The Colin Needs To Be Humbled Discourse Is Wild, Like Did We Not Watch The Same 2 Seasons? That Man Nearly

The Colin needs to be humbled discourse is wild, like did we not watch the same 2 seasons? That man nearly locked himself into one of the most toxic marriages in the series just because he thought she was the first person to ever take him seriously, had a flop Eat Pray Love trip around Greece where he just got high, stared at grass and avoided making eye contact with women, and then came back to England at 22 years old, with no money and no prospects, already a burden to his parents, and frightened. He’s HUMBLED.

Not to mention he cannot have a conversation with Penelope without revealing his biggest insecurities to her, like that he feels aimless and purposeless, that his self confidence was in the tank after Marina and it changed how he saw himself, that he had to practice the speech he made to cousin Jack because he was nervous, and even in the midst of Penelope being angry at him he couldn’t help but let it slip that his own family barely kept in contact with him when he was abroad. If anything Penelope being mad at him might be what breaks him completely. My guy is a walking cry for help (and I love him for it.)

I keep seeing things where people are like "it was so nice to see Colin's satisfied little smirk fall when he realized she wasn't going to fall over herself for him anymore" because they seem to think he really only sees Penelope as an ego boost, but like...my guy just found out he hurt one of his best friends feelings? And thats why shes been ignoring him for months? Hes not upset because his ego isn't getting stroked, he's upset because he hurt someone he cares about. Why is it so hard for y'all to grasp

He is literally three apples tall😭

I hope people stay openminded either way. The experienced man/virgin woman trope is fine, but other dynamics can be hot too. Every character having the exact same relationship to sex will be boring after (hopefully) 8 seasons.

Even Anthony and Benedict as rakes have different relationships to sex. Anthony chooses to sleep with sex workers who expect payment (Siena, as a 19th century opera singer and courtesan fits this category, even though he’s most attached to her) while Benedict sleeps with a more free-love crowd of women who are in it for a good time and don’t really expect anything in return. Both things fit each character really well, and suit the love stories they have to tell about them in unique and interesting ways. Anthony who treats sex like an arrangement because he likes control and to manage his emotions ends up trying to treat marriage like another arrangement, only to get swept up falling in love for love’s sake. Benedict who has women fall into his lap pretty easily and without effort will fall for a woman who turns him down at every opportunity forcing him to take things slowly.

Whatever relationship Colin does have to sex should be based on what fits his character. From what we’ve seen of him so far, it would be entirely out of character for him to be a rake, BUT that also doesn’t mean he’s necessarily a virgin. Wouldn’t surprise me or disappoint me either way, although I will say if he’s not a virgin, waiting until the Polin season to show him being physical with a woman who’s not Penelope would be the weirdest choice possible, so I doubt we’d actually see anything even if they say it.

The viewers that want to say Colin is undesirable for being a virgin I can’t really take seriously lol. It’s a fantasy show, they haven’t portrayed losing virginity in a realistic way so far, nor have they portrayed the more sordid realities of being a 19th century rake in a realistic way either. They’re going for romance and sex appeal, everything’s filmed with rose tinted glasses.

A rant (but not really)

People have semi-moved on, but the whole debate of virgin Col vs not is something still so confusing to me. I'm feeling it in multiple aspects of living tbh-women are honestly becoming more vocal on things like this that sound toxic. For another show I'm watching, viewers have speculated so much about a man's sexual experience and it's about a real not fictional person(!), which is baffling to me. And so I wrote this to say I don't even think the argument re: Colin's experience was going to be something satisfying to a bulk of people regardless. If Colin was a virgin, viewers would shame him for it and act as though he's undesirable. If Colin was a rake, viewers would shame him for it, acting as though he is unworthy of Penelope; and even if not quite a rake but definitely not a virgin, people still would think he is not allowed to experience outside of his future spouse. It really is like the lose-lose of judgement women have faced for years on their sexual history. In summary, women are now men; men are still men (I luv it here).

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No, but ... Penelope being like "Your eyes shine the brightest when you are kind" and falling for Colin cause he was being nice to her ... meanwhile one of the Polin scenes so far is her making fun of someone and him going: "damn giiiiiiirl, that's the funniest shit I've ever heard"

I love true soulmates (and lying)