What Can A Female Character Do Without Being Criticised Mercilessly? [insp]

What can a female character do without being criticised mercilessly? [insp]

tiktok is ass

i've realized that tiktok is a fucking atrocious place, especially because most queer people there are OBSESSED with gender politics. as a butch dude, there are probably more people that have said my identity isn't "valid" or whatever the fuck than people who even care at all in real life. no one CARES. at least on tumblr most people know to block and move on, or just ignore people. people on tiktok just really like ruining peoples days and its fucking annoying.

Okay, I’m just gonna say it: I find it really interesting how “groomer” became the new exclusionist buzzword about ten seconds after it became the hot new right-wing slur for queer folks.

It’s not that the accusations are new - they’ve been calling everyone they disagree with pedos for ages now. But the shift in language? That’s extremely recent. And, IMO, revealing.

They’re freebasing fascism and they don’t even know it.

can we talk about how normalized sanism is?? the fact that i can go on practically any social media site and instantly find posts talking about how people with cluster b disorders are all evil and inhuman and should be abused without question, or fakeclaiming anyone who talks about their symptoms at all while dictating what mental illness really looks like and shaming people for being open, or spreading false information about psychiatric hospitals and telling people that they're psychotic and need help because they act in a way that seems outside the norm, or claiming that something is a mental illness as a way to discredit it, or sharing and praising pieces of media that contain ableist/sanist caricatures because "it's not that big a deal", and the fact that the people saying these things are rarely challenged and most often praised is infuriating and fucked up. when people say shit like "women are inherently inferior and lack the proper brain capacity to really know what they want", generally people regard the person saying that as a sexist incel jerk, even if those ideas are highly prevalent in our society. people recognize it as an issue. so why the fuck can someone say "people with npd are incapable of human emotions and incapable of ever getting help and all they know how to do is abuse and manipulate people and you should never show anyone with npd care, sympathy or basic kindness" and all the comments say shit like "so true!" "this!" or "sounds like my ex husband🙄" when these are people who are facing constant human rights violations globally?? like im no professional psychologist but i think violently oppressing people and violating their human rights en masse is NOT going to be beneficial to their mental health! and this isn't just online either. ive heard and seen so much of this shit at my school and i have to fight to get anyone to recognize that it's discrimination. i guess what im trying to say is treat sanism and ableism in general (though this post focusses on the former) like the discrimination it fucking is. our human rights are being violated every god damn day. this is oppression. this is bigotry. this is discrimination.

the first lesbian i ever knew irl when i was younger was my moms friend who was an ftm lesbian, who did not identify as a woman in any way but fully identified as a lesbian, and was in a triad with two other women who fully accepted him for who he was.

we have been around for a long time, and will continue to be here long after you immature box obsessed baby queers have burned out. being a lesbian is about loving women and being queer, if you can't understand that congratulations on drinking the terf juice.

also its okay to be wrong as long as you don't fucking double down when confronted with the facts like. if you see this post and want to actually interact in good faith with bi or mspec lesbians and lesbians who dont identify as women or "woman-lite", then please do! that's the mature response!

i just want yall to look inside yourselves and really try to figure out why you feel like you should have control over how other people identify. thats the opposite of what being queer means, and i'm not even angry at people who think this way it legitimately just makes me sad?