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It's important to remember that, no matter what you were told growing up or whatever someone might be trying to convince you now, fighting is not a normal part of any relationship.

Differences in opinions are normal. Bad days are normal. Moments where you're irritated and tired and want space are normal. Having to sit down and talk something out is normal.

Shouting matches, insults, threats, arguments that last for hours, passive agression, purposely trying to hurt one another, these things are NOT normal or healthy.

This goes for every relationship. Family, romance, friends, peers, there is no kind of relationship where trying to tear the other person apart is okay.

Abusers will swear to you that it's impossible to have a relationship without blowing up at each other on the regular.

They are wrong.

i wish you kinder, softer days that put your heart at ease

There'll be a moment when you realise you're 27 when yesterday you were just 17; and you wouldn't be able to tell how a decade passed away and your life got divided into before and afters. The fury of youth will subdue and nothing will really change but everything will feel different when you look at old photographs and blurry videos taken on cheap mobile phones. Scents will remind you of childhood and certain friends you don't talk to anymore, hangouts will become reunions and mom's burnt pie will become the best food you ever had. And I know on some days you won't be able to show anything of those 10 years but I hope you remember to breathe, and let go of the knot in your chest. I hope you go out in the sun and live a little, because tomorrow is 37.

Edit- I added the visualizer for this piece on my YT, check it out here

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The Flesh I Burned

Enneagram Fears

If we are afraid that there is something fundamentally wrong with us or that who we are is not enough or good enough, it is likely that we are a 1.

If we are afraid of rejection, being needy, and not being loved, it is likely we are a 2.

If we are afraid of failure, it is likely we are a 3.

If we are afraid of being abandoned, of our sadness, and of feeling lost, it is likely we are a 4.

If we are afraid of entanglements and of losing what we have, it is likely we are a 5.

If we are afraid of everyone and everything to one degree or another, if fear itself in a nameless, faceless way is the driving force of our psyche, it is likely we are a 6.

If we are afraid of boredom, of grunt work, and of being exposed as a charlatan, it is likely we are a 7.

If we are afraid of being weak and not being in charge or on top of things, it is likely we are an 8.

If we are afraid of creating conflict by making ourselves or our needs too obvious, it is likely that we are a 9. 

- Sandra Maitri, The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues

“you are sometimes helpless / and it makes me forget the ways you hurt me.”

— — Gwen Benaway, from day/break

HOUSE OF MOUSE (2001-2003).

If video game characters lived together

“Doctors who spent years studying the human body”

Do you mean doctors who spent years learning about abled white cis men’s bodies

(via heyladycat)

It’s funny that we use skeletons as symbols of core human anatomy when our bones are just the scaffolding for something else.

do you ever see someone in some quiet intimate moment and suddenly love them so desperately you feel like you’re dying

#like when they pass a mirror and make a face and mess with their hair a little #or when you hear someone singing in their car with the windows rolled up as they drive past you #i don’t know how to express this i just. people are people and it makes me so sad and filled up sometimes

anyways, there’s a difference between not wanting kids, not wanting to be around kids, and being a hateful little imp who creates a personality on hating a living creature on the basis that they need care, attention, and are not capable of expressing themselves in a way that would make that care and attention a little easier. it’s not cute, it’s not funny, and it directly affects the way children are treated, which affects how they view themselves as they grow up.

treating children as a burden is evil, point blank period. a child can never be a burden. they have no choice but to depend on their caretakers or they will die. if you don’t want to have the responsibility of taking care of a child, don’t fucking have kids. don’t agree to take care of someone else’s kids. don’t go places where kids are welcome and frequent. unlike them, you have a choice where you go, who you hang around, what you do in your day to day life.

children are experiencing the exact same world we are with absolutely no reference for what the heck is going on. to treat that as an imposition on others is an act of abuse, at the end of the day, and it definitely makes you a bad person.

One of my least favorite mental illness things is "hungry but dont feel like eating" and its companions "hungry but all the food in the house is Illegal," "hungry but can't make anything," and "hungry, want to eat, but why bother"

I mad agree with this.

Holy shi-

rb this with ur opinion on this shade of pink:

Woah

a baby can be born right now at 12:00, on a wednesday, august 24 in new jersey while another baby is also born in the exact same moment but they are born 9:00, on a tuesday, august 23 in california, these babies that are born at the same moment are technically because of time zones, a concept that we created ourselves, born “hours” apart even though really they are born at the same moment just not the same “time”, one will be considered older even though in actuality they are the same

relatable

“Babies only cry if they are hungry, need changing, or need to be picked up”

Lies

Babies (and small children) also cry for reasons such as:

1. “I am tired and that makes me angry”

2. “I scared myself with a fart”

3. “You are the wrong parent”

4. “I ran into something with my face”

5. “I’m facing the opposite direction then the one I want to”

6. “I fell asleep in one place and woke up somewhere completely different”

7. “I am a very small person in a very big world”

8. “I got scared because YOU farted”

Babies have more then 3 states of being and sometimes you just have to hold them and bounce them gently while saying solemnly “yes it is very hard to be a baby” because frankly it is