Tutorial Tuesday: Creative Ways To Punish Your Sub, Part 4

Tutorial Tuesday: Creative ways to punish your sub, Part 4

So you’ve had a regular sub for months now, maybe even years. You’ve played many times, and you now realize he is failing to remember the little details that he should always remember? Maybe he has no idea how big your dick is, even though it’s his favorite treat that he’s always begging for. Maybe he’s forgetting your rule that when in your presence, he is not to touch his dick (because you own it). Or maybe he’s your pup, but he keeps forgetting that a pup’s natural place is to crawl on the floor.

You can solve any of these issues with your boy, and many others. See below for a creative and fun way to solve this problem not just for a few days, but in a way that your sub will remember well into the future. ;)

Safety:

As always, make sure bdsm/kink play is safe, sane, and consensual. Specific to this tutorial, I highly suggest NOT engaging in e-stim play unless and until you know your sub very well. Know his general reactions. Know how much he can handle, and his overall endurace with different types of play. If he has anxiety issues and has never done e-stim before, this probably is NOT the best thing to start him off with. However, if you know your sub well enough and he’s into e-stim play, or at least very curious about it, open-minded, and not too squeamish, this may make for a fun evening (at least for one of you, haha).

Also, if you have your sub locked in a metal chastity cage, remove it before starting this. Keep in mind that metal conducts electricity, and unless a chastity cage was built for e-stim play such as this chastity device (which would be great for this idea), I wouldn’t suggest inventing your own by fastening electrodes to it. Be sure to use electrode gel, as that helps spread the contact points out a bit and helps avoid hotspots.

Parts list:

A Windows laptop that you can set in front of your sub, with an external mouse connected

A way to restrain your sub that still allows him to move one hand around a mouse pad

A sound activated e-stim box, such as one of the following:

ABox

2B

One or more e-stim accessories that work with your power box, such as the following:

Conductive rubber loops (I recommend TAC gel for these as it helps prevent slipping/rolling of the rubber loops)

The Vyper 2

MicroSounds

An Electro Lockdown Chastity Cage

A Deluxe Humbler with e-stim  attachment points

Anal e-stim accessories such as the Flange, the Red Collection, Electro Eggs, or if your sub is daring and his ass is up for a REAL challenge, the Decimator!

Electrode gel

You’ll also need to download the “Grounded” program designed by shysub28, which is available at his site here. You’ll want the Task Maker version to design the task, and you should also download the Load Only version to help prevent sneaky subs from trying to cheat. ;)

You may also want to look for some photos online that you know will make your sub nice and horny, if he were to happen to find himself stuck staring at them (not that that would ever happen). <grin> If you think the photos will severely distract him, even better!

Implementation:

Take the photos you collected and put them together into a collage format. For example, if your sub is very much into bondage, cages, and especially pup play, your collage might look something like this:

Download shysub28’s Grounded program from here, save it onto your Windows laptop, then launch the Task Maker version and start creating your task. You’ll probably want to focus on what your sub did wrong in order to deserve this punishment. Create as many questions as you want, each with it’s own multiple choice answers. You’ll be able to configure options such as how frequently the questions pop-up on the screen, a time limit that your sub has to answer the question within, the amount of time that gets added to the clock for every wrong answer (or no response within the time limit), etc. Be sure to configure the background with the collage you just created to keep your sub nice and horny, and distracted, while trying to focus on answering your questions. Also, be sure to configure a sound that’s loud enough to hear when standing at least several feet from the laptop. When you’re finished, save your task and have it ready to launch once you get your sub restrained the way you want him. Again, for sneaky subs, you may want to password protect the task so your sub has no choice but to complete the task.

Get your sub restrained however you want him, as long as he can still move a mouse around a mouse pad. Connect your e-stim attachment to your sub in whatever places you want. You may want to blindfold him too for now (makes for a much more fun reaction when he sees what you have in store for him). ;)

Then place the laptop in front of him, and put your sound activated e-stim power box next to your laptop’s speaker. Make sure your laptop sound is turned up so you can hear the sound. You should start the sound sensitivity on your power box lower until you become familiar with your sub’s reactions. You want him to feel it, but you DON’T want him to cry out in pain!

Now start the Grounded program on the laptop and load the task you created.

Watch your sub as he gets a good look at what you’ve created on the laptop and starts to look around more, wondering what that e-stim power box is doing next to the laptop.

C,ick to start the session in the program. At first, he may have no idea what’s going on (unless you choose to explain it), until…he gets that first zap to his cock, inside his ass, or wherever you’ve got electrodes placed. Then he’ll probably be quick to start answering the questions on the screen. But a wrong answer or waiting too long to answer will result in another zap to his most sensitive areas, and the whole ordeal will also be extended by whatever amount of time you specified for a wrong answer or not answering in time. He’s fucked, and he’s just now starting to realize it! ;)

Question after question pops up, as he watches the timer slooowly count down.

When will it end? Just 7 minutes and 10 seconds remaining. Oops, he just answered another question wrong. Just for that, another 15 seconds got added to the clock. Too bad, boy, you should’ve known that you aren’t allowed to touch your dick, so you should’ve answered that question correctly!

Like I said, your sub should remember things better after this session. I wonder if @hushpuppy1980 still remembers some of the rules from this session (which was over a year ago)?

Next week: More creative, fun ways to punish your sub.

From the BOYZBOND archives : Bound in rubber (lockedinrubber on Recon)                 

Tiré des archives de BOYZBOND : bondé en latex

How dangerous is it to leave a sub alone?

(originally published at https://www.trikoot.net/2018/01/how-dangerous-is-it-to-leave-a-sub-alone/)

Being left alone helpless to enjoy your bondage is a common fantasy among kinksters. It’s the ultimate form of consensual non-conseuality: there’s no way out, if there’s nobody there to release you. One of the fundamental rules of elementary BDSM is to never leave your sub alone while he’s tied up. But this begs the question: how dangerous is it to actually leave a person alone?

External causes of danger

If we forget the complications of bondage itself, and focus on external dangers that could kill or injure your sub, the numbers are pretty clear: any external danger is ridiculously low. Fire is the main external risk of danger. According to FEMA, there are approximately 380 000 household fires annually in the US. As there are about 125 million households in the country, the risk of having a fire in a residence in the US in any 8 hour period is approximately one in a million. 

Other causes of household destruction are far lower than fire, so it’s clear that your house will not destruct itself while you are away unless you are extremely unlucky.

Physical causes of danger

Bondage itself can cause danger. Any form of constriction around the neck or head can cause death through two pathways: asphyxiation (not getting enough oxygen) or vasovagal response (constricting the neck, resulting in a reflexive crashing of blood pressure). These risks depend on the kind of bondage, so it’s best to stay away from the head and neck area. 

Even if the head and neck area is completely free, constriction around the chest area may cause positional asphyxia, where the sub is unable to breathe properly due to exertion required to physically breathe. This is usually caused by the sub being on his stomach, as in a hogtie. 

What if the neck and head of the sub is free, and there is no significant pressure around the chest area? Other dangers are significant, but generally nonlethal. Too tight bondage in any part of the body causes two kinds of damage: circulatory and neurological. These are significant, because if a top is present in a scene, any problem can be quickly fixed, but if you are alone, there’s nobody to help.

Circulation problems

Circulatory problems result in tissue not getting enough blood due to position or constriction. Bed sores can form as quickly as 2 hours when a static position prevents free circulation. In feet and arms, too tight restraints can result in loss of circulation and progress to ischemia and eventually gangrene in a matter of hours. There’s also a danger of blood clots. Circulatory problems will eventually cause nerve damage (which is often permanent) due to nerves not getting enough blood, but nerve damage can happen by itself as well.

Nerve damage

Pressure in incorrect places will damage nerves directly. In mild cases, the myelin sheath around a nerve is damaged, resulting in damage which heals by itself. This healing can take up to 6-9 weeks, but often happens in a couple of hours. More serious damage affects the nerve itself, resulting in damage that can take months to years to fully heal. Nerve damage usually has symptoms (pins and needles, progressing to numbness), but occasionally it’s symptomless until the damage has been done.

Psychological dangers

People react unexpectedly when they are left alone. Panic attacks are a real risk. While a panic attack itself is not dangerous, its symptoms can be. Uncontrollable struggling may result in bondage or equipment failing, suddenly changing the situation.

Vomiting is a dangerous symptom of a panic attack, especially if the sub is in a vulnerable position. Any gag or obstruction in the mouth while vomiting will most likely result in death through asphyxiation, or at least aspiration pneumonia when vomit gets inhaled into the lungs.

Prolonged or intense fear can cause long-lasting psychological symptoms, of which most famous is PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder. This may be destructive for any future kink.

Should you do it?

There are ways to mitigate risk when it comes to being alone in bondage:

Do not use gags or hoods, or do head bondage, that obstruct with breathing or vomiting in any way

Do not do any bondage around the neck, and be conservative with any bondage around the chest area

Be careful with any pressure points, give the sub enough movement to be able to move around to avoid undue constant pressure

Do not leave subs that have a history of panic attacks or related psychological issues alone

As with anything, it’s impossible to remove all the risk of bondage alone. It’s a big fantasy for many people, but focusing on the details, you can make it as safe as you can.

Quel matériel pour un puppy ?

(photo : Melko, masque de Rex à 100€, collier cuir bondage Amazon à 15€, laisse)

On me dit parfois : j’aimerais essayer, mais je n’ai pas de matériel. L’important, c’est l’état d’esprit. Le matériel n’est pas une obligation. Ensuite, voici quelques éléments/prix qui peuvent aider à progresser.

La queue (plug dogtail) : environ 65€

Les plug dogtails les plus répandus sont les bon4 et les squarepeg, disponible autour de 65€ chez RoB et autres bonnes boutiques.

Personnellement, j’ai une Alien tail de Oxballs, qui cumule la fonction cockring au plug/queue.

Enfin, pour ceux qui ne veulent pas de plug, il existe (dans les marques précédemment citées) des queues à porter sur un harnais par dessus vos vêtements.

Le Masque (texte de PawPawLyon) : à partir de 95€

Où acheter son masque de Pup sur internet ? 🐺🐶 🐱🦁🐯 Paw Paw Lyon recense ici quelques sites connus et originaux pour dénicher votre future (?) tête de toutou. ❗️ Nous ne sommes en aucun cas partenaires avec les enseignes citées ❗️

🔎 Mister-S-Leather : Les masques en néoprène très en vogue en ce moment. Vous devez les faire importer des USA. https://tinyurl.com/y9yorsmx

🔎 Wruff Stuff : Autre référence de masques en néoprènes. venant d'Angleterre, ils ont très large choix de couleurs et de motifs. A partir de 95€ environ https://tinyurl.com/y9lppz85

🔎 Leatherwerks : Marque américaine qui fabrique des masques en cuir avec des poils. https://tinyurl.com/yaztup3s

🔎 The Well Kept Pet : Porposent tout un tas de masques en cuir avec des designs personnalisés. https://tinyurl.com/yblhmedd

🔎 Army of Men : Proposent des modèles orignaux de masques en cuir colorés, provenant d'Australie. https://tinyurl.com/y7u6g677

🔎 DogKlub : Fabriquent des masques “Dogtraining” en cuir sur Lyon, et est revendeur Français de la collection fetch de chez MisterB. Et également revendeur Wruff Stuff. https://tinyurl.com/y83dxx9e

🔎 Rex Paris : Même si leur site ne proposent aucun masque en vente, leur réputation n'est plus à faire. Ils fabriquent des masques sur commande (ou pas) et customisés à la demande. A partir de 100€ environ https://tinyurl.com/yajl6b48

Collier, laisse, cadenas, médaille ? environ 30-45€

Vous pouvez acheter une chaine dans une boutique de bricolage (45 à 50cm) ou trouver des colliers dans les boutiques gay. L’autre possibilité étant l’animalerie. Comptez autour de 15€.

Pour une laisse, les mêmes lieux devraient en vendre (sauf le bricolage).

Pour le cadenas, je dirais : ne l’achetez pas ! Signe d’appartenance et de soumission, laissez le maitre/alpha que vous aurez choisi s’occuper de ce signe d’appartenance.

Pour la médaille, avec votre nom : autour de 8-10€ sur internet. Même chose que le cadenas, à vous de voir si ce n’est pas du ressort de l’alpha/maitre.

Protections (genouillères, gants) : à partir de 40€

Un chien à 4 pattes s’use vite les genoux et les poings. Optez très vite pour des genouillères (décathlon : 20€ environ par genoux). 

Sur les poings, vous pourrez trouver des patounes qui vous bloquent les poings de manière très fetish (#bondage) ou simplement des gants de sport (lutte…)

Le vestimentaire (harnais, sportswear, cuir, latex…) : variable

Selon vos goûts : un harnais commence généralement autour de 70€ en cuir. (allez voir LeatherInParis ; Rex Paris ou une boutique gay de chez vous).

Les jouets : variable

Un bon chien a des jouets : gamelle, nonos, ballons … le prix varie selon vos envies

In my previous life as a slave, my Owner and I had a detailed plan and schedule for transforming me into a slave object. We got to #17, and we were about to transition to the really serious ones starting at step #18 when my Owner decided not to do this any more. Sort of a shame. I would have liked to have gotten my restraints sealed permanently!