Please Reblog If You Think That They/them/theirs Is A Valid Set Of Pronouns.

Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.

Of course they are

so can we start hunting down white liberals now or what

Wasn’t really able to make much this month so have a Crewmate Randy picture I did for Twitter stuff.

Can I say I really want a Randy Hat In Among Us??

So this is coming from a conversation I was having with a friend just now. I’m not telling you who cause that’s personal but a topic came up that I really really really need to talk about. 

Please please please for the love of god if your kid comes to you and tells you they are upset do not tell them to “deal with it” or “Suck it up” cause that makes them feel like what their feeling doesn’t matter to you and might cause them to not want to come to you about anything.

If you hear your kid crying don’t open the door and stand in the doorway and ask them what their problem is. Don’t stand there with a hand on your hip and look at them impatiently. Don’t tell them you’re not leaving until they tell you their problem cause that makes them feel pressured and nobody likes feeling pressured especially if they’re already upset to begin with. They will come to you when they’re ready to and yes it may take a while but they will.

I’ve been in this situation many times where I had my mom stand in my doorway and do the exact same thing and I can tell you it’s not comforting or helpful at all. I understand that most parents/guardians may feel like they’re helping but standing at a distance and looking at them impatiently with an annoyed tone doesn’t do shit. Hell my mom would start counting down if I wouldn’t tell her and that sure as hell didn’t help at all.

Never tell your kid to deal with something or to suck it up cause that makes them feel like they can’t come to you about something that’s truly bothering them.

If your kid comes to you with a problem don’t you dare say “Deal with it” don’t you dare say “That’s just the way life is” because yes it may be the way life is but that does not mean you can ignore their problem and brush it off.

If your kid comes to you excited about something don’t tease them about it. Don’t mock them, don’t make fun of them in anyway.

“Oh but we’re family we’re allowed to tease each other” yes, but only every now and then. If you’re constantly teasing and making fun of your kid or even your sibling for liking something you’re no longer just teasing and you’re just being an asshole.

“He’s your brother, he’s just doing it to get a reaction from you” that doesn’t mean it’s still okay. Again, every now and then is fine. But if it’s all the time? Fucking stop. Even if you are related it doesn’t mean you have special privilege to be an asshole. 

“If you give them a reaction you’re just letting them win” How about instead of teaching people not to react when they’re being harassed you fucking teach people not to harass others. Telling someone to ignore someone because “Reacting gives them power” is bullshit and can actually make the tormentor angry and hurt them more and may even lead up to physical harassment if it hasn’t already.

“You can’t change how they are. You can only change how you act about it.” I was told this recently when a guy was (and still is) harassing and borderline stalking me and my friends and I get what they’re trying to say, but at the same time they are only encouraging him to continue it. They have done nothing to stop it except tell us repeatedly to ignore him but news flash IGNORING THE PROBLEM WON’T MAKE IT GO AWAY.

People, especially older ones, need to understand the fact that just because it may have worked for some people doesn’t mean it will work for everyone. Not everybody is going through the same thing. Not everybody has the same mindset.

If your kid tells you that they have a mental problem don’t tell them “You’re too young to have that problem” don’t say “That’s not something you want to label yourself as” or “I don’t know why you think that because I have given you everything you’ve wanted and needed” you wouldn’t believe often I’ve heard people say that one. Don’t say “You don’t know true pain unless you’re an adult” Don’t say “Yeah? Well this happened to me and I managed to survive”

Just because someone broke their arm doesn’t mean you should have to deal with pain in your wrist.

Please please please if your kid comes to you with a problem don’t brush them off. Don’t tell them to ignore it. Don’t try to make them feel like shit and make them feel weak for feeling the way they do because I can assure you it’s very damaging and can affect them in the long run.

The same thing goes for adults who have had to grow up with that type of treatment and are still suffering even now.

What may not mean much to you may mean a lot to them.

And if there is anyone who reads this and has been through the same thing or something similar. I am so sorry and I want you to know that not only do I care about you so much but so do other people even if you don’t believe it.

God idk who needs to hear this today but trans men don’t owe you masculinity. Trans women don’t owe you femininity. Non-binary people don’t owe you androgyny.

I don’t care if you “need to be able to tell what their gender is“, spoiler alert, you don’t. Trans people don’t owe you gender conformity, and trans people don’t owe you passing. Nobody owes you jackshit when it comes to their gender and sexuality. I do not owe you ”looking queer”, I do not owe you “looking trans”, I don’t even owe you looking like a person.

It’s my self expression, not yours. If you think I owe you any kind of change to it, move right along.

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