Sketches For Pride Month. Head Empty No Thoughts Poses On The Left, Practicing Puffy Cat Shapes On The

Sketches for pride month. Head empty no thoughts poses on the left, practicing puffy cat shapes on the right. Colored with flags. They’re gay. (:

I’ll put a little in here too because this is a good rant.

I’m happy for you. I wish I was that patient with myself when I was younger— actually, I was mostly just confused. Not getting crushes was just one more thing that made me feel out of place. I was always making them up.

In middle school, there was a boy who was super into me. He was cute and sweet and geeky and we had similar last names so we always ended up with lockers right by one another and in lines together and such. He asked me to date him and I was like… yea, you mathematically seem like a good boyfriend. I remember my friends asking me if I liked him and I said “Yea he’s cute, like a puppy” and I couldn’t understand why that was wrong. It was really hard for me to distinguish chemistry, which I’ve experienced before in a platonic way, from what people described as romantic attraction. I dated around, I got very confused, and then I was given the word “asexual.” Suddenly everything made sense.

A couple years ago, if I was offered a button that would make me allo, that would let me have romantic and sexual attraction, I would’ve hit that button so hard and fast it would’ve blown me up. Now, though? …I think I agree with you. I don’t want it. I’m happier without it. I don’t need some “other half,” I don’t need to want to hold hands or kiss or whatever. I have a sort of chill QPR partner and we’re doing great. I do want kids eventually, but I’ll figure that out when I come to it. I’ll figure it all out. I trust me.

I’m glad we have these words. I’m glad we have pride. I’m glad we can find each other so we don’t have to be scared. There’s nothing wrong with us.

Ok that’s all (: thanks

Saw aromantic trending so I wanna rant share about my experience being aroace :D

It never really occurred to me as a kid that I was different when it came to romance and stuff. Whenever my friends talk about crushes, I often think about an entirely different topic cause I could never relate. It never interested me since I never felt it. People would have crushes on others in school, celebrities, or something else. But it never occurred to me that having no attraction wasn’t the norm since I always thought I’ll find the “right person” someday. I was just like “everyone gets a romantic partner eventually, why should I rush it?” Which is why I didn’t feel out of place for my lack of attraction. I was never rushed by my peers, but I was taught that love eventually happens.

Figuring out and accepting I was aroace was definitely a slow burn for me. I knew what the label was and I think I kinda identified with it but it felt like a label I tacked on cause I was always thinking in the back of my mind that I’ll like someone someday. Overtime, I realized that the present is what matters when identifying as something, and right now, I can confidently say I’ll never feel sexual and romantic attraction. I’ve come to accept that I’m aroace and I’m very proud to be.

Upon this realization though, I’ve seen how much this world and a lot of people in it values romance. So. Much. Amatonormativity. There were multiple times where I would hang out with a friend of a different gender and friends of that person would be like “oh wow u finally got a partner” or something. Like, we were just talking, which is something that, literally, everyone does. Sometimes I feel like everyone expects me to marry when I don’t want to. One time my sister was talking about her celebrity crush and my mom said “everyone has a celebrity crush” and when I replied with “I don’t,” she said “aww” like it was sad or something. And I don’t understand why?? It’s not a bad thing to not have a crush on a popular person. Also, I’m glad the internet lets me see other people are also aroace cause a lot of the time, I feel lonely. Literally all the people in my life have either had a crush and/or been in a relationship. I’m not sad I don’t feel that same attraction, but I would like someone in my real life to talk to about this, someone who’s able to understand the lack of feelings I have, someone who has the same ideas about amatonormativity. Yeah I’m good with being alone, but it can get lonely when it feels like I’m the only one who doesn’t feel romantic and sexual attraction in a 100 mile radius. I don’t got a desire to partner up in any kind of relationship, so I have to accept that I’m most likely not the first priority for anyone due to me not being their lover.

Despite those struggles, I’m still very glad to be aroace. It feels so nice to know that I can live a life that’s not pictured for me already. I don’t want a partner, I don’t want kids, I don’t want to marry, and other stuff. Anyone can do that, but I love not feeling crushes. I don’t hate romance or sex, but I don’t really care about it when it comes to real life. I never felt like I had to conform when it came to romantic relationships and I’m gonna keep doing that. If someone had a button that could give me romantic and sexual feelings, I would take the batteries out and shatter it into a million pieces, cause I’m damn glad to be aroace.

This thing turned out way longer than I expected and I know I’m a little late for aromantic visibility day but I just wanted to pour all this out. Thanks for reading all the way if u did and happy pride month y’all :>

did i tell u guys i got into an argument on twitter bc i said foxes are dogs and someone tried to bring up their actual fuckin. classification or whatever and i just said “foxes are dogs cause they are fluffye” and they kept arguing with me. the entire time i was like “you will not survive the immigration to tumblr you are lucky we are not there right now”

I don't know it's pretty neat to think about

happy pride month

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