and add a link with creator credit. if you know it's a repost, and you can't find credit, consider doing your part to help creators get their well-deserved recognition. usually you can just google the watermark in the picture. otherwise reverse image search on google or tineye is your friend

8. if the original creator is on tumblr, reblog their version of the post. if you've gotten this far it's not hard to search their blog for it

9. consider letting the artist know their art has been stolen and send them the link. this way they can take action and file whatever claims they need to get it taken down

10. finally, support original content creators! look at the #artists-on-tumblr and #photographers-on-tumblr tags, follow your favourite creators and reblog their work. seriously it can make a huge difference

if you read this far, THANK YOU. making sure content creators get their credit is literally the bare minimum we can do to be respectful of the countless hours they spend on their work. especially when that content is freely accessible

Your F/O knows how tired you are after work/school, so they do their best to prepare food and blankets and whatever else you need so you can relax as soon as you get home.

And a little angst just because.

Estinien is not and has never really been someone in tune with feelings, whether they be his own or someone else's.

Alphinaud, being him, eventually has his own feelings bubble over and he confesses to Estinien. In a very long, unnecessarily long, string of almost gibberish because he has to get it all out and if he stops he'll lose steam and shut up completely.

So he spends a good fifteen minutes spilling his heart out to Estinien, staring right into his soul the entire time. And Estinien being Estinien responds with, "Okay."

Just. "Okay."

Alphinaud, understandably thinking that means Estinien does not reciprocate his feelings (he does), just goes, "Oh. Very well. Apologies for that," tears welling up, and he bolts.

And he avoids Estinien. Despite his best efforts to find him so he can clear shit up. Thankfully, they happen to show up at the same tavern, and Estinien manages to convince Alphinaud to have a drink with him. And he explains that he did take in everything Alphinaud said to him, he's just Bad At That Specifically.

They get a little drunk and then have nasty sex.

Horny posting time! ✌🏾

When Alphinaud gets real into it, he begs Estinien to fold him in half and pound into him like he's legitimately trying to break him. It's Alphinaud's favourite thing in the world and he wants it every time they have sex.

Until afterwards, when his back and hips and he gotdamn pussy hurt like the seven hells.

"Why do you let me demand you do that? Why do you listen to me? Next time, don't do that."

"No. 💕"

Estinien doesn't listen. He loves wrecking him. Loves trying to break his darling, horny bastard of a boyfriend/husband and make him scream loud enough their neighbours are thoroughly bothered.

And the "even my pussy hurts" conversation happens all over again.