Sometimes You Say Or Do Bad Things While Youre In An Awful Mental Place. Sometimes You Say Things That

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

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20 Followers

Ahh, I have 20 followers. It's nice because it's the first rounded number after 10 haha. Thanks y'all, I promise to upload more Fred's Files by Wednesday to make up for the lack of it.

Sorry, I just got discouraged for a bit, but then ten of you followed me in just a couple of days, so I feel like I have to post something new now xD

internalized racism can happen at any time, and un-noticeably so. it most often happens when a child is young. the child happens to admire or find the main character of a favorite show appealing. and the character is white. they start to develop desires like having blue eyes, straight pointy noses, corkscrew curly blonde hair, freckles, etc. when children are young, they’re usually not very conscious of racism nonetheless affiliate it with their favorite tv show. and this is why representation matters in every aspect of the world. you see posters of white models and white everything and you start wanting to change into something white– something that isn’t you. children start to realize that they can’t be models because they are not light skinned or have straight noses, because they can’t be the focus cause they’re not white and charming– that’s what they’ve learned. it’s what they’ve grown up with. internalized racism is scary because it happens without you knowing. it makes you insecure and that’s one of the main problems of PoC around the world. this is why we need PoC representation.

ME TRYING TO TALK TO NORMAL PEOPLE ABOUT THIS MOVIE ME ‘TRYING’ TO HIDE MY POWER LEVEL