Healing From Trauma - Tumblr Posts

I’ll start off by saying that I can’t speak for everyone. However in my experience, and in my discussions with other survivors, it seems that in the early days of abuse recovery we become obsessed with understanding WHY.

Why did they do this?  Why didn’t I see who they really were?  Why did they choose me?  Why did I allow this?  

We buy books, research online for hours, bombard our therapists with theories, and try to find stories like ours. We look for the truth somewhere outside of ourselves.  It feels like if we can just find that one elusive  piece of the logic puzzle, our knowledge will heal us. 

It’s probably a necessary part of the process, and can be therapeutic in its own way. But you can’t push away the inevitable forever.  The feelings come, and they come hard.  They have to.

When I slowed down on the fervent research and made myself sit in the pit of horrors that was my brain, things started to change a bit. 

Affirmations for trauma/difficult past

I have been through hell and back

I am alive and that's a damn good start

My past affects me heavily, but it does not define me

I am compassionate

I am patient

I am kind to myself, even when I don't meet my own expectations

I would never judge somebody for asking for help, because I know what it's like to be helpless

I would never judge myself for asking for help

Support from others helps me to grow and heal

I am strong for seeking support instead of suffering in silence

I am honest and I am smart

I know my own limitations and I can set boundaries for myself

I can tell people "no" when things are getting to be too much for me

I don't owe people my time or my compliance

I follow the road to recovery, even when it's difficult

I follow the road to recovery even when it's uncomfortable

I keep my head up when I walk, because I am strong

I am safe

I love who I am becoming

I love myself in this present moment

Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score

Endless mutual cycle

In our humanity most traumatized usually most traumatize. Look at all the traumatized nations of the world - the more you are a victim and a witness the more you are traumatized. The more you get used to traumas - you less pay attention to pain of others, and even for you pain. This leads to more and more mutual pain. The only way for healing to our society is to heal our collective ptsd. It is hard, because that means meeting the dark sides of our own. Thatmeans healing and meeting our wounds by daring to feel all the spectrum of emotions. Otherwise too traumatized souls will seek only more and more power, ravange and destruction. Because when our soul feels powerless destructed and madly insulted... We might cast it on the next in line. Our responsibility is to be the change we want to see. To not assume we are good people just because of anything... Rather to look with highest credibility and honest authenticity and find all those parts in ourselves. Through the healing of individuals societies heal. Be part of this process with me, let's take personal responsibility ❤️