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Author-by-Night

Waxing philosophic about TTRPG and LARP design, safe & ethical game running, narrative tropes, and my dog.(He/They/She)

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Less "if They Really Loved You, They Wouldn't Ever Hurt You." More "hurt Feelings And Conflicts Are An

Less "if they really loved you, they wouldn't ever hurt you." More "hurt feelings and conflicts are an unavoidable part of life, but the people worthy of being in yours will apologize and work on their behavior once they realize they are hurting you. You can't expect perfection from anyone, but you can and should expect effort."

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SUE THEM INTO THE F*CKING GROUND!!!!

1 year ago

Despite what my mom thinks, she is objectively wealthy. Lives in a McMansion in an affluent white suburb and everything. When I was a kid she refused to stock food I could eat to the point that in high school my PCP told me that if I didn’t get my weight up by my next appointment she would diagnose me as clinically anorexic to force changes. There were frequent times when my punishment for “disrespecting” her was that she’d confiscate any way I had of reaching support outside the house, threaten to use the police to bring me back if I ran away, and scream at me for hours. When it was time for college she refused to contribute for a laundry list of reasons, almost all of which were some flavor of resistance to her demanding complete control of my life.

My dad, by contrast (they were divorced and separate households) was extremely supportive. Despite paying child support, going bankrupt twice, and generally being much less well off he was the “no child of mine is going to school in tattered clothes / going hungry” type. He also took out loans to support my going to college and eventually shamed my mom into contributing.

The difference between their resources and their support was stark, and telling.

Allergy to nuance isn’t a problem unique to the left, but it is a problem. Ignoring nuance creates victims. Always. When it comes to the class war, the heart of the struggle is haves vs have nots. An oppressing class of wealthy elites vs the people they exploit by hoarding wealth and gatekeeping opportunity. So it’s kind of a… wild position, to be like “But not THESE people who are being kept from accessing wealth or having opportunities taken away at the whims of the elite!”

The bitter pill is, folks who are content to say that all children of the wealthy are “the enemy” regardless of their circumstances are more interested in creating a social in group / out group than in actually fighting any good fight. Or in justifying taking out their rage on the vulnerable people they can actually reach while the elites remain shameless and untouchable.

Morality isn’t as simple as political slogans make it seem, and the abused children of the rich can tell you first hand that unnecessary wealth is a fucking disease.

As a kid, when your parents are poor, you're poor. If they don't have money, that means none of you have money. But if someone's parents are rich, that doesn't necessarily mean the kid is. Sometimes rich peoples' kids aren't rich kids, they're just some rich freak's exotic pets that can talk but aren't allowed to.