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a gender connected to being autistic and a freak ; an autistic freakgender
freak in this instance is NOT used in a negative way unless otherwise is specified by the user of the term. Please make sure to tag any reblogs with ' fr slur '
'I'm autistic and I understand gender!!' Cool, I'm autistic and also understand the concept of gender. However, my understanding of it may be considered 'atypical' due to the fact that perhaps I understand it more than the average allistic; I'm able to put two and two together that since gender is constructed, the way it presents can be abstract due to even the designated 'normal' boxes being abstract. And you know what? Some people may even classify my understanding as a lack of understanding because I don't see the societal construct as a rigid box with rules.
It's almost like autistic people aren't a fucking monolith; some autists will understand gender in a way that aligns with societal expectations, some will have a different understanding of gender, and some of us will just downright not understand it at all. Get your head out of your ass and realize the people who want autistic people dead, the ones who see us as lesser beings, don't care if you're a 'normal' gender or plantgender. The problem with us, in their eyes, is that we're not allistic. Simple as that.
Being against autigender as an autistic person won't make the allistic people like you, it just makes you an asshole.
-signed, an autigender autistic person
"I support trans people!" quick, are you normal about the concept of transandrophobia? Do you think it's just 'white men trying to be oppressed'? Do you brush it off as merely misdirected transmisogyny? Do you scoff at the struggles of trans men and go 'but trans women have it worse! talk to a trans woman and see how bad THEY have it!'?
Do you use a trans man's chest size as an excuse for constant misgendering? Do you hold transmasculine people to a standard of needing to be feminine so to not scare the women, but proceed to not take their gender seriously if they do perform femininity? Do you use your horribly veiled misandry as an excuse to make trans men feel unsafe in queer spaces?
Are you normal about AFAB transfems and AMAB transmascs? Intersex trans people? GNC trans people? Trans people who use xenogenders? Trans people who use it/its or other neopronouns? She/her transmascs and he/him transfems? Can you acknowledge that, sometimes, people are simultaneously transmasc and transfem? Do you accept transmasc women, transfem men, etc?
Do you invalidate the identities of trans women who have beards, or present 'masculinely'? Do you see them as predatory posers? Do you go out of your way to misgender trans women who happen to actually be predators, because 'clearly they were just men'? Do you shame trans women for exploring their sexuality?
Are autistic trans people not able to make decisions on their own transition, as far as you're concerned? Are our ways of expressing and seeing gender 'stupid' to you? Is the concept of autigender too 'insane' to you? Do you see our gender identities as simply jokes?
Can you survive being around a trans man lesbian or a veldian (link) trans woman? Can you support a multigender person who is both gay AND lesbian? Can you include transmasculine nonbinary people in your 'support' of nonbinary lesbians?
I've used the term 'conditional support' a few times, but it is very much conditional support if you explode over one trans person's identity, and then turn around and act all supportive of another's. If all it takes for you not to support a trans person is how they label their gender or sexuality, how they present, what their body looks like, etc, you are not supportive of trans people! Your 'support' is very limited and strict. You have one rigid idea of what trans people are 'supposed' to be, and anyone who deviates isn't valid or worthy, and that is NOT the kind of behavior an ally should exhibit. It is not the way you treat other trans people, and it is far from supportive.
You don’t actually have to read all this; it’s just a long-winded rant, really. Nothing about me is changing (obviously), all this post is meant to do is teach people more about myself and those similar to me.
I know I don’t really talk about my personal life very directly, but I’ve come to realize that I’m autigender/autism gender and wanted to share that with everyone on here since it’s not something you hear about every day. Basically, that just means that the way I perceive my gender is different from how an allistic person would perceive theirs. I’ve been thinking about it for a while and it’s still really hard to explain, so I’ll give it my best shot:
My body doesn’t define my gender in any way, shape or form. I don’t think of myself as trans or cis; I think of myself as just a man or just a being sometimes. Medically and according to the way society works, I would have to call myself the one that applies to me under a certain setting, but that doesn’t define me. Gender is irrelevant to my identity, yet I still have a gender, if that makes sense at all?? This sounds weird but think of it as a pet, where you know their gender doesn’t matter because they don’t care, but they still have a gender anyways because why not?
It’s a bit hard for me to explain, but hence why I believe my autism has a huge effect on the way I perceive my gender.
I know this isn’t a really common gender identity to hear of, so please don’t be afraid to ask me questions.