I Haven't Seen Dancing Pumpkin Guy ONCE This Year, Are You Guys Okay?

I haven't seen dancing pumpkin guy ONCE this year, are you guys okay?

If I sat down and thought for a minute, I could probably remember my daily class schedules from every school year from 6th to 12th grade, plus at least some of the teachers names, plus some of my college semesters, plus the middle names and birthdays of old friends who I haven’t spoken to in almost a decade

But I could not for a second tell you anything useful that I learned from my university degree or what thing my parents told me to do and are now mad about, I don’t remember to do housework or which day of the week is trash day (even though it’s the same day every week)

I even forgot what I was writing in the middle of that last sentence

The amount of goddamn times in my life I have been told I “just didn’t listen” or have “selective hearing” when I genuinely don’t remember things is frankly astounding

we are so ableist about memory. people with good memory take for granted the fact that they can recall as much as they can, and use that to taunt, guilt and threaten people with memory issues. many neurotypes and mental illnesses cause memory lapses. traumatic brain injuries can cause memory lapses. brain cancer can cause memory lapses.

even if your memory is good, it's not right to guilt someone because they can't remember something. trust me, people with memory problems are desperately trying to remember: it's just that we literally can't. it is a very literal "i can't remember".