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Wait, You Guys Actually Don't Relish Every Second Of The Time Your Friends Spare Just To Be In Your Company?

Wait, you guys actually don't relish every second of the time your friends spare just to be in your company? Do you actually see friendship as a means for a destination instead of a joyful voyage you have been blissfully bestowed by the people who genuinely believe you to be worth their time? I thought it was a joke.

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.

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it boggles me that friendship can be seen as a transaction in which you heap benefits from and not an inherently joyful experience awkwardness and boredom are of course inevitable but when they come by you can just. Do something about it. tell a joke or a fun fact you know. make weird sounds. propose a fun activity for you to partake in. show them a trick my favorite party trick to impress people personally is to put their hand on my side and dislocate my hipbone also i dont date so im not sure it would work on that context but go for it if you want to anyways. just do what makes you happy. be whimsical. talk about weird shit. you'd be surprised how many people are drawn to peculiarities this tips are for people who want friends btw. if you feel the most fulfilled when you're in your own company then! by all means!! do it!!! *Not kin related personal ♡ reblog ♡