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Just reread "Like Real People Do" by EL Massey and then gobbled up its sequel (also for a second time) while sitting beneath the trees at a campsite on Lake Tahoe.
One campsite over was my son and his (trans) husband and their queer friends, a woman and her non-binary partner. On the other side of us was a friend I met several years ago while we were both deconstructing from a brand of religion that was not "open and affirming". She's still hanging on to faith but is now an LGBTQIA ally, while I've left the faith entirely (and hopefully am the same!).
@xiaq is such a vivid and wonderful writer of queer stories, it gives me hope and fills me with joy every time I read her work.
Thinking that less than 10 years ago my reaction would have been cognitive dissonance brought about by the way my theology was in conflict with my heart just makes the experience that much sweeter.
Knowing that a character who was overtly homophobic in book one has his own journey, and where he ends up in and by book four?!? Priceless.
I want to encourage all my LGBTQIA followers (especially young people) that change is possible. Even for old people. Perhaps even for your homophobic or ambivalent parent or relative. I may no longer consider myself religious, but I still believe in redemption or at least in change.
I'm not encouraging you to stay in unsafe spaces or put up with intolerable conduct. I'm just offering a nugget of hope that change happens.
And also offering the recommendation to read @xiaq 's (EL Massey's) books, even if you aren't currently a fan of hockey!
Desperately cute. (via @buitengebieden over at the ex bird place...)
I think the hesitancy from some people to believe in medical trauma comes from a hesitancy to believe that there is a specific kind of power dynamic between medical professionals and people receiving medical care. and I think this kind of hesitancy exists when you're talking about any "caring profession". part of this is an inability to understand that someone can do harm even whilst believing they are acting in your best interests. but I think a lot of it is an inability to see disabled people as human beings who have our own opinions and desires, and therefore should be afforded autonomy over our lives and bodies. and I think if you can't understand how someone might have trauma from interactions with the medical system, you just have not been paying enough attention to how the medical system functions
you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.
this is the cutest quiz I have ever taken.
Your Result:
Blue
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Normal Quizzes for Normal People
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I have not seen this hate, but I totally agree.
I feel like the recent rise in hating on "gifted kids" on tumblr is just the creation of a strawman, which fails to address the legitimate underlying issues. at least from my perspective, it's solely punching down and unconstructive infighting.
it is a very real issue that many "(ex-)gifted kids" hold and weaponize a lot of internalized ableism (subconsciously or otherwise), not to mention how prevalent racism tends to be among white "(ex-)gifted kids". and, at the same time, attacking those people without giving any sort of constructive criticism/feedback is only going to drive them away from those they could learn from. this isn't me saying You Specifically have to play teacher for strangers, or answer endless questions from people who could just as easily engage in already-existing resources, or that you should tolerate abuse, but that outright hostility is only going to cause harm.
it feels like a lot of people hating on "gifted kids" are playing oppression olympics, to put it bluntly. we can have sane, in-depth, constructive discussions about the trauma of going through the education system while intellectually disabled without dismissing the trauma of going through the education system while labeled as "gifted".
it feels like we're doing the system's work for it. the very concept of "giftedness" pits people labeled as "gifted" against those who aren't, and vice versa, and actively encourages ableism towards other disabled people. so, the recent rise in people labeling "(ex-)gifted kids" as inherently annoying, whiny, as not having "real" problems, just feels like more of the same.
and we face the same issue, too - it's assigning moral value to what schools (and (western) culture at large) decide "intelligence" is, in addition to the inherently deeply flawed and racist concept of "iq".
Of course I am. Also autist, this seems to be tumblr thing. And I hate hate hate (pun intended) when people use absolute language to mean "most people do it". I am not a person in your world? Your world is fake. If you say "good writing wins your heart over hate", you don't speak of me? Then, ffs, say "for most of us" or "often" or something like that. But if you use absolute language, of course I take it as you also talk about me. And I am not like that.
what they don't tell you is that a well-written fic can get you to ship anything, and i mean ANYTHING. notp? not anymore. you will stay up late thinking about and crying over them for the rest of your life. characters you don't even know from a piece of media you've never engaged with? fuck it, they belong to you now. problematic ship that you loved to hate and now just love to love, that you must never tell your friends about? don't worry, ao3 knows how to keep a secret. like. a well-written fic will have you acting UP and that's a fact baby !!
I have no idea what interacting in fandoms should be like, I never participated in one, I never want to. Loner like that. But I know the meaning of words. If I give a fic a possibilty, if I open it and read it, I don't HATE it. I may not like the idea of brothers fucking, but I don't hate it. But I would never ever open a fic where a child is raped by someone who is supposed to love them and this childe likes this. Like - no. I hate this idea. Hating means NO. Not doing it.
what they don't tell you is that a well-written fic can get you to ship anything, and i mean ANYTHING. notp? not anymore. you will stay up late thinking about and crying over them for the rest of your life. characters you don't even know from a piece of media you've never engaged with? fuck it, they belong to you now. problematic ship that you loved to hate and now just love to love, that you must never tell your friends about? don't worry, ao3 knows how to keep a secret. like. a well-written fic will have you acting UP and that's a fact baby !!
Then you really don't hate this ship or whatever =) If you leave the door open, if you think it's possibly interesting, this is not hate.
what they don't tell you is that a well-written fic can get you to ship anything, and i mean ANYTHING. notp? not anymore. you will stay up late thinking about and crying over them for the rest of your life. characters you don't even know from a piece of media you've never engaged with? fuck it, they belong to you now. problematic ship that you loved to hate and now just love to love, that you must never tell your friends about? don't worry, ao3 knows how to keep a secret. like. a well-written fic will have you acting UP and that's a fact baby !!
eeee ... why would I ever read a fic and find out how well it is written, if it's ship I hate? I don't open it. It does not even show up, because I use "exlude ... " feature. In old times, in fanfiction.net it has happened. I have loved wincest stories and such. But now? What are you talking about?
what they don't tell you is that a well-written fic can get you to ship anything, and i mean ANYTHING. notp? not anymore. you will stay up late thinking about and crying over them for the rest of your life. characters you don't even know from a piece of media you've never engaged with? fuck it, they belong to you now. problematic ship that you loved to hate and now just love to love, that you must never tell your friends about? don't worry, ao3 knows how to keep a secret. like. a well-written fic will have you acting UP and that's a fact baby !!
Please remember your favorite writers are attention whores with a praise kink, they need validation to survive. Feed them comments and reblogs to save a life.
Everyone, please meet Sheila. Sheila is the cleanest, nicest, vault toilet I’ve ever encountered and she is conveniently located at a trailhead that’s a quarter mile from our camp site. Thanks to Sheila, I have not had to poop in the woods this week. All hail Sheila.
After my suicide I decided that everything I do is great bećause if I were dead, I would not have done those things. Even badly - I would not have done those things at all. It was almost 10 years ago, but I still count every day even my smallest deeds and think how great I am for having done SO MUCH MORE than I would, had my suicide really succeeded.
Just in case no one has told you today
I am proud of you. I don't care how small of a step you took. Maybe you got out of bed or brushed your teeth. Drank water or ate something. Did you water your plants or care for pets? Amazing! If you're caring for children, or someone else important in your life, you're so admirable. Maybe you just cleaned a room or did laundry. You could've read or created some kind of art. You could have done none of these things. And I'm still happy you're here with us again. You conqured the troubles thus far. You've kicked their ass. You're the winner. And I know when the challange arrises again, you'll succeed. Because you're capable and strong. And you aren't alone.
One of the most frustrating things about ADHD is just the way that you absolutely cannot trust future you.
Like, I look at something and think "Oh, I'll deal with that later" like, no I won't. I absolutely won't. I should just do it now while I'm there. I should make plans to do something... Oh wait, will I have the energy to do that??? I was talking with a friend who told me I should come over for tea sometime, which I absolutely would love to do, but I said I was too tired. "Too tired for tea?" she asks. Like, no, I would love tea, but I'm too tired to know that I'll have the energy to get to the place and the only thing I hate worse than not doing things is being flaky on my friends.
Everyone, please meet Sheila. Sheila is the cleanest, nicest, vault toilet I’ve ever encountered and she is conveniently located at a trailhead that’s a quarter mile from our camp site. Thanks to Sheila, I have not had to poop in the woods this week. All hail Sheila.
No citizens of any country are somehow inherently bad or evil because of their government. Full stop. That includes Russia citizens, Israeli citizens, Palestinian citizens, Chinese citizens, Iranian citizens, North Korean citizens, etc.
Everyone in this world is just living their lives, each with their own complex needs and desires and interests and emotions. They all have hobbies and friends and families and favorite foods. They all have their own motivations and varying political opinions and views on their governments. They all weigh the risks of standing out or speaking up and they all make their own decisions about that.
They all fear the same in times of danger. They all feel grief and pain and terror the same. They all love and hate and bleed the same.
They are people. They are no different from anyone else, they are not monsters or caricatures or nameless bodies in videos. Complexity and humanity are not exclusive to your country, to people like you.
In Prince's funky name, amen.