September Ins Self Love, Better Boundaries, Workout, Reading, Meditation, Journaling, Self-evaluations,

September in’s ——❥ Self love, better boundaries, workout, reading, meditation, journaling, self-evaluations, a better diet, good risk taking, studying, good grades, good high school credit, confrontation, not being walked all over, learning makeup, taking care of my body and mind 💗

September outs ——❥ negative self talk, drama, laziness, suppressing my feelings, procrastination, bad grades, people pleasing, avoiding my feelings, neglecting my body and mind.

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Yes pretty! This would be so nice to have 🎀

Hii beauties, I had this question in my mind for a long time, but would you guys want me to start a podcast where I talk about anything?

I’ve been dressing more scene and scene everyday!!

How to get the confidence to dress alternative in public: LONG POST {from a scene king!!}

I hear a lot of young teens online saying things along the lines of, “I would love to dress like that but I’m scared”. We’ve all been there, it takes bravery to step outside the box. Since 2020, there has been an uptick in alternative fashion, which makes things a little better, but it doesn’t mitigate the fear some people feel.

As someone who has been dressing alternative all throughout highschool and who I’d like to think has some 17 year old wisdom, this is how you can get the confidence to dress how you want. This can apply to other alternative fashion types like decora, punk, goth ect ect.

This post goes with a youtube video!! You can just watch it if you dont wanna read

Realize why you’re scared: Is it because you’re afraid of being different or picked on? Are you afraid of change? Do you think your friends/peers won’t care about you anymore? These are all valid reasons, and once you know why, you can start to tackle it. Change isn’t bad, everyone changes, change is natural. Look around at nature, seasons change, we grow and age, animals migrate and go through metamorphosis. You don’t have to be confined to one thing forever just because you weren’t born that way. As for the fear of being picked on, fuck those people. Do you know why people tease others? It’s because they’re insecure. Hurt people hurt people. When people see you being yourself and they wish they could do that, they take it out on you because in their heart, they’re jealous. You’re not the problem, they are. (If you’re afraid of being physically hurt, that is completely different and I would not advise putting your safety in jeopardy)

Start slow. While you’re still building your wardrobe, you can start slowly stepping out with small accessories and such. Add some kandi to your outfit or a tattoo choker. This is mainly to ease yourself into it. Big changes can be pretty scary and jarring, so easing into it can help you.

Have some role models. By this I mean, have people you look up to, people that are inspiration to you. Me? Some of mine here on tumblr are @xx-may4-malic3-xx , @xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx , @xxdespairfactionashtonxx , @cigsnvalentines to name a few. Theres also some old scene queens, musicians, ect. Find whoever you want. I’m reccomending this, because when you see other people doing the same as you, it makes you go “if they can do it, so can I”. Most people probably wont even mind if you send them an ask about specific things (ik i dont, i love them).

Kinda the same point, but build a community. We have a pretty good community here on tumblr. Community is the backbone to everything. Ideally it would be someone irl, but not everyone is lucky enough to have cool irl friendz.

Fake it till you make it. Nobody has to know you’re scared but you. I’m not saying get super extroverted if you’re introverted and go around exuding confidence like a lazar beam. Dance in your mirror, hype yourself up. Take cool pictures and edit them, even if you don’t post them online. Learn to walk with your head up, again SLOWLY. As you start introducing more alternative elements into your wardrobe, wear them with pride.

Be the change you want to see. What I mean is if you want people to be kinder, you be kinder. Try to compliment someone every day. People actually aren’t as rude as you think, maybe I’m an optimist, but I think the average person isn’t terrible. Complimenting other people also makes you feel good, try it. Piggybacking off this point, don’t take things so personally. I know if can be easier to harp on the negative looks and comments you got versus the good ones, but you have to look past this. There are gonna be bad apples always, but their misdeeds can blind you from the people who think you’re pretty cool. Don’t let one bad apple ruin the bunch.

Lastly, realize being cringe is okay. Not just realize it, but internalize it. What even is cringe? Define cringe… Weird? Different? Everyone is different, everyone is weird about something. As I said earlier, some people are just too scared to be themselves. In 80 years when you’re old and looking back on your life, would you rather regret not being your authentic self, or think of all the fond memories of your life? Regret is one of the worse things in life, it’s terrible. There is nobody you can be but yourself. You’re you, so be you.

Remember that this is something that can take months or years. I feel like this past year and a half I have become fully confident in my fashion. I have been dressing alternative for 5 years for reference. I hope this could help someone.

If I wasnt clear on anything, feel free to send me an ask! Im more than happy to help!!

Welcome to my Masterlist! 🗞️

Welcome to my Masterlist! Here are my main posts along with other things as well!

My 💗linktree💗

𐙚Reblogs꒱

🌸reblog 1

🌸reblog 2

🌸reblog 3

🌸reblog 4

𐙚cute finds/buys꒱

🎀cute pink clothes

🎀cute things I bought this week! 9/2/24

𐙚Start of the month꒱

💋October in’s & outs

💋September in’s & outs

𐙚Selfcare꒱

🎀September in’s & outs

𐙚Academics꒱

📓Senior Year Goals!

𐙚Romance꒱

🎀My Romantic Standards

Cute things I bought this week ! 9/2/24 ᯓ ᡣ𐭩

Hi pretties, welcome back to another post, this one will be things i bought this week just like the one from last week! This will have some images of them! Enjoy 💗

Hello kitty milk chocolate bag from 5 below 💗

Liquid star charm from 5 below

A fuzzy headband and wristbands for when I wash my face ! 🧴

Linkin park cd (which was the only one at the shop)

Starbucks pumpkin spice latte with whip cream

Some iridescent and a Marilyn Monroe stickers

That’s all for today pretties ! I hoped you enjoyed this list, I’ll try to post more like these and a lot more!

With love,

Ur ghostgirl 💋