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patiently waiting for my eyes to turn black like the tiktoks say narcissist’s eyes do (they’ve been green my whole life am i doing something wrong)

NPD adjacent culture is getting SO fucking pissed off at those posts circulating that smugly go "actually, narc refers to a narcotics officers" because it just talks over pwNPD. If it were a different word, people would see how wrong the argument is because it doesn't MATTER what other meanings it has, it doesn't change the fact the derogatory meaning exists. It just shows how little the community cares about us, they don't actually listen to what we have to say and will push us aside as soon as any vaguely convincing argument comes across their path.

The f-slur isn't okay to say in any context just because it has alternate meanings, these "rational" progressive people wouldn't speak over a gay person to correct them on their own experiences, but they do feel bold enough to speak over US. So much for people who care about us and our struggles. - 💫 viscera

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The crossover between litwtc and tma fans is so funny to me because aside from ‘podcast’ I can’t think of a single similarity between the two. I’m really starting to think that the fans of anything will wood related are all alternate universe versions of each other

Man I love having NPD. I love feeling good looking at myself in the mirror and two seconds later wanting to tear off my skin, bury myself underground and never allow any living creature to see me again.

I wish more people understood this. Autism affects everyone differently. And this means every single individual.

I CAN Network Ltd

npd culture is failing a test and immediately breaking down into tears because you aren't a person who fails

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If you're a vent blog and you struggle with mdd, gad, bpd, npd, ocd, ptsd, schizophrenia, have an ed or struggle with sh or substance a*use, please reblog this post if you're okay with making friends and if you're okay with people messaging you 🖤

barely even had to scroll down for this one lol

anyways daily reminder that pleasing a narcissist is NOT thankless. it is very very very much appreciated and basically needed for us to survive, so if you have friends with NPD make sure to tell them they’re doing a good job <33

NPD Resources Masterlist

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The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@the-npd-culture-is

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think &lt;;3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!

NPD tags are filled to the brim with people repeating the mantra of "narc abuse" not being real and while it's true, it isn't real, we've gotta focus on offering actual help to pwNPD. Destigmatizing NPD is great but let's talk about how to fucking handle it too.

With that being said, here's my contribution on how to prevent/lower the likelihood of a narc crash:

Journal or tell your closest ones about your emotions, even if they feel miniscule. Every negative emotion counts. This might seem obvious but pwNPD are very prone to ignoring our emotions in favor of getting supply. Look, I know you "can handle it" and "only weak people have emotions" but you're a person and you have fucking emotions. It's more embarrassing to handle the post-effects of your crash than to try to prevent it, trust me.

After a crash happens, reflect on what actually caused the feeling of insecurity/distress that led to it. Sometimes it's other people, unfair criticism, or both plus our inherent feeling of needing to match a social standard. Try to figure out what caused it and either distance from the trigger or find a way to limit its access to you. Maybe next time, you will be more prepared for the oncoming emotional flow.

Limit who can criticize you. I guess it's harder for those of us with public pages online but actually limit who the hell has a right to critique you. Not everyone is a good critic. Some people will tell you shit just to upset you. Sometimes people won't be obligated to give you any attention at all. It fucking sucks but limiting the number of people who have the RIGHT to affect you might help. For me, it was a rule: What I think and what my FP think matters, everyone else can disappear.

Find means of reminding yourself how great you are. Do you need to admire yourself in the mirror? Reread that sexy post you made? Look at your art again? Check the notes on your favorite aesthetic post? Do you need to reflect on how many people have admired you over lifetime or, maybe, how many compliments you heard last time you did XYZ? Be fucking vain.

Overall, narc crash isn't something that one can entirely predict or prevent, but it's how we react to it that matters. Warning your loved ones that you require attention/supply, taking care of your damn body so you don't overexert yourself for others, and being mindful of your own emotional reactions might help.

Not everyone is going to have the mental capacity to stop themselves from overreacting/communicating poorly, but as long as you learn from your past mistakes you should be fine. Good luck.

P. S. I hope you're all big boys and know I do not mean this to be some sort of universal advice. It helped me, and maybe it will help you too.

they hate me for my narcissistic traits that they would love me for if i was a fictional character

i hate myself so fucking much but i am so much better than everyone else

NPD culture is wondering why attention seeking is a bad thing. I’m not going to apologise for craving attention and support, that’s normal, everyone craves that.

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To celebrate pride month I've decided to make a part 2 of the killing transphobes post since it was given a community warning. (🚗🔨⚒️💥)

LIMITED TIME OFFER:

For every note this gets I will kill one (1) acephobe AND one (1) arophobe with my bare hands.

i propose that instead of pride month, we have queer year (queer people are treated like actual people all year long)

Oh Creative Commons Attribution Non-Commercial Sharealike 4.0 International License, we’re really in for it now

the neverending rage that people will never understand how lucky they are that you're trying this hard to be normal for them

I think if I hear one more YT channel call that Colleen girl that abused and groomed kids "narcissistic", I'll implode.

Here are some basics:

NPD is a stigmatized disorder.

"Narcissistic" describes a person who has NPD.

I thought people learned this lesson when we removed "psychotic" from the list of insults you can throw around. Guess not.

The words you're looking for are "self-centric", "self-absorbed", "egomaniac", "egotistical".

Being any of the aforementioned does not make you narcissistic.

You can't armchair diagnose people. Yes, not even the shitty ones.

You can't claim that abusive behavior is connected to the person's disorder(s). Abuse is a choice.

By armchair assigning narcissism to shitty people, you are furthering the stigma against narcissistic individuals.

The risks of completing suicide in pwNPD are very high.

Narcissists are not inherently abusive.

Narcissistic abuse does not exist.

Colleen Ballinger is not a person with NPD.

Her actions are her conscious choice; her inability to apologize and make amends has nothing to do with pwNPD.

Leave the term "narcissistic" out of your mouth if you don't know how to use it.

And kindly, shut up about narcissistic traits unless you're narcissistic.

i fucking hate the term ‘neurospicy’.

NPD culture is my canon is correct, actually. My canon is the one and only true canon. The original creators 'canon' is actually just the most accepted headcanon by the public, but i know better. You don't agree? Lol okay die then, stay mad, idc, i'm right.

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hey btw u arent a mental health advocate if you use the term narcissist to describe people who were mean to you.

can narcs be abusers? yes.

can their symptoms be a driving force in their abusive behaviors? yes.

however it is absolutely unnacceptable and stigmatizing to further push the association that a TRAUMA disorder is inherently abusive.

i have worked so hard, and i am working so hard, to cope with my npd. i have improved a lot, and healed a lot, and still have a long way to go.

it hurts more than anything to hear my own friends call bad people narcissists solely because they're bad people.

good morning to these people and these people only: autistic people who constantly put their foot in their mouth, bitches with NPD, undiagnosed freaks who bamboozle the DSM, bipolar or mood disorder girlies and non-girlies in a manic rage, low- or no-empathy weirdos, and psychos (reclaimed). please survive.

NPD culture is having no object permanence. If someone does one little thing to hurt me, they immediately become worthless to me and all I will want to do is hurt them in the worst way possible before I discard them. Whoever they were before they hurt me becomes totally irrelevant.

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Shout out to the people who never had a safe place. Who didn’t have a before trauma. Who were loved but not protected. Who were collateral damage in someone else’s breakdown. Who got fucked up so young that they’ll never know who they could have been.

Shout out to people who’ve never felt safe. I hope you do someday.