Imagine, After Noticing You Having An Off Day, Your F/O Pulling You Away From Your Room To Look Outside

Imagine, after noticing you having an off day, your F/O pulling you away from your room to look outside at the stars. Imagine how tender their hands feel on top of yours, gripping firmly enough to tell you that they won’t let go of you but softly enough that it isn’t overbearing. Imagine pointing out constellations with them (if you know any) or making some up for the fun of it! Seeing the stars reflected in your eyes and a genuine smile on your face for the first time all day (or even longer) was certainly worth the trip outside.

Me writing about me from my pov: She was a little pretty, and a little kind, and a little plain and quiet. She was a little of a lot of things, but a whole lot of nothing else. 

Me writing about me from my f/o’s pov: She was so unimaginably angelic, it was a miracle heaven hadn’t opened to snap her up where she belonged. She was strikingly kind, and the air of peace in her eyes made one feel calm just looking at her. It was frankly hard to speak to her, if only because it made one feel horribly flustered to do so.

Villain f/os...so so good...they take over the world for you then kiss kiss you goodnight. Tell them somebody hurt you and theyll immediately comfort you and then chase whoever hurt you. Have them be a strong leader or one of the most feared, who kisses you at night and wont let you go while sleeping because clingy and protective...villain f/o's...

imagine your f/o letting you cry into their shirt, their arms strong and safe around you as they gently brush hair from your face and whisper soft little shh, shh, it's okay. i got yous ♡ imagine them soothingly rubbing your back and cradling you against them for as long as you need

kissing prompts

kissing your lover's knuckle before a dance

during the dance's climax, you and your lover lock eyes, and your lips met

place a kiss on your lover's nape after taking off their necklace

kissing your lover in the shower, water running on your face

your lover leans in for a kiss, but they just kiss you tenderly and pull back to see your reaction, only then to crash their lips against yours passionately

alternatively, your lover places a small kiss on the corner of your mouth before their mouth lands on yours hungrily

kissing your lover in a completely dark room, their hands in yours. no light will get in, it's only us here

your lover kisses you goodbyes as usual, but when they start going towards the door, you run towards them and give them another deep kiss

your first passionate kiss with a person. you touch your lips absently, feeling the phantom of your lover's lips

your lover ate all the caramel tartlets, so you pushed them on the couch to jokingly kiss them, and god their lips are sweet

kissing in the rain, where your hair is an entangled mess, but you both don't care. you have each other and that's enough (bonus point if it was during a thunderstorm and you cup your lover's face to make them look at you)

imagine this you had covered your lover against the enemy's arrows while they were unconscious. your back is scarred and you tried to hide it from them. but then your lover discovered it and they go feral like "why did you do this, i am not worth it" and they proceed to land soft kissed on each of your scars.

on perfectionism

There's a difference between striving for self-improvement and being a perfectionist. Working hard to do a good job or to be a better person is laudable. Being a perfectionist makes those things harder to accomplish.

The goal of being "perfect" isn't to improve, it's to avoid shame. If you're aiming for "perfect" instead of "better" then you're probably full of self-doubt and constantly worried about disappointing yourself and/or others. These negative emotions make it harder to take risks and try new things. They make it harder to experiment or to reach beyond your current skill level.

Perfectionists also spend their time focused on the end result. This means that they lose a lot of learning during the process or journey they took on their way to finishing. It also means they can fall into a trap of procrastination. If it's never finished then they'll never be judged for doing a bad job.

If you have perfectionist tendencies, you probably learned them from those around you. Either they are perfectionists and expect you to be one too or their actions pressured you into trying to be perfect in order to escape some form of pain.

Are you constantly being told that you're not good enough? That the things you do aren't done well enough? Are you punished severely for every mistake that you make? Are people always comparing you to someone else who's "better" than you are and asking why you aren't like them?

Perfectionism is a way of protecting yourself from those kinds of attacks and the way they make you feel.

Getting out of the loop of perfectionism takes a lot of time and practice and might also require the help of a therapist. But there are some things you can try to help you ease out of it, at least a little bit.

Give yourself the positive feedback you aren't getting from others. Positive self-talk and encouragement can counter some of the negativity you're otherwise being exposed to.

Allow yourself to make mistakes in areas of your life where those negative people aren't involved. Perhaps even do it in complete privacy at first. Make a mistake and feel the shame and disappointment, but follow that up with positive self-talk. Congratulate yourself on taking a step away from perfectionism. Find something beautiful or funny in the mistake. Realize that you're still okay, even though you aren't perfect.

And above all, remind yourself that your value doesn't come from being perfect. It doesn't come from the things you produce or the actions you do to support others. Your value is inherent and immutable. You're worthy because you exist. You are here and you are wonderful and you are loved. ❤️