darkforestdreams

A wannabe creator

Age: 26 years -- Pronouns: She/Her/They/Them -- Orientation: Asexual -- high functioning autistic -- dealing with anxiety and some PTSD -- but I'm still friendly! -- Loves writing, voice acting, music, and more -- My old account: https://www.tumblr.com/goldleafgardenia -- My PKMN IRL account: https://www.tumblr.com/illusions-of-the-forest

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So Little Update On My Rival Crush:

so little update on my rival crush:

so, i ended up asking her outright if she's been flirting and. honestly she started laughing really hard. apparently she thought i was very aware of this but i was just nervous. anyway, she asked me outright if i'd be her girlfriend and of course i said yes!! i brought up the battle arena discount for rival-couples for luvday which honestly was a great idea since we spend all our money on potions, so now we have a first date planned! so... thank you!!!

LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOO

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darkforestdreams

2 years ago

Twitter thread by Anosognosiogenesis (@pookleblinky) 2 hrs ago.

1) Think about a childhood bully, punching you when the teacher isn't looking. You shout, maybe push them away, teacher reprimands you for your uncivilized angry outburst.

What does that bully say, intuitively?

"he hit me first."

2) Every bully knows DARVO, instinctively. They're rewarded for it, from cradle on.

Their most natural, intuitive reaction is to deny, cast themselves as the victim. It works, stunningly.

3) They'll spend a lifetime learning how effective it is, in every situation, to cast themselves as the victimized party that did nothing wrong.

4) In the immediate aftermath, they learn that others will completely accept their lies, almost as instinctively.

Later, they learn that being known as the aggrieved victim casts a perceptual blindspot in others, who literally will not notice that they were the one doing

5) Years and decades of this reinforcement, resulting in a guy who has zero moral qualms about doing the most heinous shit you've ever heard of and going "this is nothing compared to what that guy did"

6) It's easy to medicalize this, individualize this. Diagnose the person with a cluster B disorder, make it an abnormality specific to them.

Twitter thread by Anosognosiogenesis (Cont'd)

7) The reality is that basically anyone who learned those lessons, would think and act the same way.

Those who grew up wealthy, simply had many more abundant opportunities to learn them than others.

8) It's less an individual being "sociopathic" and more that their society was eager to encourage and reward them for mastering DARVO.

9) The vast, vast majority of the absolute shittiest people you've ever heard of, had no psychiatric issues at all.

They simply spent well over 10,000 hours learning how absolutely effective DARVO is in a society that already hates the people they victimize.

10) Medicalizing it, treating it as a problem of that individual, allows you to not ask why they were rewarded every time they used it, in every situation, by damn near everyone.

11) Less "why would he lie about this?" and more "why the fuck hasn't even one person told him to knock it the fuck off and shut the fuck up"

Twitter thread by Anosognosiogenesis (Cont'd)

12) Being outright viciously hostile to people trying to use DARVO, no matter their age, would do more to stem the neverending fountain of assholes and utter dipshits than nearly anything else.

13) Your well-timed "shuttheFUCKup" when someone tries to pull that shit, may be the first time in that person's miserable life that they've ever experienced it failing to work.

14) Tell a bully to shut the fuck up, and make him fear trying to pull that shit again, does more than endlessly trying to throw the DSM at him to make it his problem and not a problem with the society that formed him.

15) Basically elon needs to shut his ass the entire fuck up.

DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

An abuser denies the abuse ever took place, attacks the person that was abused (often the victim) for attempting to hold the abuser accountable for their actions, and claims that they are actually the victim in the situation, thus reversing what may be a reality of victim and offender. It often involves not just "playing the victim" but also victim blaming.

TL;Dr: Stop pathologizing neurodivergent people and individualizing abuse, and start treating abusers and bullies as a social failing that are products of privilege.

Unless you want to insist that every bitchass who's ever plagued marginalized people has NPD.

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darkforestdreams

2 years ago

Unfriendly reminder that it's unethical to quickly evolve a baby/low level Pokémon by over feeding them rare candies or triggering an evolution via stones/items.

What evolution is supposed to be is another stage in life, an accumulation of their experience and grown strength, the developed bond between you and your Pokémon.

I've seen countless Pokémon abandoned because their trainers pretty much forced a baby into an adult's body and now this over powered, over sized baby doesn't know how to behave. They didn't learn that biting hurts, they didn't learn to be careful or else they'll break things, they didn't learn to listen to you, etc.

If you want a last stage Pokémon so bad, catch one yourself, learn to be patient and be an actual trainer, or pay a breeder for a fully trained Pokémon that's ready.

Tags :

pokemon pokeblogging pokemon irl

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darkforestdreams

2 years ago

give me tears of the kingdom, i need to feel this again…..

Tags :

legend of zelda BOTW BOTW 2 korok BOTW Link

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darkforestdreams

2 years ago

You know you can make sideblogs, right? People don't interact with RP blogs that mix things unrelated to that fandom, it's too cluttering.

Oh, I didn't know that, actually! I'll get to it. Thank you for telling me! :)

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darkforestdreams

2 years ago

I’m obsessed with these guys who just do Three Stooges impersonations on tiktok

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