Steps For Decision-making For A Sub:

Steps for decision-making for a sub:

1) Does this impact my safety? 2) Does this make my owner happy? 3) Why do I feel the way I do? 4) Are those emotions alterable? 5) Am I willing to be uncomfortable to make my owner happy?

If you can answer these questions, you’ll probably be able to answer anything that comes up in a D/s relationship. Particularly number 3. Self-awareness is an incredibly powerful bit of knowledge that will keep you grounded and in service for a very long time.

Compersion should be the default emotion for subs. Your duty is to make your owner happy. That’s why you have an owner, and that’s why he owns you.

Ryoji Ikeda - The Transfinite (2011)

“A huge, immersive, electronic light-and-sound installation consisting of an immense wall — 54 feet wide by 40 feet tall — which serves as a screen for streaming video projections.

On one side, horizontal black, gray and white stripes and bands divided into left and right sections scroll downward, flickering furiously to the sound of aggressively percussive, buzzing and whistling electronic music emitted by powerful speakers. 

he bar-code-like patterns extend across the white floor in front of the wall, where visitors who have doffed their shoes may loll, dance or meditate. It’s like a walk-in, animated Op Art painting.

On the other side, the floor is covered by soft black fabric and the wall is flooded by finely articulated, incomprehensibly complicated numerical and graphic data.

What is it to be human in such a universe? What values other than statistical ones sustain us?”

Ramy - Cairo, Egypt