I Wish You Kinder, Softer Days That Put Your Heart At Ease

i wish you kinder, softer days that put your heart at ease

“Babies only cry if they are hungry, need changing, or need to be picked up”

Lies

Babies (and small children) also cry for reasons such as:

1. “I am tired and that makes me angry”

2. “I scared myself with a fart”

3. “You are the wrong parent”

4. “I ran into something with my face”

5. “I’m facing the opposite direction then the one I want to”

6. “I fell asleep in one place and woke up somewhere completely different”

7. “I am a very small person in a very big world”

8. “I got scared because YOU farted”

Babies have more then 3 states of being and sometimes you just have to hold them and bounce them gently while saying solemnly “yes it is very hard to be a baby” because frankly it is

Woah

a baby can be born right now at 12:00, on a wednesday, august 24 in new jersey while another baby is also born in the exact same moment but they are born 9:00, on a tuesday, august 23 in california, these babies that are born at the same moment are technically because of time zones, a concept that we created ourselves, born “hours” apart even though really they are born at the same moment just not the same “time”, one will be considered older even though in actuality they are the same

There'll be a moment when you realise you're 27 when yesterday you were just 17; and you wouldn't be able to tell how a decade passed away and your life got divided into before and afters. The fury of youth will subdue and nothing will really change but everything will feel different when you look at old photographs and blurry videos taken on cheap mobile phones. Scents will remind you of childhood and certain friends you don't talk to anymore, hangouts will become reunions and mom's burnt pie will become the best food you ever had. And I know on some days you won't be able to show anything of those 10 years but I hope you remember to breathe, and let go of the knot in your chest. I hope you go out in the sun and live a little, because tomorrow is 37.

Edit- I added the visualizer for this piece on my YT, check it out here

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The Flesh I Burned

Enneagram Fears

If we are afraid that there is something fundamentally wrong with us or that who we are is not enough or good enough, it is likely that we are a 1.

If we are afraid of rejection, being needy, and not being loved, it is likely we are a 2.

If we are afraid of failure, it is likely we are a 3.

If we are afraid of being abandoned, of our sadness, and of feeling lost, it is likely we are a 4.

If we are afraid of entanglements and of losing what we have, it is likely we are a 5.

If we are afraid of everyone and everything to one degree or another, if fear itself in a nameless, faceless way is the driving force of our psyche, it is likely we are a 6.

If we are afraid of boredom, of grunt work, and of being exposed as a charlatan, it is likely we are a 7.

If we are afraid of being weak and not being in charge or on top of things, it is likely we are an 8.

If we are afraid of creating conflict by making ourselves or our needs too obvious, it is likely that we are a 9. 

- Sandra Maitri, The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues