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CHEATER ADVICE
So I had recently started seeing an ex girlfriend again back at the beginning of the new year. When we together before it was very serious just a couple years ago but things didn't work out. We kind of stayed in touch until she started seeing someone else and we lost contact. She later messaged me after and told me they broke up. In the beginning we were keeping things VERY casual even discussing seeing other people or fun sex stories. This turned into us fooling around and eventually starting to see eachother a lot more often and acting a lot like we were in a relationship. We did specify that we weren't official but eventually did say neither of us were seeing / looking to see / or had plans or prospects on seeing anyone else. She even told me "you don't have anything to worry about" "I'd let you know and tell ypu if I ever wanted to do anything else with anyone" and "I would never be interested in having more than one partner in or around the same time frame" and things start going really well with us hanging out/seeing eachother. Just a few weeks ago I stumbled into her facebook and found out that she has been intensely Sexting with a friend of hers while talking about wanting to hook up. Not the end of the world but I keep reading and find out just recently they hung out and she blew him, he spanked her, and choked her (all things we like to do and play around with). I'm not so upset about the fact that it happened but that she went out of her way to lie to me and act like nothing was going on. I'm really hurt by the dishonesty and behaviour but I have to admit part of me is really turned on by it. We have discussed before the idea of open relationships or threesomes or bringing someone in but the idea had always included full openness and honesty with eachother. I don't know if I could trust her again or if I should even give her a chance. I did call her out and she apologized and promises it wouldn't happen again but also said she still doesn't want to make anything official at this time because she isn't ready because of her breakup. We are hanging out less often but still trying to keep things together while we decide what to do but I'm at a loss. Does anyone have any advice or help they can give me. (not just looking for the obvious "sissy type" answers or role plays, I'm honestly asking for help. Thanks.
CHEATER ADVICE
So I had recently started seeing an ex girlfriend again back at the beginning of the new year. When we together before it was very serious just a couple years ago but things didn’t work out. We kind of stayed in touch until she started seeing someone else and we lost contact. She later messaged me after and told me they broke up.
In the beginning we were keeping things VERY casual even discussing seeing other people or fun sex stories. This turned into us fooling around and eventually starting to see eachother a lot more often and acting a lot like we were in a relationship. We did specify that we weren’t official but eventually did say neither of us were seeing / looking to see / or had plans or prospects on seeing anyone else. She even told me “you don’t have anything to worry about” “I’d let you know and tell ypu if I ever wanted to do anything else with anyone” and “I would never be interested in having more than one partner in or around the same time frame” and things start going really well with us hanging out/seeing eachother.
Just a few weeks ago I stumbled into her facebook and found out that she has been intensely Sexting with a friend of hers while talking about wanting to hook up. Not the end of the world but I keep reading and find out just recently they hung out and she blew him, he spanked her, and choked her (all things we like to do and play around with). I’m not so upset about the fact that it happened but that she went out of her way to lie to me and act like nothing was going on. I’m really hurt by the dishonesty and behaviour but I have to admit part of me is really turned on by it. We have discussed before the idea of open relationships or threesomes or bringing someone in but the idea had always included full openness and honesty with eachother. I don’t know if I could trust her again or if I should even give her a chance.
I did call her out and she apologized and promises it wouldn’t happen again but also said she still doesn’t want to make anything official at this time because she isn’t ready because of her breakup. We are hanging out less often but still trying to keep things together while we decide what to do but I’m at a loss.
Does anyone have any advice or help they can give me. (not just looking for the obvious “sissy type” answers or role plays, I’m honestly asking for help.
Thanks.
Listen to me on this... She fell first, he fell harder— BUT He fell out of love first then she broke up with him. Istg I'm a fuckin genius.
Also don't mind Jotaro, he's just dancing the ptsd away
When she was heading to the local cafe to have alone time with herself but mainly to rethink her relationship with him, her doubts were confirmed when she saw him chuckling with a girl, hands holding, and smiling. The two made eye contact, the boy immediately freezing as she held her tears and gave him a smile instead before dashing away. He tried to follow suit but was held back by his date.
After the date, he tried to find her within their shared home, but instead finds the note he dreaded to see even if he already expected to see it.
"Dear ____,
I guess you already know what this will be about, you don't need to find me to confirm that this relationship is done. I should have known but I didn't, I should have listened to the ones who warned me but I didn't, I should have seen the warnings you yourself gave but I was willingly blind. Maybe that's the reason why you found someone else, but I don't really want to know the reason either way. Never find me again and don't contact my family or friends, do not reconcile or even apologize, you don't deserve my consideration or acceptance. But I hope you could live your life more freely now that I'm out of it.
From ____."
He knows he doesn't even have the right, but his heart swelled as the paper began to be soiled by his tears. He didn't even know why it hurt so much that she was gone, he sabotaged this relationship. He was the one who promised to love her and keep her away from harm.
Would she be blamed if she was the one who came to him even though he was infamously cold and nonchalant to everybody? Did she think she would be an exclusion?
As he kept thinking of more excuses in his head was he only competing with time he thought he had, she was already gone. And she will never come back even if he begged.
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Really popped off on this omg
European - Cheater Baked Ziti Creamy store-bought Alfredo sauce replaces the usual ricotta cheese in this spicy pasta dish. For less heat, skip the hot sausage and use mild Italian sausage instead.
Full disclosure.
I cheated. Yes, I'm one of those horrible people.
And not just once. It was systematic. It spanned years, and with multiple people. I was trying to heal myself, give myself a moment of reprieve, find that light heartedness that makes life manageable.
What it actually did was cause further destruction to my self worth. And I handed him a weapon and an excuse that he used to torture me further for another two years.
My actions are inexcusable. I have no one to blame for them but myself. I have been wrought at the idea that I have inflicted pain. It is done and cannot be undone. I can only be better moving forward.
I have received far too many positive, sweet messages recently and I am compelled to remind you all that I am far from blameless.
Full disclosure.
I cheated. Yes, I’m one of those horrible people.
And not just once. It was systematic. It spanned years, and with multiple people. I was trying to heal myself, give myself a moment of reprieve, find that light heartedness that makes life manageable.
What it actually did was cause further destruction to my self worth. And I handed him a weapon and an excuse that he used to torture me further for another two years.
My actions are inexcusable. I have no one to blame for them but myself. I have been wrought at the idea that I have inflicted pain. It is done and cannot be undone. I can only be better moving forward.
Why did I cheat?
I cheated to feel a private victory over him. I didn’t want to actually hurt him; he wasn’t ever supposed to ever find out. It was my secret; just my little reminder that not everyone shared his opinion of me. Even if that was just because they didn’t know me well enough to see all my ugly bits as he did.
I cheated to feel better about myself. They told me I was irresistible, funny, and interesting. That he was a fool for neglecting me. They flattered me to get what they wanted. I knew that, but pretended like they were pining for the woman they couldn't actually have. It inflated me temporarily, which was enough some days to prevent me from killing myself.
I cheated to distract myself and have something to look forward to. My meets ups were never near as exciting as the planning and build up. A little adrenaline to supplement the cortisol. Good substitute for the old s and d, right? Right.
I cheated to detach myself further. Meaningless sex made me colder, cynical, unfeeling. Heartless. You would be amazed what you can endure when nothing matters.
I cheated to survive. That's not an excuse. That is a statement.
Strike One.
In the first year we were together, he cheated on me with his sister’s girlfriend.
Yes, you read that correctly.
Late Night Realization
I didn’t want to buy a house yet, and he was so angry. He threatened to leave me. He told me that I was keeping him down, and that I loved watching him suffer.
My reluctance was my subconscious throwing up warning signs: Get out! Don’t invest financially in this this too!
His threats won, my subconscious lost, and he and I started “living the dream.”
After my indiscretions came to light, he told me that he pursued other options when I showed resistance and had been carrying on periodic dalliances online since then. Though nothing as serious as what I did, of course as he wasn’t that sick. They provided emotional ‘support’ when I was ‘hurting’ him.
He never met up with any of them, so he says, despite having plenty of opportunities. Realistically it doesn’t matter now, and I don’t care if he did.
What stings is that I allowed him to hold me under his thumb and torture me as punishment for my own infidelity. And he was out there likely doing the same thing, or something in the same vein at the very least .
It doesn’t justify what I did, but it does render his disdain and condemnation illegitimate.
This has all just sunk in tonight. If I had any guilt or shame left for what I’ve done, it’s fucking gone now.
”I dont care that you regret it! I don’t care that you’re sorry! I don’t care that it was a mistake! All I care about is that you did it,”
“All I care about is that you fucked her in our room. In our bed, where just hours before you promised me to love me forever,”
He stayed silent. He didn’t know what to say. What could he say? All he could do was stand there, watching as she was falling apart right in front of him.
All while he did nothing, because what was there to do? He fucked up and he knew it.
So he says nothing. He stays silent even as she walks out the door, leaving him all alone once again.
Found out I was being cheated on today... so yeah sitting there sobbing cause I couldn't stand drool coming out of my mouth. Whiles he's telling me to shut up.... I went through hell for this man absolutely shit... I would have given my soul for him. Yeah just Completely destroyed. So if you have a bad feeling trust it! I will never recover from this. I hope no one has to go through this but it is so big now a day people just cheat with anyone and don't care anymore. I can't relax. And yes for the people who wanna know she was prettier than me so yeah! I guess he level up great for him.
I am gorgeous I have a big heart I might be naive but at least I still have child like wonder and joy. You know when I imagined what it was like to be cheated on I thought I'd be insecure... I thought it'd completely break me. Yes I don't trust people as much now. I did cry don't get me wrong infect I sobbed it was ugly. I asked him why I guess that's the usual question. He went between trying to comfort me and telling me to shut the fuck up but when that was over clarity hit me... I told myself I never wanted to forget that feeling to know I don't deserve to be treated like that. I deserve better. That I can be okay. Yes I wanted him to beg for me I thought alot of stuff like that.... I wanted him to say he was sorry but I wanted him to mean it. But something he told me awhile ago about cheaters and this coming from a cheater is that they look for those exact traits in people.. someone niave and who have a big heart... I guess he thought I'd stay. Stay safe out there! ♥
I just wish things turned out differently I apart of me wishes I was still with you I loved you more than anything I never loved like that before and I promised myself I wouldn't ever again... I wish you reacted differently. I wish so many things but nothing can fix this I want to be your friend still I do I want to still talk every once and awhile I don't want to become strangers.. I just wish I could've gotten all that attention you gave other women it all just sucks... It just hurts... this was the first time I've cried since. Even if it was just a little cause you were my everything my everything... but apart of me still thinks if you didn't want to lose me you would've never done that. I don't know
You can lose your girl from lack of communication, a lack of attention, or just disrespect. You do not have to cheat to lose your girl.
