When Theon Come Home After Many Years Balon Said That Ned And Other Stark Is Bad/hostile And Censured

When Theon come home after many years Balon said that Ned and other Stark is bad/hostile and censured his clothes. ,,Did Ned Stark dress you like that? Was it his pleasure to garb you in velvets and silks and make you his own sweet daughter?'' I have one qestion. Why Balon don't thought that Theon just don't have clothes like other ironborn? Cause Ned don't allowed Theon wear clothes like on island (or somethink else what Balon can imagine).

Maybe Balon loved Alannys. Their first son they called Rodrik, maybe like Alannys brother, but Balon can called him like someone of Greyjoys. Also he had 2 salt wifes, but where their kids? If he had bastards son, they would came to Pyke after Theon go with Starks, but this doesn't happen. Balon raised Asha like his heir.  Also after Alannys moved to Harlaw and they cant have other sons Balon dont take new wifes. So, yes I think that Balon love Alannys, and she loved her husband back. But after rebellion she saw ,,real Balon's face” (stupid egoist) and with time become apathetic to husband ( and maybe some time hated him.)

theon: dream that Ned might marry him to Sansa also theon: speak with Robb about ,,his girls'',  behave arrogant and levity  in front of Ned

Quellon as father is so bad. One of his sons (Euron) abused little brothers and killed older and he just bad person. Balon become big not normal Old Way fanat. Quellon must did something with Euron's behave and talk with Balon about Old Way. But he didn't.

And Balon is shitty father too. Rodrik was alcoholic, Maron bulled Theon and he rised as scared and shy boy( I think Balon don't like this) but he also do nothing. And during his rebellion Rodrik and Maron dead, later he lost Theon. He is good father only for Asha

Only one lady Sunderly can't cope with 5 kids and Alannys with 4 kids alone.(I don't think that this is real).

Just imagine that Theon have cousin(Euron’s bastard). Named, for example, Dagon. And Jeyne Poole marry with Dagon and Sansa with Theon on the same day. Jeyne and Sansa called each other ,,sister’’.There is neither Joffrey nor Ramsay nor anyone else in this story And this big famaly is happy.

Balon always was stupid and have more faults. He wanted bold and stronge kids. Two older sons bulled younger, who physically can’t protect himself (becaust younger). It’s weak act, not bold or stronge.But Balon don’t care. Also Balon can beat or humiliated Theon. As result Theon was shy and scared boy. And Balon just disappointed in Theon, when this was his fault too.