Affinity

Affinity

I talk about affinity a lot both here and on @trustedcompanionship, but I’ve never really defined it. That’s partially because I’m very resistant to defining it– it’s a lived experience and a feeling first, and a piece of terminology second. It’s inherently resistant to the tendency to divide up queer experiences into easily compartmentalized boxes that resemble DSM-V diagnostic criteria more than they do descriptions of the way an individual person sees themself and the world. Affinity as a term and as a paradigm for describing connections is inherently fluid. 

That being said, affinity is any connection, desire for connection, or feeling of closeness that doesn’t feel like it fits under attraction, or that an individual does not feel comfortable describing as attraction. “It’s easy to talk to you” is affinity. “We have so much in common” is affinity. “I would follow you anywhere” is affinity. “I want to explore different kinds of intimacy with you” is affinity. Many other things can be affinity as well.

I do not want to be the arbiter of what counts or does not count as affinity. I didn’t invent this feeling and do not have the right to control how others experience it. Please respect my boundaries and do not ask me if what you’re feeling “counts” as affinity– only you can figure that out. If you don’t feel comfortable or right calling something attraction, you are welcome to use affinity as a shorthand to describe what you feel. 

speaking of toyhouse, would anyone be interested in getting an/some invite codes? I can generate quite a few, feel free to comment or dm me abt it :o

One last time

achillean, genderfaun, and angled aroace icons of lloyd garmadon and morro from lego ninjago! i also totally forgot about the image limit, so angled aroace will be in a reblog attached to this post!

all screenshots are from the show (excluding the drawings i made 😋). all images are transparent, and all i ask is for credit in the correct areas.

do NOT repost my art, by the way! thank you very much :].

achillean

genderfaun

Ooh yes please!

speaking of toyhouse, would anyone be interested in getting an/some invite codes? I can generate quite a few, feel free to comment or dm me abt it :o

mlp pixels/emotes!! ☆〜（ゝ。∂）