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REINVENTING MYSELF-Femininity

Simply put, I don’t like the woman I am now. I am a manifestation of my parents neglect, insecurities rooted in me since a child, along with suppressed and very obvious trauma. I want to see better, I want to do better, I want to attract better.

In preparation for spring (the actual “New Year”) I am currently throwing away EVERYTHING and starting completely fresh. Clothes, wigs, sheets, I even thought about tossing my diploma not a soul asked me for (not even school, everything is electronic).

This is she, me. Anew

Personality

She is mysterious, yet has a welcoming aura about her. You know she’s not the woman to step to unless it’s worth her time, but intimidating isn’t the feeling that comes over the admirer. She’s playful, actively laughing and playing with her dogs. Publicly and privately. A hopeless romantic, though a seductress first. Her love (and lust) is earned. She’s very hard to get.

Hopeless Romantic

Adventurous

Rebellious

Creative

Bookworm

Athletic

Hobbies

She’s always trying something new to see if she finds something she likes. Fear of dislike is never on her mind. As a curious spirit, she not only has hobbies but works to advance and meet those who share the same hobbies as her

Art museums

Theatre

Cooking & making recipe books to pass down

Scrapbooking

Learning about nature (plants, Survival skills, history)

Baking (for anyone)

Chess

White Wine

Astrology

Teapot Collecting

Reading research articles

Boundaries

Again, she’s very hard to get. Hard to impress. Hard to convince. Hard to plead to. As warm as her aura may be, she’s very no nonsense. She is in tune with her inner voice and intuition, who are the first to advise her about whatever you’re telling her.

No sex before substantial financial/personal commitment

Limited debates, always held with class and even tone. Never arguments or fights

Not surrounding self around people who don’t share the same ambition

I come first. My safety, my priorities and myself, period.

No unannounced guests (gift deliveries excluded)

I don’t entertain conversations with men after a certain time

I am selective about what I choose to listen to, so I cut all unproductive/negative conversations very short

Goals

She is an “overachiever”. Whatever that means.

Purchase first property

Travel to 5th country

Obtaining black dermatologist

Selling select art pieces for over ($XX,XXX)

Approved for American Express Platinum Card

Accepted into Ph.D program

Complete first few books/scripts

Learn Spanish and ASL fluently

I went deep into depth privately, and I highly suggest you do the same. Sometimes, it helps to have an organized, detail breakdown of who you are, who you want to become, and most importantly who are you leaving behind.

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Things women should never feel ashamed of:

• Orgasms

• Receiving money

• Receiving compliments

• Pretty privilege

• Being smart

• Dressing up

• Menstrual cycles

• Emotions and being sensitive

• Expressing our sexuality

• Resting and relaxation

• Asserting our sexual needs

• Maintaining our standards

• Saying No

• Wanting or having children

• Choosing to be childfree

• Our body count

• Our nude body

• Wearing makeup or not wearing makeup

• Having boundaries and protecting ourselves

• Our spiritual practices

• Using witchcraft

• Being ambitious

• Going to college

• Being a housewife or stay at home mom

• Loving who and what we love

HAVING UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE INCLUDES

Not caring what others think.

Voicing your opinion whether others agree with them or not.

Staying true to yourself.

Walking into any room and feeling powerful (not insecure).

Realizing you don’t have competition and not comparing yourself to others.

Feeling best about what you have to offer and who you are.

Putting yourself first.

Dreaming big and taking action to make your dreams happen.

Being a master manifestor.

Not needing anyone or their approval to be great.

Laughing at haters.

Presenting your best self to the world.

Having a stable emotional state (remaining hopeful and not allowing doubt to effect you).

Having your own standards and staying true to them.

Having a secure self image and not allowing others to define you.

Never lowering your standards.

Speaking your truth.

Allowing yourself to shine (talents, gifts) without judgement.

Supporting others and being joyous when they win.

Focusing on self.

Speaking highly of yourself.

Creating and doing what you love (not just what's popular).

Remaining dedicated to your goals even when you fail.

why do ya’ll get so mad when a woman considers herself attractive and doesn’t show an ounce of insecurity surrounding her looks. like whether she has them or not isn’t for you to presume/know but just the idea that she’s presenting herself to the world unashamedly gets you mad?? tgirls i’m sorry. please keep being beautiful i love you <3

MESSAGE!!!!🔊🔊💯

Why You Should Always Use Your Best Now Instead of Saving it for Later

🌹 Because you deserve to feel your best every day, not just on occasions.

🌹 Because "later" rarely comes.

🌹 Because you're just wasting your own money if you buy some high-quality makeup or skincare products just for them to expire barely used because you wanted to save them for an occasion.

🌹 Because life is unpredictable. What if a guest drops by unexpectedly and you're eating from a chipped plate or a tupperware container? What if you see your ex, or your crush, or meet the love of your life, or see your boss, or see someone who was mean to you in school, and you're wearing a worn-out hoodie and sweatpants with a hole? Many of us would feel self-conscious if something like that happened, but it can be avoided if you wear nice clothes and use your good china instead of keeping it hidden away for some possible future special event.

🌹 Because what's the point in having beautiful floral china, just for it to gather dust while you eat off of chipped plates and mismatched mugs? What's the point in owning silk blouses and cashmere jumpers, just for them to stay in your closet for months or years while you wear ratty t-shirts and sweatpants? What's the point in buying high quality makeup, just for it to spoil while you wear cheap stuff that's hard to put on and makes your face look cakey? Why own beautiful belongings just for them to never see the light of day?

🌹 Because using your best every day will show that you genuinely live well, instead of coming across as a phony when you meet the Joneses.

🌹 Because it's sad, after someone passes away, to see their fancy china, beautiful clothes, and other treasures in storage, rarely or never used, always waiting for an occasion that never came. If you won't use your best, who will? Life is short.

🌹 Because using your best everyday doesn't have to mean that special occasions will feel less special. Instead of only bringing out the good dinnerware for guests, use it everyday, but make occasions feel different with a spectacular floral arrangement, or with classical music on in the background instead of the TV. Wear your good foundation and mascara everyday, but wear a bolder makeup look for an event.

🌹 Because people's tastes change throughout the years. What if you buy something, keep it for later, and by the time later comes, you don't like it at all anymore?

🌹 Because special occasions still feel special even when you don’t use your best for them.

🌹 Because using beautiful items instead of settling for mediocrity elevates a normal day from feeling mundane to feeling decadent and luxurious.

Wear your good makeup. Wear your chic clothes. Put on your good skincare products. Doodle in your pretty notebooks. Burn your fancy candles. Spray your expensive perfume. Drink the expensive gifted wine. Eat the gourmet chocolates. Live in the now, not the uncertain future. Honour yourself by allowing yourself to use these special treasures.

ACTUALLY.....ENOUGH SAID 🧐🤔

HOW TO BECOME "HER"

BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE

Work on building your self-confidence by recognizing your strengths & accomplishment. The moment I’ve decided to show up for my self every day. My self-confident jumped to the roof. 

How do you show up for yourself? Only tip you need…  Do the things you said you were gonna do! 

You said you were going to the gym 3x/week, do it. You said you would start that business, do it. You said you would stop eating out, do it.

SET GOALS

Identify your goals & values.

What is your dream job? Who do you want to become? What do you want to achieve in your life?

SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Learn to set clear boundaries in your personal & professional life.

« No » is a full sentence. Also remind yourself that people that react negatively to your boundaries weren’t meant to stay in your life to begin with.

PRACTICE SELF-CARE

Practice self-care & well-being. Make yourself a first priority.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVITY

Surround yourself with supportive and positive influences.

LEARN A HIGH INCOME SKILL

Learn a high income skill to become financially independent, so that you can allow yourself to reach your money goals and have the freedom to make choices that match your values and dreams without needing financial support from others.

READY TO BECOME "HER" ?

be your best version before 2024

i have come up with a kind of challenge to become our best version before the end of the year.

with this habit we are going to implement healthier habits in our lives and abandon those that are not benefiting us, also get to know ourselves better and manifest our desires or goals for the next year.

the challenge has a duration of 21 days but obviously after that we have to continue with this healthy lifestyle that we have created.

- habits to implement on a daily basis

drink two liters of water a day (recommended for physical and mental health).

movement (training at home, at the gym, going for a walk, running, yoga, pilates, any activity that allows you to exercise your body)

commit yourself to one habit during these 21 days, for example journaling.

choose a meditation on something you want to improve in your life, it can be self-love, relationships, economic abundance, health and do it daily (i recommend before going to sleep) during all the days of the challenge.

also choose a video of affirmations, a subliminal, mantra that has to do with the meditation you chose and listen to it at least once a day and if you can more, whenever you feel like it.

print, make or buy a calendar to keep track of this challenge and mark the days you met, if you miss one, start again, propose it.

go to bed an hour earlier than you usually go to bed and get up half an hour earlier than you usually get up.

- habits you need to start replacing now

screen time, stop being so much connected to social media and do something outside or even at home but you don't have to use your phone.

in any social media, stop following 10 accounts that you think are "hurting" you and in turn follow 5 new ones that you think will help you in your personal growth and development or at least inspire you something positive, the time you are going to use social media at least see things that nourish you.

stop worrying, when a problem or difficulty of any kind comes up, write in a journal how you feel, do a meditation or anything else that keeps you focused on something other than the problem, if necessary you can feel the anger or sadness, but don't get stuck in those thoughts.

instead of spending time watching tv or any streaming platform, read a book or listen to a spiritual/personal growth podcast.

- journaling ideas

during these days you can write in your diary these kinds of things:

how you would like your year 2024 to be.

all your goals for the next year.

how you would like your best version of yourself to be from now on.

an extraordinary event that you would like to happen before the end of this year.

a letter of forgiveness to someone who hurt you (it can be yourself too).

a list of 10 things you would do or would like to happen to you if you believe that everything is possible for you.

list of books you want to read from now and this 2024

a mantra or affirmation that you will write daily every morning for the next 21 days. write one that comes to mind or one that resonates with you.

- how to do the challenge?

organize your day to implement the habits i mentioned at the beginning such as exercise, journaling, drinking the two liters of water, doing the meditation you chose, listening to the affirmations you chose.

if one day you don't do any of these things, propose to start again from day 1.

you don't have to exercise daily either, if you are just starting out it can be 3 or 4 days but for example the other days go for a walk or do a stretching routine.

what i have proposed are small habits that can be done daily and complement the routine you have right now, you can do it and after those 21 days you will see a significant change in your life.

this challenge is just a kind of game to make it more fun and have more motivation to implement these habits in your day and start doing it now and not when the year begins. that your best version does not wait any longer to come to light.

and i hope you tell me how it went 🤍

How & Why Gatekeep Yourself

I loved this tweet so much that I sat down and brainstormed how to gatekeep myself. ✨💋🍷

This is something that has been on my mind since entering the business world and representing our family business at events, in negotiations and meetings.

As a naive 20-something, I had to make a conscious effort to learn not to share too much about myself and family.

Even if I had a row with my sibling that same morning, at the afternoon industry mixer I'll only talk about how harmoniously we work together.

People in business, as well as any acquaintances, are not your friends. Most people you encounter daily as a young woman don't have your best interests in mind.

Here are the minor details you can share with anyone that seem personal but don't reveal anything significant about your life:

Favorite foods: Mentioning your favorite snack, dessert, or a specific dish you enjoy.

Music preferences: Sharing a song or artist you’re currently listening to.

Pet peeves: Mentioning small things that annoy you, like loud chewing or slow internet.

Daily routines: Talking about how you like your coffee or a morning ritual like reading the news.

Hobbies: Discussing a hobby you’re interested in, like gardening, knitting, or collecting something simple.

TV shows/movies: Mentioning the show or movie you’re currently watching or have recently enjoyed.

Childhood memories: Sharing a funny or light story from your childhood that doesn’t reveal much about your personal life.

Weather preferences: Talking about how you prefer rainy days to sunny ones, or vice versa.

Travel dreams: Mentioning a place you’d like to visit one day, without giving away any travel plans.

Favorite color: Sharing your favorite color or type of clothing you like to wear.

These details create the illusion of being open without revealing anything that could be used to deeply understand or analyze your life.

Gatekeep yourself, stay classy. 🎀🪞🩰🦢🕯️

Queen Letizia of Spain. We can only aspire to this level of rizz.

How to Be a GIRLBOSS with Pinterest It Girl Arielle!

I’m overwhelmed with happy emotions because I can finally say that The Spill’s new episode featuring me is out! I’m so incredibly grateful to be on The Spill with icon, Vivian Rose. I’m also so grateful to Vivian for having me on the podcast and of course, God for his blessing. It was so much fun to film and Vivian made me feel very welcomed. I hope you all can listen to this episode and get inspired.

I recommend you all check out Vivian Rose’s Youtube, Pinterest, podcast, blog, e-book, and her different businesses. She truly is an icon, girlboss, it girl, and a blessing to have on this Earth. https://linktr.ee/vivianrose22?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=07f69de9-a23a-4924-abc4-de47e16c2a62

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Confidence

Confidence comes from within. Just like feminine energy is internal

Confidence is the belief in oneself.

Tips to be confident:

Accept your flaws and embrace them. They make you uniquely you

Speak & Think highly of yourself

Listen to Affirmations that boost your confidence (My Affirmation playlist)

Know that you are capable of whatever you put your mind to

Remember that no one is better than you

Don't be afraid to say "No" to things that do not serve you

Have Standards & Stick to Them no matter who disagrees

Confidence is like a skill. It's built overtime. Give yourself time & grace.

Date a man who provides 100%, no matter how much money you make #ProviderMenOnly

Reminder: YOU are the PRIZE.

15 habits of successful women

inspiration comes from countless sources about prosperous women 

wake up early 

follow a morning routine 

follow an evening routine

journal daily 

read books

view every situation as an opportunity 

go for walks

eat healthy

drink water

meditate

prepare for your day the night before

keep an idea notebook

listen to podcasts

exercise at least 3x a week

practice gratitude

daily habits that are making me feel much better this 2024

waking up very early

if you are a person who finds it difficult to get up early you can achieve this by getting up an hour earlier than usual, you'll notice the difference.

journaling

it's my favorite habit and i do it every morning and before going to sleep, it also helps me in moments when I'm not feeling well to feel better and see things from a different perspective. on amazon there are many journals with questions already formulated to answer every morning and every night, highly recommended! i've been doing this since october last year and i noticed a big difference.

listen/watch personal growth videos/podcasts every day

it's not necessary to spend all day consuming this content but every day i like to learn something new or just reaffirm something i already know to make it stronger. watching content like this helps to replace old beliefs with new ones that are more beneficial and healthy. plus the people who make this content usually have a really good vibe. i love listening to this while i'm at the gym.

break with the routine once or twice a week

i mean do something different from what you can normally do, for example, I love to go out to a coffee shop have my favorite drink while listening to music, and spend some time on pinterest looking for inspiration, not only pictures but i also find very interesting things that i can apply in my day to day life!

listening to frequencies to raise my vibration

i have realized that this is very powerful and it is very important to have a high vibration, one of the most important reasons for me is that i have realized that besides having more mental calm and fewer worries is that low vibrational thoughts do not enter my mind, so to speak. examples of frequencies: 528hz, 432hz, 111hz. on youtube there are many. crystal bowls are also one of my favorites.

getting out of my comfort zone

the first week of this new year didn't make much difference to me and sometimes we expect things to change suddenly, and this can happen but it doesn't always happen right away. this week i have been much less resistant to making changes in my life and having a new schedule with an improved routine has made me feel much better.

be more present. think/act as my best version would act

this is very powerful. it is typical to act on autopilot and many times i was not fully aware of some habits i had that were harming me to a greater or lesser extent or of the things i was thinking. this doesn't mean that sometimes you have to do something you don't like, it's just another experience at the end of the day, but i mean to stop consuming content or doing things that don't help me to be the version i want to be and also to be more present, enjoying my day no matter what happens tomorrow.

besides all this, exercise, healthy and balanced eating, meditation are also important to me, but these are things that i always mention because they are part of my life and i wanted to contribute something new to serve as inspiration for others.

you don't have to do everything on the list but maybe something of what I have written catches your attention, you implement it in your life and it starts to improve significantly. that has happened to me.

what to invest in to look and feel good this 2024

nutritionist or books on healthy and balanced nutrition

dental treatments

endocrinologist, if you need to know and take care of the functioning of your hormones

treatments for the care of your skin and hair, such as hairdressing, good products for hair and face, facial cleansing, treatments that your skin needs, go to a dermatologist if you need it, know what type of skin you have and know what are the right products to take care of it.

gym, a sports activity or time to do some exercise on your own, such as training at home. this not only helps your body look good, but also improves your physical and mental health.

psychological therapy, there are still people who believe that the psychologist is only necessary for people with serious problems, but that is not so, a therapist can guide us and help us to improve in the areas of our life that we want.

energy therapies, which would be complementary to psychological therapy, such as reiki, energy cleansing, access bars, among others.

quality time with yourself, do the things you enjoy, your hobbies and also time with people who make you feel good and from whom you can both enrich each other.

and if you have more ideas about this, share them in the comments, it can be of great help to other people ✨

mindset is everything. the way you look at the world is how it appears.

telling yourself you are capable, confident, and going to crush the day with kindness not only lets you change your world but the world of everyone around you.

BECOMING THE WOMAN YOU WANT

Imagine the woman you want to become. Envision her embracing a lifestyle woven with healthy habits that radiate positivity and well-being. Picture her waking up early, greeting the day with gratitude, and setting intentions that shape her mindset for success.

In her daily routine, she prioritizes self-care—nourishing her body with wholesome meals, staying hydrated, and indulging in regular exercise that she genuinely enjoys. Whether it's a morning yoga session, an evening run, or a dance class, physical activity is not a chore but a celebration of what her body can achieve.

This woman values the power of mindfulness. Picture her taking moments throughout the day to breathe deeply, practice meditation, or simply appreciate the present. It's in these mindful pauses that she finds clarity, resilience, and a profound connection with herself.

As she moves through her day, healthy habits extend into her work life. This woman is organized and efficient, using time management techniques to tackle tasks without feeling overwhelmed. Regular breaks and moments of reflection help her maintain focus and creativity.

Evenings are a sanctuary for winding down. She cherishes a good night's sleep, prioritizing rest as a cornerstone of her well-being. Unplugging from screens, engaging in calming activities, and maintaining a consistent sleep schedule contribute to the rejuvenation her body and mind need.

Remember, becoming her doesn't happen overnight. It's a gradual process, a collection of intentional choices and persistent efforts. Start incorporating these healthy habits, step by step, and watch as you evolve into the empowered, balanced woman you aspire to be. 🌿💪🌺🌟

be aware of what you consume:

the energy of others: surround yourself with positive people and avoid those who drain you.

the videos you watch: select content that inspires, educates or entertains you in a healthy way.

what you read: look for reliable sources and material that enriches you intellectually.

who you follow: follow people who inspire and challenge you to grow.

what you scroll through on social media: avoid negative content and look for something that motivates you or makes you feel good.

the news: look for objective sources of information and avoid information overload.

highlights of others: compare less and celebrate more the achievements of others.

the advice you listen to: evaluate advice according to your criteria and needs.

source: @zamirasaba