Lesrdicat - 💗

eating him

eating him

tiktok is ass

i've realized that tiktok is a fucking atrocious place, especially because most queer people there are OBSESSED with gender politics. as a butch dude, there are probably more people that have said my identity isn't "valid" or whatever the fuck than people who even care at all in real life. no one CARES. at least on tumblr most people know to block and move on, or just ignore people. people on tiktok just really like ruining peoples days and its fucking annoying.

ARGYLE

❝ You got me stressed out and it's not even my girlfriend..”𑁦｡.

I think we need to separate disorder with diagnoses. I get that we're not far enough along in recognizing the harm of psychiatry that we will replace disorder framework with less pathologized labels

But we can make shift of disorder =/= diagnosis.

Diagnosis is legal, it's what labels the government gives you to impact your life in some way. Generally, unless you absolutely need some specific service that you absolutely cannot get without a diagnosis You Do Not Fucking Want One.

You should NEVER seek a diagnosis to feel validation for your experiences, that's making the irreversible decision to giving the government crucial information about your mental health. If the disorder is stigmatized a diagnosis strips you of your human rights.

It is literally just a legal acknowledgement of experiences you already have.

So yeah when you talk about disorders don't use the term diagnosis interchangeably, stop pushing therapy on everyone you're giving self help advice to, and stop prioritizing professional diagnosis as being more valid than alternatives.

This is how you get people killed and I'm being wholly serious. Therapy IS a gamble on safety for anyone south of mild depression and anxiety and you might not want to admit that but it's the truth. Stop telling people they have to play russian roulette with therapists to recover, please.

can we talk about how normalized sanism is?? the fact that i can go on practically any social media site and instantly find posts talking about how people with cluster b disorders are all evil and inhuman and should be abused without question, or fakeclaiming anyone who talks about their symptoms at all while dictating what mental illness really looks like and shaming people for being open, or spreading false information about psychiatric hospitals and telling people that they're psychotic and need help because they act in a way that seems outside the norm, or claiming that something is a mental illness as a way to discredit it, or sharing and praising pieces of media that contain ableist/sanist caricatures because "it's not that big a deal", and the fact that the people saying these things are rarely challenged and most often praised is infuriating and fucked up. when people say shit like "women are inherently inferior and lack the proper brain capacity to really know what they want", generally people regard the person saying that as a sexist incel jerk, even if those ideas are highly prevalent in our society. people recognize it as an issue. so why the fuck can someone say "people with npd are incapable of human emotions and incapable of ever getting help and all they know how to do is abuse and manipulate people and you should never show anyone with npd care, sympathy or basic kindness" and all the comments say shit like "so true!" "this!" or "sounds like my ex husband🙄" when these are people who are facing constant human rights violations globally?? like im no professional psychologist but i think violently oppressing people and violating their human rights en masse is NOT going to be beneficial to their mental health! and this isn't just online either. ive heard and seen so much of this shit at my school and i have to fight to get anyone to recognize that it's discrimination. i guess what im trying to say is treat sanism and ableism in general (though this post focusses on the former) like the discrimination it fucking is. our human rights are being violated every god damn day. this is oppression. this is bigotry. this is discrimination.