This Is Soooo Important.

This is soooo important.

I know it can be scary to set boundaries and say no. I know it can be awkward to tell someone they're making you upset or uncomfortable. Believe me, I know how hard that can be, especially for people-pleasers and people who fear rejection.

Trust me when I say the relief from being honest and open will long outweigh the awkwardness of having to say it.

Trust me when I say that any bad feelings that may come from being upfront are WAY better than just suffering in silence and then inevitably blowing up.

People often confuse being assertive for being rude, but it's NOT MEAN. Just think of how upset you'd be if you were unknowingly hurting or upsetting someone you cared about..

TL;DR Stop gossiping. Stop being passive aggressive. Be upfront, say no when you mean no,, set boundaries, tell someone if they've upset you. I PROMISE it will prove the quality of your relationships.

actually you either need to set clear boundaries with people or not get mad when people “overstep” something that doesnt even exist to them. its stupid as hell to assume everyone owns the standardized handbook of social interaction and get mad when someone may do something you dont like without even realizing it. its even worse when people act like its a toxic relationship when the literal only problem is no established boundaries lmfao

Accept that you cannot change people unless they want to change themselves. Accept that you cannot be everything's for everyone.

Friendship is about a balanced give and take. If you do nothing but give to your friends, you must learn to say "no," to value yourself and your wellbeing and your time.

If your friends do nothing but take, you need to find new, balanced relationship with independent and stable people.

You are not a therapist for your friends or family, nor are you a bank, an Uber, a 24/7 advice column, a trauma dumping ground, or a lightning rod for other's frustration and anger.

You are a person, independent like the people around you. And like the people around you, you need friendship and balance and support.

If you do not know how to ask for it, you must learn how overtime, slowly but surely.

If the people in your life are unwilling to provide this for you even when they ask it of you, you need new people in your life who will.

this is very random but I feel like nobody ever talks about them so happy pride month to all the bisexual men out there i hope you have a good month

value yourself n cut off anyone who doesn’t value you honestly!

The most genius I’ve ever felt was when I was working in the physics lab. We had installed a camera at a pressure chamber window so we could watch a laser do pulse ablation on a metal plate. However, we had a problem no one could figure out; the laser would phase in and out on our live feed from the camera. The team was freaking out about the possibility of this 30k laser being defective and they were about to take apart the vacuum chamber when I was like “uh... guys? We’re firing the laser at 23 pulses per second.”

Mind you, I’m a sophomore at this point, working with 3 grad students and a professor. I’m at a point in my career where I can barely explain the math behind what research I’m actually doing.

The professor is like “.... Yeah? What about it?” And I explain: “Most cameras film at 24 frames per second. The laser looks like it’s phasing in and out because it’s out of phase with the camera” so we adjusted the pulse per second a bit until it was in phase and shockingly! It worked perfectly. The prof and the grad students just looked.. dumbfounded? And I guess camera fps rates aren’t common knowledge, at least to them. They treated me like I was the smartest person in the room even though the only reason I knew that information was from making gifsets of Pacific Rim when I was in high school

Your teenage years are the most difficult and irritating ones. Don't feel bad about kissing them goodbye.

You did not waste them. There is virtually no way of wasting your teenage years, whether your worked or not, had relationships or not, gothey are the first steps in the long self-discovery journey that is your young adult life.

Your teenage years are for trying new things, finding your comfort zone, having relationships that go nowhere and worries that add up to nothing, for existential crisis, for hormones and confusion and breakthroughs, for realizing that high school ends and that you have the rest of your life ahead of you to figure things out.

Also you're very adorable and sorry this is such a late response. Happy late birthday 🎉

before i have a breakdown bc the fact that my birthday is right around the corner and it will be the last of my teenage years and ive wasted all of them has set in anybody wanna admit they have a crush on me ?