So You Dated The Wrong Person And Learned A Hard Lesson. You Chose The Wrong Major And Had To Start Over

so you dated the wrong person and learned a hard lesson. you chose the wrong major and had to start over again. you cherished a friend who backstabbed you. it sucks, but it’s also going to work out. that’s life; you learn, hurt, love, cry, laugh, and keep going. you experience setbacks and you grow and it’s all okay.

never aspire to be a certain age. im your future self and im telling you right now you will have the worst year of you life

me: sees a silly little post made for chuckles and giggles

me: Oh My God Life Is Short I Dont Want To Die Unhappy

stop freaking out about getting old and start planning out what kind of old person you're gonna be

the good thing about walking around feeling horrible all the time is that usually people cannot tell. the bad thing about walking around feeling horrible all the time is also that usually people cannot tell

We never talk about friendships that don't work out.

I met an old friend today. We used to work in the same building. She told me she was doing really well. I asked about her best friend who used to work with her. She told me they didn't really speak anymore and she had a different life in a different part of her city. She worked at a different company. Everything in her life was new. She looked refreshed. She seemed like a new person. Even the way she speaks is different. She is calm, confident, collected. I could tell she left her old self in her old life.

I was so happy for her, but I was also sad. I loved her friendship with her best friend. I loved the way they walked to their favorite lunch spot together. I loved how excited they were to tell each other secrets, to witness each other's lives. Not everyone is lucky enough to experience that. I admire women who are so close to other women everyone else in the room can feel it. I love seeing how they confide in each other. I wish these women all the best. If you're offering another human being comfort, consolation confidence...you're doing important work. Being a good friend is enough to change the whole world. So, I'm sad to see them fade away.

I know time changes things and people move on, but I always hope friendships will move with the people. I hope her best friend is happy. I hope that when I meet her I see the same changes, the newness, the confidence, the bright eyed energy. I hope they both take care of themselves and find other people to confide in, to share their lives with.

So often we discuss breakups. We talk about how love dissolved with the acid of life. We rarely talk about friendships that break up and fade away. We never talk about how damaging and soul destroying these broken friendships are. They can ruin our perception of the world, our trust. I hope they all heal and I hope I do too. I have also suffered the same broken friendships. I have seen all my stories and life lessons leave with the friends who walked in and out of my life like there was a revolving door.

I have been the friend who left and the one who was left. I am just trying to keep to myself for a while and make sure I'm healthy. I want to be a good friend and have good friends. I think I need a bit of time to process all the big things that are happening to me so I can go out into the world and offer people something good.