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Why is Nunya being called a predator? Just because he’s a 40-something year old man? Last I checked, that alone doesn’t automatically make you a pedo or a rapist. And Nunya’s a sweet guy, who consistently talks about how awful sexual predators are on his blog. Apparently, the person who is accusing him admitted they have no proof, so they’re obviously full of shit. Smh I fucking hate people 🙄🤦🏻♂️
Oh yeah, she fully admitted to it in her initial posts. She then found "proof." Which was just nunya being friendly, as he is to all of his adult friends, and her taking it out of context and never once saying "I don't like friendly flirting"
Nunya dropped some screenshots of dm's where it is very obvious that she is the one trying to coerce him into talking more sexually and crassly.
But you know, 21 year old adults are literal children and actual minors and he's a groomer and a pedophile for being a [checks smudged notes written on hand] friend.
Men with eating disorders get so little recognition and positivity
While women are the majority with eating disorders, men still can have it. They exist but media or anyone else don’t seem to care about them. So I do.
I know that you have the feeling you may not be sick enough or you think you don’t even have an eating disorder because men can’t have it (“that’s a girl disease”) but your struggling is valid and you need to get help for it. You’re worth saving.
Restricting, starving, binging, purging, taking laxatives, excessive training and/or excessive calorie counting are not healthy.
You CAN have anorexia.
You CAN have bulimia.
You CAN have binge eating disorder.
You CAN have ednos.
You’re not weak for having an eating disorder. You’re not weak for struggling. There’s no shame in admitting that you might have an eating disorder and need help. You’re not the only man with these feelings. You’re not alone. We are all with you and help you win this fight.
Recovery is worth it.
You are worth it.
Disclaimer: If you post thinspo or any other pro ana content, I don’t want you to reblog this post. You’re not welcome here. You’re violating tumblr’s guidelines and you’ll be reported the second I see you in my notes. Get help.
Dear boys and men in hetero relationships!
If your girlfriend abuses you, physically, emotionally or otherwise, it is no sign of weakness to get out of that situation. You’re not “less of a man” because “you let a woman hit you”. You’re a victim of abuse, and there’s no shame in asking for help. Stay awesome, and stay safe.
what a trainwreck of a notes section,,,, anyway op is absolutely correct and yall in the notes need to check urselves skdjjs
btw if yall reblog me tryna fight i probs wont reply bc i dont want to deal with anyone whos stuck up their own ass, thanks <3
Hey, if you genuinely believe that men are trash, if you really think that men can’t love as deeply and as authentically as women, if you think that women are inherently better than men in any way, if you think men deserve any less love and compassion and kindness than women, or if you think that men should be excluded from body positivity and forms of support,
I’m really sorry you haven’t had good men and boys in your life. I’m sorry that something happened to you that made you believe these lies. I’m really sorry. But saying these things is untrue, hurtful, unkind, and cruel.
Boys and men can be as good and kind and loving and worthy as women. Full stop.
i’m concerned about boys with mental illnesses and eating disorders and abusive relationships and sexual assault survivor stories and self-harming tendencies who never get the attention or care or help they need because all of those things “don’t happen to men” or because “all men are horrible monsters” and i just wanna say if you’re a boy and you’re struggling with something hard, your gender doesn’t diminish or dismiss your struggles or make them any less significant or difficult and i love you and i’m here for you
If you are going to have literally no criteria for being queer, then how can you say that anyone isn't? How can you refer to any person in any context as cis/straight?
If someone tells me they’re queer I believe them. If someone tells me they’re straight I believe them. This isn’t that hard
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“Homophobia and transphobia has body counts, aphobia has screenshots!!1!!”
Yeah,
Screenshots of statistical studies about how aces are as likely to be suicidal as gay or bi people, and twice as likely as straight people because of their asexuality. Screenshots of statistical studies showing that A-spec trans people face significantly higher levels of homelessness, and eviction than any other demographic of trans people. Screenshots of how A-spec people experience some of the highest statistics for corrective rape of any marginalized community . Screenshots of aphobes bullying, harassing, sending rape and death threats to ace people,and wishing horrible things to happen to ace people because they are ace Screenshots of posts about how In 2015 Russia took away the rights of asexual, binary trans people, and many groups of nonbinary trans people, to have driver’s licenses. Screenshots of how many religions dont support asexuaity Screenshots of people opening up about how they were sent for conversion therapy,abused and harassed both by other people and their families for being asexual and being hated after coming out as asexual Screenshots of studies and articles about ace people being raped for being ace Screenshots of aphobes Repeatedly misgendering and mislabeling people , calling asexual people nazis ,telling suicidal ace people to stop whining , saying that asexuality shouldnt be taught in schools . Screenshots of asexual people receiving rape threats to “fix” them and actually being raped to be fixed Screenshots of asexuality being pathologized and not being considered real by straight people.
Its so easy to brush away aphobia as “Cringey aces being dramatic on the internet on no reason lololol “ when you see “true” oppression as “people being killed for their identity” and not the numerous ways society makes marginalized community feel that they are broken,wrong and are disgusting for existing and dont belong among the society.This includes harassment on the internet too because the people harassing ace people for being ace on the internet are real people too.
Genocide is the last stage of oppression for an identity and the fact that you think that bigotry against some identity has to reach the stage where the people of that identity are being killed for them to be “truly oppressed” then you are a despicable person and have no idea how resistance and social justice work.
Note : I copypasted most of the links from this post so yall can check this out too
"which do u prefer, pecs or boobs?" wtf, wtf, hello???? what are you saying to me rn?? are you serious? tits are tits. love is love. etc. don't speak to me.
[ID: A two panel meme. In the first panel, Brian David Gilbert says “Let me take a moment to move over to a different board so I can show you the amount of awareness of aromanticism outside of the aro community”. In the second panel, he gestures at a blank wall and shouts “There’s NOTHING HERE!”. End ID]
Why can’t casual sex be more of a thing? Blow your mates dick! Sleep with your BFF. It’s so much safer than random hookups and without the hassle of a romantic relationship?
If you trust someone, and want to blow off steam, the idea that you can’t just fuck is bizarre? Why are casual relationships and flings such a filthy idea? There is a bond, a bed, and time.
Friendship sex 2k19
Let’s talk about the fabulous aromantics out there
decided to make a new gender apathy/Apagender flag as I don't like the other ones design. There is no symbolism behind it you can use it if you want
dark tumblr show me safe spaces for aces and aros to talk about their issues
aro culture is being terrified to label yourself aromatic because “what if i fall in love in the future? what about that one person three years ago, was that a crush? but what if—”
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Something that bears mentioning: I get why we need to shame straight girls who fetishize mlm ships but. To any straight girls who consistently relate to or resonate with mlm dynamics on a deep level or see themselves in queer male characters. if by any chance this post from a tiny tiny blog crosses your dash. Please take this moment to very privately consider the possibility that you might not be straight. Or a girl.
Resources for Male Victims of Abuse
How to Recognize Abuse
**Emotional Abuse of Men
**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys
**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too
**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs
**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
**Help for Battered Men
**Battered Men, Battered Husbands
**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse
**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse
**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused
Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)
National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-237-8255
Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)
Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-784-2433
National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846
National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888
Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733
**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Support Groups
**1in6 Support Groups
Male Survivor Support Groups
Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)
Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)
How to Find a Shelter
Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)
SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)
How to Find a Therapist
**Male Survivor Therapist Directory
Mental Health Services Locator
Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens
Love is Respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 (Hotline for teens)
Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444
Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741
ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453
Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300
National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929
Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999
Stop it Now Hotline: 1-888-773-2362 (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)
Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)
Other Resource Lists
(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)
**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)
**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence
**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources
**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources
**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)
REMEMBER THAT EPISODE WHERE REESE THOUGHT MALCOLM WAS GAY AND MALCOLM THOUGHT REESE WAS GAY AND THEY TALKED ABOUT IT BUT LIKE THIS I’M CRYING
"White people cant experience racism."
Keep repeating that while:
◎ White people get refused cooking jobs in black neighborhoods because “white people cant cook.” Or “white people dont season their food.”
◎ White rappers are judged on their skin color before their abiities.
◎ Poor white people in the same neighborhoods as black people (in majority blavk or latino neighnoorhoods) are still seen as doing better financially because of their race.
◎ Unarmed white people can be shot by black cops and it isnt made into a race issue.
◎ The majority perpetrator of violence against black people is other black people (by far), yet white people are blamed anyway
◎ Black people being assumed to be or joked about being in a gang is racist, but Italian people being assumed to be or joked about being in the mafia is not.
◎ Black or latino people being assumed drunks is racist, but Irish people being assumed drunks is not.
◎ Southern white people are assumed stupid or incompotent because of their accent and that’s acceptable. But black people with heavy use of slang being assumed stupid or incompotent is racist.
◎ It’s wrong to steroetype black people, but caricatures like Mario are fully acceptable.
◎ Germans and Austrians are assumed to be affiliated with Nazis because of their accents and heritage, but black people or mexicans being assumed druglords is fought against
◎ Europeans and caucasians in general are assumed to have no culture despite mountians of evidence proving otherwise, but ignorance on African culture is assumed to be racism.
◎ White families being against a family member dating a black person is assumed racist and intolerant. Black families being against a family member dating a white person is acceptable and can even be encouraged.
◎ Basically any hardship white people face often gets excused because of their race.
◎ People try to change the definition of racism to excuse their ignorance, stereotyping, hate, and overall racism based on their race.
Keep in mind I’m a cis woman writing this.
So I was debating posting this but I think it needs to be said.
So I’m a student teacher and this week, we started at a new school district. Now I won’t presume to begin to pretend that I know what everyone’s political ideologies are in this school district but keep in mind that it’s in rural New York State and rural New York State tends to run red. Not as red as some other places but definitely not blue and not even really purple.
Anyway yesterday was my first ever professional development day. So I’m all dressed up, introducing myself to other teachers, and I shake hands with the superintendent who seems like a really nice guy.
And about halfway through the day, he goes up to the front of the theater and he starts talking about the best ways to talk to and help transgender/nonbinary students. It’s the basic things we all learn in our education classes. And you can tell that he’s a bit uncomfortable and so are some of the teachers. And at last, he stops and says, “Folks, I have to be honest. My father is rolling in his grave right now.”
And I’m in the back like, “Oh no.”
And so he pauses again and then he starts implying that he was raised to have a very negative opinion on the transgender community. And he continues to say that he had to unlearn a lot in the past few decades and then he admitted that he still doesn’t get it. He outright admitted that he personally doesn’t understand how someone comes to the conclusion that they’re not their assigned gender. And he admits that of course he doesn’t because he’s never had to go through that.
Another pause.
And then he says, “But I don’t have to get it.”
The theater fills with whispers and then he says [and I’m paraphrasing here], “I don’t have to get it. I don’t even have to agree with it. Because it doesn’t matter what I think or what I feel or what my beliefs are. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that I respect that student and I respect their choice.”
And then he reminded the teachers of every single policy that the school district follows from letting any student use their bathroom of choice to changing the students’ names per the students’ requests to not telling the parents anything unless the student gives consent to do so.
And at the end, he brought it back by saying, “My father just rolled in his grave again. But it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what you think, it doesn’t matter what you believe, because it’s not about you. It’s about your kids. And you need to love your kids! Love your kids! Love your kids!”
Long story short, this looks like it’s going to be a good placement.
Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Okay but someone going from identifying as gay or lesbian to identifying as bisexual isn’t like…regressive in the slightest. That person didn’t “turn straight” or “betray the community”. They’re just figuring out who they are. It’s their self-discovery journey, not yours, and you need to understand that instead of getting riled up.
hey—the thread that starts like this?
it's been debunked by snopes
i cannot stress enough that it has been debunked by snopes and contains dangerous misinformation
stop reblogging it! stop retweeting it! you are actively putting people in danger when you do so
