Hi! Im Sorry If This Is Triggering In Any Way But I Was Wondering If Its Normal For A Parent To Get Mad

Hi! I’m sorry if this is triggering in any way but I was wondering if it’s normal for a parent to get mad if you try to say that you’re struggling in any way? (like emotionally struggling or being really stressed for example) Also I hope you’ve been doing ok

Parents getting mad at you when you are struggling is abusive. Especially if they make you feel like you have to apologize to them for feelings you can’t control. This is the main way my mom abused me. Some of the Classic™️ things they do is…

Try to put the blame if you. (You’re just being crazy/stupid/ over reacting. It’s your fault)

Try to put the blame on them so you feel guilty and end up apologizing (So It’s all my fault/ so I’m a failure as a parent)

Invalidate your feelings. (Just get over it/people have it worse/you’re overreacting)

Diminish or discredit you based on age. (You’re being such a baby/you’re too old to be making this big of a fuss)

I hope this helps

I don’t know who I am anymore...but did I really even know who I was?

How do you deal with the "calm before the storm" phase? Y'know, after something happened but then everything is oddly calm and it's terrifying because you still get the nightmares from it but it hasn't happened in a while and you think you're going crazy? I'm ready to call CPS as soon as the storm comes back (I have a plan) but I feel like I'm making up what happened and it's killing me not to know if I'm over reacting or not.

calm before the storm. What i like to call it Hurricane prep

-Move your dresser to near the door so you don’t have to move it far when you need to block the door. 

-horde waterbottles (preferably metal so they keep your water at a cool temperature. they also don’t crackle when you drink them)

-Blankets just in case they decide to shut off the heat in your room

-Jackets for the same reason

-Food. My recommendations: trail mix, granola bars, kit kat, apples. Anything you can find that won’t go bad. Cans are tempting but require a can opener, a place to drain the liquid and in most cases heat. 

-Drinks. Water is going to get boring. If you can get those powdered drink mixes or water flavors. I keep some minute made lemonade in a small bag. There are also that Mio (i think) little drink flavorings that come in a little squirty tube? those are good. they have ones with caffeine, vitamins, and electrolytes. 

-First aid. just in case

-knives forks spoons. Go to a fast food restaurant. Order whatever. take double a few sets of those plastic utensils.

-money just in case

-YOUR MEDS!! If you have any. Just in case they deny you your medicine, take a few days worth if you can. 

That's all I have. Followers, you are more than welcome to add your own tips. 

“Please please please

Please just make this pain stop, please just let me die

Please I don’t want to survive anymore

I can’t survive anymore

Please I don’t want to live anymore

I can’t live anymore

Please I don’t want to be here any longer

I can’t be here any longer.”

17.10.18

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